[amy1101]

Anyone got advice?

Im planning to tell my dad on the phone tommorrow..

have avoided seeing / speaking to him for months as my health has been too bad and i didnt want to let him know as im ashamed / embarassed / wishing i can stop before it gets to the point where i have to talk about it..
So im thinking about baring all and being honest as i feel i owe it to him and also because it might help my recovery, having the support of a parent..

But also insanely scared about saying the words and making him sad..
Am afraid i will just cop out and only tell him about depression and anxiety and not e.d.s as scared that when i go and visit he will be monitoring / watching me around food (which is probably a good thing as will encourage me not to restrict or binge or purge)
Its all so scary.

Hope youre all ok

x

The following is an attempt to help.... and I hope.. hope... it doesn't make things worse...I put it way down... in cause you don't want to read it... I offered.. how my son told me about a problem he had.. and about how I will tell my friends... about my ED...

much... care for you... (((((hugs))))















My 23 year old son did share something with me a couple of years ago - not an ED... but something that needed to be worked on... and something he needed help with...because it was having a negative impact on his life..

And...I was so glad.. that he talked to me about it.... yes it was a little scary for both of us... though.. the scary was short lived...

It actually felt "good"... (picking my words carefully here) to have it out in the open because sub-consiously I knew something was wrong.. and it removed "barriers" between us... because he had been trying so hard to not let me know.. that it was very difficult on him...

Every child/parent relationship is different.... so.... you will have to decide for yourself...

My son... when he told me... came over one night... and while watching a movie together.. just started talking... and talking.... and with the movie going on... we could kinda watch the movie... talk a little.. then watch the movie a little...

for my son... that worked....

when he was young... he used to wait until he was in the car... and... bring things up....cause it was an easier way of talking... then say sitting at the kitchen table face to face....

for me... as an adult... telling my friends...(am 52).... about my ED... I had to explain... what an ED was... is..... what I do....

that it is an illness...

and if I had to do it over.... I would have printed off some material off the internet..... so they could read it .... and help them to understand.....

my age group... 50's and my friends are 60's.... they didn't understand what an eating disorder was... not at all.... and I can see that... so many people my age group are unaware....

[Christina86]

((((((((((amy))))))))) I unfortunately don't have any advice, but that you try to be honest... because you might wind up regretting not telling him later. I hope he's understanding and that the phone call goes okay.

[Fuzzybear]

no. "family" caused it.