[Jenni855]

Someone who was very overfamiliar and writes things like 'xxxxxx' and kisses inbetween written messages to people they barely know. They have little understanding of boundaries and although married, they call other men 'gorgeous' in work. They also call practically every woman they know 'beautiful' or other names suh as babygirl, angel, sweetheart etc, again, even if they barely know them. They can also be nasty about these so called people they profess to 'love' and everyone seems to think this person is an angel.

[lizardlady]

I guess it would depend on the situation where they are offering hugs and kisses. Here in the forums I will offer someone I don't know a hug if it seems they need one. If it was something like an e-mail from someone I didn't know it would feel kind of creepy.

"they call other men 'gorgeous' in work. They also call practically every woman they know 'beautiful' or other names suh as babygirl, angel, sweetheart etc, again, even if they barely know them."
I used to work with a woman who did this. She didn't mean anything by it. It was just the way she talked. People did complain at times that it was inappropriate. Others were flattered.

[*Laurie*]

It's very difficult to decipher the person's intentions with only the small bit of information. It's possible the person is genuinely emotionally expressive and loving toward people; it's possible the person is insecure and attempts to kiss-*** people with such flowery language, and it's possible the person is simply manipulative. As for being nasty, everyone has a not-so-nice side...I would need more specific examples.

[Jenni855]

She will talk bad about the person and then go up to them and start arsekissing. One example is she spoke bad about her boss knowing he had a dying girlfriend in a hospice. To his face she always calls him 'gorgeous' and sweet names and is now up him and his new partners backside as they just had a baby together. They think she is genuine and sweet when she clearly isn't. She also pretends she loves the little girl of one of our mutual colleagues and says to the mum that she wants to take her shopping. Behind her back, she calls the kid a brat. She is very 2 faced and says a lot of things she doesn't mean.

[striking]

I think you should keep your distance. These so called charmers are manipulation masters and you will waste your time and energy saying otherwise. Some will realize, others just want to be in, if you know what I mean.
Take comfort in knowing you are not fooled nor will you play one.

[Jenni855]

Everyone else is fooled. I don't get why nobody else can see it.

[BLUEDOVE]

Accept your superiority,and avoid her like the plague.

[*Laurie*]

She sounds like a hypocrite. I'm thinking that she doesn't feel very good about herself, maybe has a lot of negative feelings she's confused about and she fakes it with people so they'll like her, not reject her. I certainly wouldn't trust her.

[Jenni855]

I am just surprised people fall for it. It seems to be only me who can see through it.

It might be that others *do* see it but are benefiting from having her around. I see people like that everyday. I would stay away for sure though and just my two cents..don't let her know you're on to her. She will try and ruin your name.

[Jenni855]

Thanks Kara. I keep my distance and don't fawn over her like everyone else does. Unfortunately everyone else does so I stand out so she does judge me for not being like the others.