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Nov 18, 2011, 03:05 PM
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 Gonna just put it out on the table....I took in my daughter and her family Things are on at a breaking point.........It's getting to me I just can't put them out they have kids and I don't want to be responsibly for them if the kids were to get hurt....So keep them here after all I seem to be a nobody to them...........So to fight I use my ED for power they know what happen before so it seems to get there attention.............You can tell me what I need to do or should do...............Right I know easier said than done.............Rehab tought me the boundries just haven't applied them...........
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Nov 18, 2011, 03:12 PM
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time for the talk then and tough love....pick a time for them to be out...and stick to it...its simple but not simple of course and it hurts. I know...been there ......I had al-anon which kept me strong, and I was able to after a while easily set boundries and easily adhere to them...once I did that the rules were set, and all went well......kids know now exactly what I will do or will not do...there is not even a question.
If you have a therapist this is an excellent thing to bring up and work on in therapy. You will need a lot of support yourself to get through this!!! Thinking of you!
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Nov 18, 2011, 03:25 PM
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What do you mean, you seem to be a nobody to them? Like everybody is running wild? So this is why they have problems and had to move in with you to begin with? So how could you help them change the way they do things now, so they are easier to live with, and have a better chance of continued success. Can you do those house rule & chore charts like they had on the Nanny 911 shows? You may be outnumbered but you are still the boss.
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Nov 19, 2011, 06:51 PM
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I haven't a clue what to do.....I always Have my family's back now they don't for me even my husband was speechless in the argument......It was so messed up She started telly me how me and her don't ever talk. Her boyfriend that had babies with her don't even get off his but to do anything it's like we owe it to them. I mean i'm dumb founded really. Imagine that?
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