how can i find the love of my life again

I was inlove with such a beautiful lady we broke up still can't forget her I think I don't have feelings for her anymore I just care for her I don't blame her for the relationship not doing well nor do I blame myself for it I only know that I ant to forget her and move on with my life how can this happen also how can I find the love of my life again I really need the support of a girl to accomplish my dreams I believe if she stands by me and supports me ill get onmy feet again find a job faster I don't know just give me help on how to forget her and find love again pleassss

Hello giosine,

First of all you need to be happy with yourself as it is not good to rely on someone else in order to get over someone, nor to expect someone else to make you feel good enough about yourself to get a job etc. You need to grieve first over your previous relationship otherwise you will be comparing. You also need to work on yourself first and then the right lady will come along.

Hi thanx for eplying on my text but how do I work on my self I try to forget this girl how do I forget this girl its been 2 years and I even stil go through her facebook profile to look through her pics if u can give me advice on how to work on myself and how to forget this girl ill be able to move on

Just a friendly tip: You need to makeup your mind to move on, and stop obsessing over her. Delete her from your facebook. I know it is hard, but I have been there, and that is what I had to do. The past is past and things will never be like they once were. Get yourself in mental shape for the great relationship which will come to you one day.

Okay thanx she added me one time I accepted but then I deleted her,but okay ill never go in her facebook again ill just find myself a job and I think thatsa how we sometimes find true love when we stand a bit stable on our feet but thanx ill take that from you

Giosine, I really hope you do move on. Heartbreak takes time to heal, but it does heal. I guess some people can remain friends, but I have found a clean break to be the best for me. One day you will find someone who will make you wonder what you ever saw in her. You can PM me if you want. I'm full of motherly advice.

Thanx I believe that ill be just fine after what u just said?

It is hard to learn to believe in ourselves and what we are doing in our lives. The person at our side is supposed to be working on themselves and their life, not ours. Imagine you are in a fight where there are the two of you, you stand back-to-back, wholly trusting the other to protect "their" side completely. Work on becoming completely yourself and you will attract a woman who is completely herself and then you can work together. Work to find a job so you can attract the right woman for you, someone you will be proud to work with, not someone you want to support you so you can get ahead, that's your job.

Yes, heartbreak takes time to heal. Try new activities, where you'll find new interests and friends. That will take your mind off things in the past.

I've found, for me, after past breakups, worked was setting a time span, to grieve. During these times, I would take a good hard look at myself, my role, what I learned, what qualities did I like, which ones I didn't, what did I lose, what did I gain.
Tossed myself back into friends, family, school/work, hobbies.
I discovered what I needed to watch for, with deal breaker lists, so to speak. It's a lot of hard work.

Takes being a complete person, again, to be back on the playing field. With knowledge that you can be a whole person with or without a romantic relationship, then you'll be more likely to attract a whole complete person, that is complementary to who you are and vice versa.

I'm 40 and never found a "true love", but I am happy being single, and friendships are enough for me.

If I can add my experience... if, even to yourself, you refer to her as the love of your life, that will make it much harder to heal for you. I know that it will not be easy to stop referring to her that way, but you have to. Also, social media makes it harder to heal, because we have access to people's photos. That is not the way nature intended it to be. You are doing a disservice to yourself by constantly reopening your wound when you look at her pictures. You need to distance yourself from access to her, for a while. Give yourself 3 or 6 months, to start with. Block her for that time, and allow yourself to heal so that your heart can welcome love that is healthy and beneficial to you.
(My experience is that I found my true soulmate after relentlessly working on myself in therapy. )