My daughter is very thin and I know that she weighs herself everyday, she also weighs everything before she will cook it, she will just eat like a jacket potato or pasta and that will do her for the day. She also looks at the calories in everything.

A couple of months back she had a pizza and of course the next day she weighed herself and was really upset because she had gained a little weight.

I was at my sisters a couple of weeks ago and told her of my worries about her, apparently my daughter told my niece that she has made herself sick after eating, I then called my doctors who did see my daughter right away, the doc said that she does have an eating disorder and has referred her for help I think to the mental health team which is about a 6 week waiting list.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((Lavender.)))) I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I'm glad you've discovered this before it was too late. Hopefully things will get better now How does she feel about this?

[unaluna]

I just started reading a new book, "Hunger for Connection" about eating disorders. Im hoping it will help me. I will let you know. It talks about the "perseverant" personality, which definitely describes me.

[eskielover]

There is so much that underlies ED's. They are not just about wanting to be thin or being addicted to eating. Unless those underlying issues are dealt with the problem follows through life.

Obviously low weight needs to be physically dealt with immediately.....but therapy is needed to even figure out the underlying issues that the ED'S tend to mask.

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

((((Lavender.)))) I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I'm glad you've discovered this before it was too late. Hopefully things will get better now How does she feel about this?

She wasn't happy at first that I spoke to the doctor without her knowledge, but I knew she needed the help.

Thanks everyone for the replies.

[downandlonely]

Sorry to hear about your daughter. I'm glad you saw the signs and are getting her help. That sucks that the waiting list is 6 weeks though.

How old is your daughter?

Originally Posted by downandlonely

Sorry to hear about your daughter. I'm glad you saw the signs and are getting her help. That sucks that the waiting list is 6 weeks though.

How old is your daughter?

Thanks, she is 25. Looking back I think she’s been like this for several years.

[LiteraryLark]

My T recommended me researching a new eating disorder called AFRID...I don't have it, but it sounds like your daughter may have this...this eating disorder has only been recognized five years ago. It's basically a "picky-eater disorder". If your doctor didn't take your concerns seriously, find a new doctor.

[Blueberrybook]

I'm sorry. It definitely sounds like an ED to me. Can you get her to a doctor or psychiatrist or therapist or have a family member help you out with convincing her? If she is so thin and reading calories, weighting stuff, making herself sick, that has ED written all over it.

With eating disorders, the sooner you get help, the better IMO. I got to the point where my entire identity was wrapped up in the ED. I was the girl with anorexia, and I did not want to change or think about who I'd be otherwise. I basically obsessed about food and exercise 24/7. I remember I even had this one dream where I ate an entire chocolate cake, and I woke up sweating, in an extreme panic, thinking I needed to go throw up, it seemed so real.

EDs can start affecting the heart and electrolyte balance very quickly, so she should get that checked out ASAP. One year without a period and 2 years extremely engrossed in the ED left me with lifelong osteopenia. The bone loss can be reversed a bit usually before age 30, but not much after that.

[Blueberrybook]

I forgot to ask, does your daughter have depression, PTSD, bipolar? Or do they run in her family? Issues like that usually accompany EDs, and it is important to address those too. My bipolar really manifested fully around age 25, 26, which is a very common age for bipolar to come to light (though it does happen sooner for some and later for others).