Staying or leaving?

Hi everyone,
I'm having trouble on deciding if I should leave the life I have and go back with my parents. Recently an outburst of emotions and problems have appeared. Everything was OK but after an incident, my life has been crumbling. I'm failing school because of what has happened to me and makes it difficult to attend which is gonna lead me to being dismissed, and that goes for my job as well. Work is becoming difficult to attend and I feel like their gonna lay me off. It was difficult enough to find one and now its slipping away. My relationship with the people around me is deteriorating because I'm in a constant depressed mood. I feel like I'm letting them down and further more I feel like their giving up on me. They tell me I should stay because they care and love me but I feel alone on daily basis because they have other things they need which leaves little time for support. So I wanted to leave back with my parents to clear my head and leave what I am destroying. I just don't know if that's the right thing to do. Am I just running away? Or the fact is that I need a clear head? I just want help in knowing if I should stay or go.

Stay in school and at work. Seek a therapist if you can, to help you with the depression. Things may not be as bad as you think. If you go home, you will will be packing your depression with you. I am sure your parents would not want that in their life. Things may go from bad to worse as a result.

Hello bqm12,

There should be a counselor attached to your school. Can you talk to them or another trusted person about how you feel? Getting some input from someone where you are at may put things in perspective for you. Did you get on with your parents before? If so, have you talked to them about how you are feeling? It does sound like you are depressed after what has happened to you and often times that is not the right time to make a huge life-changing decision.

I probably should have done that sooner than I did...not saying you for sure should though. If it really is too much stress and you need a break...then honor that, all is not lost if you do if you try and push yourself past your capability it can lead to burn out which makes it a lot more difficult to get back on your feet.

If you do move back with your parents...are there job oppurtunities nearby? Or a community college part time community college and work are options and community college is not as expensive as regular ones. Or if there are jobs you could get maybe just working for a while to learn job skills and move up that way would be better. Its best to think about all of that before deciding...but don't feel like the path you're on is the only possible way. There are options.

The biggest question to be answered is will your parents be supportive of you returning to the nest? If that answer is yes, then I would say do it. If that answer is I don't know, then you need a REAL conversation with them about it.
It sounds like things are kind of falling apart or you may just be catastrophizing? Can you do something to avoid being dismissed from school? Are you certain you are about to lose your job? Either of those two issues could lead you to depression and are you able to seek medical treatment for that?
There is no shame in returning home. Really there isn't. Most parents only want the best for their kids and will do almost anything to help them become successful and self sufficient. Some kids just take a little longer than others. Big hug for you.

I dropped out of college and I will be honest I regret it. I do not work and have not worked for years. I live in a group home and school got me out of the house. Now pretty much all I do is sleep. If you move back in with your parents are they going to modevate you or just let you be? I am now going to an Adult Learning Center to get back into college at a later date...I wish you well