[Beanbag0]

My parents are taking me out to lunch tomorrow and they know I hate eating out... I have such anxiety eating in front of my dad... I eat slowly and I feel like he judges everything about me... I have looked up the menu and that has helped me a bit but I'm still so nervous! I like to make my own food and be in control but I can't be now! I'm so anxious...

[waggiedog]

Hello there again dear Beanbag0. Oh yes, I sure sure do KNOW this huge problem hunny because I feel the same way. The only was I can possibily deal with eating out is if I have salads. I usually order side salads, but instead of one I order two and I say they are in place of the main meal. So while my Dad has a ''proper'' dinner, I have the side salads. Most places will do side salads. I get really anxious the few days before I know we are going out but I'm alright in the end. The thing is my family have lived with my dreadful eating disorder for 33 years, so they don't comment. I deal with it by telling myself that I can work off the calories in the week after, and also1 meal is not gonna spoil my life!! HUGS. XXXXXXXXXXXX

[eskielover]

I always have eaten slow my whole life......I still am always the last one eating even at the age of 61.

My favorite foods when I go out are soup & salad....just a cup of soup not the whole bowl......& I figure it gives me reasonable nutrition but isn't that costly in the weight that will be gained. I have to admit now, that there are times when I have thoroughly enjoyed going out with friends & ordering a huge steak & totally enjoyed every bite of it....usually always take home a doggie bag when I eat anything other than soup & salad because I get full so fast that while everyone else is eating their whole dinner, I maybe eat 1/4 & take the rest home....usually the left overs are good for another 4 meals.....so it's ok......justify a lot that way.

But feeling like you are under the scrutiny of your father while being out to eat.....don't think that would be pleasant.....

Let us know how it goes

[Beanbag0]

Ok, the lunch is over thank goodness... I'm so tired though and just want to sleep. It's so hard to pretend to be ok but at least it's over now. Thanx for the support waggiedog and eskielover, means a lot x

[maddnessreturns]

I'm glad you made it through lunch. Eating out is very difficult. Good job!

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[spondiferous]

I hate eating around my family too, all of them. Each and every one of them has a food problem. They're all on some kind of a crazy diet. I can't handle it. It makes me nervous and whenever I do get around them I just want to eat nothing so that they won't get on my case for actually needing to eat. I'm glad you got through it...here's to another day.

[Beanbag0]

And my dad is so fixated on his body and the image of every person in my family. It is tiring... Not everyone needs to be prefect like he believes he is! Most of the time I have to sneak food to my brother because my dad gets angry of he eats junk... He is only 13! And if my dad keeps commenting on his weight then my Bro is going to land up having eating problems like I do... I am so protective over him and so worried about my dad's comments affecting his life like they have mine.

[spondiferous]

Yeah my mom is like that. She has cancer right now so my younger sister, who is trying to recover from anorexia by eating when she's hungry (which is what we're supposed to do anyway) is living with her to help take care of her. And every single time she eats anything my mom is on her case about eating. Insinuating (she's passive aggressive and doesn't often come right to the point in actual words) that my sister is disgusting for "needing to eat" and that the reason all four of us kids have eating disorders is because we need to smarten up and get our **** together. Riiiiight. I grew up with that my whole life. My brother and I got it the worst. My other two sisters are exercise junkies who fluctuate between B/P and starvation, and all-out binging out of starvation. My brother is now an exercise junkie too. And my dad, who is in his 60s, is on some weird Atkins-type diet. So eating carbs around him is committing a cardinal sin. Sigh. When did everything get so messed up?