[InACorner]

going to visit my families house for christmas...not good...she is continiously telling me i am fat....so now i am on a diet...i have to go there looking so good that she cant say anything....my diet includes special K ....slim fast health shakes...diet sugar free jello...those special K granola bars...really good things to snack on..impressive nutritional value....sugar free light cranberry juice....splenda...and light pregresso soup...the one that has 0 points in weight watchers....im keeping my coffee cuz its a dieretic...lets hope i loose some weight....i am 122 pounds and 5 foot....its a normal range....but if my mom would see me she would rip me apart she saw me at 130 pounds and said i needed to lose alot of weight, plus when i called her alittle over a week ago she said she was 110 pounds...and she is 5'5 so that means i have alot to live up to ......when i go back home to my abusers if they see me vunerable they will try to break me...i gotta look like im smoken if they think i am pentitrable they will do it, but i look like im so hot, you know those hot girls that look like they have it together most of the time you will be to in awe and afraid to try and get under her skin, i need to get some designer clothes, get myself some uggs...i need them to have to look twice and say wow she did so much better for herself when she got away from us....i just hope it doesnt get out of control...my bf said he wants to support me but he is keeping an eye on how much i eat...yey....and with all of the stuff i have been through lately i wouldnt be surprised i fall alittle....this is really rough...i cant believe i am going home to my abusers...for christmas......what was i thinking...oh dear

(((((((((((((((inny))))))))))))))))

I don't know what to say here.... you don't need to try and impress them or change yourself. Love is unconditional. You are beautiful as you are, I've seen you. Is your b/f going with you at Christmas?? I hope you have a lovely time, please don't let them get to you, being confident and being yourself, standing up to them and not letting them bully you anymore or put you down would be good, I know that's hard, my mum's the same, she goes on and on about my weight too.

Please take care, show them you will no longer put up with their behaviour and remember you ARE a beautiful person and a beautiful looking girl too, as well as being extremely intelligent and hard working.

Good luck my dear friend and we'll be here always for you.

Sorry my advice maybe not the best, but I just want you to prove to them they are no longer in control of you.

Love, Jinny xoxooxoxoxo

[dcs_no1_fan]

(((((InACorner)))))

Please dont take any notice of your mum from what you have put there is nothing wrong with your weight unlike your mum who would be classed as anorexic I was at that weight & im 5ft 4in go there for christmas & have fun as long as you like your self dont worry what anyone else has got to say you sound like you have a loving b/f how is there for you

Take Care hun your worth more to any one happy than sad

[silver_queen]

((((((((((( Inny ))))))))))))

My dad has been hassling me too about my weight and I am the same height as you and currently 127lb (BMI 24.8) though I have lost a few pounds because before I was BMI 25.6, so I too am planning to lose weight...

I think the way you'd probably be less hassled about how you look is if you pretend you don't care. eg if somebody said to you, 'you look a bit overweight - why don't you lose weight?' you could tell them, 'I like myself like this - I think it suits me'. It might not be the truth but your weight is none of their business anyway. Plus if your family is hassling you about your food it would be better to show you are not vulnerable when you go - eg look like you're not counting calories or scared of eating certain foods, etc. If they saw you are sensitive about your weight it gives them a target.

plus different people have different body types, maybe your mother has a slightly different build to you? And according to her she is slightly underweight anyway. Maybe she has some problems with eating, too?

[LizardL8y]

Your mother has an unhealthy view of weight and its health implications. I've been there... my mom was bulemic and also I think in some ways anorexic. She was so tiny, every bone in her body showed. She ate less than 600 cals a day and threw up after dinner every night. (She's in treatment and is good now, despite some health issues she will live with the rest of her life due to the years of purging) She'd stand in the mirror in her underwear and slap her tiny little "pooch" on her belly - the only place on her body where there was any fat (which btw is the place where every woman in her family stores fat) and she'd say look at how fat and disgusting I am. I weighed 20 lbs more than she did and was one inch taller. I looked great and doctors said I was perfectly healthy. I was 110 and 5 feet tall. She made me feel I was so fat because I was fatter than she was. Now I really am overweight. I am struggling like crazy to lose it. My grandpa (her father who probably made her the way she was) bullies me about my weight (including yesterday during a visit). I'm trying so hard to lose it and just get healthy again. I thought I was so ugly when I was actually quite beautiful. Its so hard to set it aside.
When your mom hurts you this way, it is so hard to shelve it but you have to try. Your weight is beautifully healthy!!! You are probably gorgeous and curvacious and some women think feminine curves (breasts, hips, thighs) are a sign of overweight. Try to understand it is her insecurities about her own weight that she is pushing on you and there is nothing wrong with you!