[rdgrad15]

Does anyone else feel very awkward or anxious when at a friends house? I tend to feel that way due to worry that they will not like me or that I will do something that will anger them.

[mindwrench]

I have been the same way for as long as I can remember. Even if I have known someone for years, I feel like I've sneaked behind the ropes at a high profile museum. I wont sit unless told to, and I never ask for a drink, and turn it down even if I'm dying of thirst. This feeling can ease slightly if I visit several times in a short period, but returns if I do not visit for a period of time.

It's even worse like if someone I know and myself visit another friend/acquaintances house. I'm watching them like a hawk, and if they snoop, touch things, or go to areas not invited I'm admonishing them with extreme ultimatums. Even going to a department store, I get nervous if the other person obstructs an isle, or lingers in front of products that other people want to access. One of the worst is if they smell food products by holding it to their nose, I just want to run from the store.

I am relatively okay at a friend's place; however, if I am in the home of someone unknown to me I too have great difficulty relaxing and making myself at home. My own difficulty with being in public areas is that I am unable to predict how people will behave.

As a matter of fact, I have been just minutes ago advised we are going for dinner (well it was a request really) to a the home of a stranger to me. I am already uncomfortable regarding the whole thing.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by mindwrench

I have been the same way for as long as I can remember. Even if I have known someone for years, I feel like I've sneaked behind the ropes at a high profile museum. I wont sit unless told to, and I never ask for a drink, and turn it down even if I'm dying of thirst. This feeling can ease slightly if I visit several times in a short period, but returns if I do not visit for a period of time.

It's even worse like if someone I know and myself visit another friend/acquaintances house. I'm watching them like a hawk, and if they snoop, touch things, or go to areas not invited I'm admonishing them with extreme ultimatums. Even going to a department store, I get nervous if the other person obstructs an isle, or lingers in front of products that other people want to access. One of the worst is if they smell food products by holding it to their nose, I just want to run from the store.

Same here. Yeah I never sit down until I am told to. I decline any and all drinks, with the exception of being invited to dinner or something which is rare. I am not able to eat without a drink and even then I will only have water. I really only drink water anyways. But yeah, I never ask for things since I don't want to come off as inviting myself. A couple times I was invited to stay overnight and even though I knew exactly where I would be sleeping, I did not put my belongings in that guest room until I was told to do so. And yeah, if I am there a lot, it is not so bad but I still feel anxious and it returns if I go awhile without visiting.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

I am relatively okay at a friend's place; however, if I am in the home of someone unknown to me I too have great difficulty relaxing and making myself at home. My own difficulty with being in public areas is that I am unable to predict how people will behave.

As a matter of fact, I have been just minutes ago advised we are going for dinner (well it was a request really) to a the home of a stranger to me. I am already uncomfortable regarding the whole thing.

Yeah I hate being at someone's house that I do t know well even more than at a friends house.

I used to be like this. I was very introverted with extreme social anxiety. I would accept an invite and immediately regret it. In the situation you described I would have felt totally sick. I may have even played on that sickness and left.

When I turned 30 I flipped into a confident extrovert. I got tired of being shy so I decided to stop. Its much easier on this side. Lol.

I got this post confused with your other one on the relationships board. Sorry.

[eskielover]

No not awkward. Only time it really was was when we had an ice storm & I was without electricity & water for a week. My friend invited me over I I had several older dogs at the time I couldnt leave at home. That was very uncomfortable because my dogs were not well house trained & I was cinstantly having to take them outside. Luckily I had stayed home till the last 2 days without electricity so I was back home & had to come back to care for the dogs I had left here.

Jyst normal visiting no problem for an evening.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I used to be like this. I was very introverted with extreme social anxiety. I would accept an invite and immediately regret it. In the situation you described I would have felt totally sick. I may have even played on that sickness and left.

When I turned 30 I flipped into a confident extrovert. I got tired of being shy so I decided to stop. Its much easier on this side. Lol.

Yeah I feel sick when I get extremely anxious at someone else's house. Glad you became more of an extrovert and got more confident.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I got this post confused with your other one on the relationships board. Sorry.

Oh it happens. I didn't realize how similar it was until after I posted it. Could have made it one post but made it two since they were two slightly different, yet similar topics. Sorry about the confusion.