[Dinbravo]

Woman is married
Man is married

Man accepts that woman is married.
Man expects woman to accept that man is married too.
Man is totally honest about his situation. While the woman is full of lies.

1) What would be the reason for the (married) woman to lie to the (married) man that she is on the verge/recently divorced and not living with her husband and in-laws? (claims living alone)

When in fact she has been living with her husband at her in-law's place all the while.

2) Why would the woman want to break up the man's marriage by making him choose between his wife and her.
When she is also married to another man. (Man willing to accept that)
How does it satisfy her that she broke up a marriage while she get to keep hers (if the guy is stupid enough to leave his wife, what follows next is that the woman will dump the guy and move on)

Finally, guy dumps woman (seen through her) and true enough woman moved on to another guy in less than a month.
Does she display any signs of BPD+NPD+HPD

[pegasus]

Hello Dinbravo,

I don't think there has to be a mental illness or mental health issue/diagnosis for someone to be nasty or deceptive. People with BPD for example often have difficulty in having a relationship at all. Sounds to me that you need to put this whole thing in the 'learnt from experience' box and move on.

[Dinbravo]

Thank you Pegasus.
That makes a lot of sense =)

[Dinbravo]

I discovered something new and this is confusing me.
Recently found out and confirmed that this woman is still on very good terms and loving with her husband. Still texting each other affectionately. Not divorced as she claimed.
She's living a good life, and not as pitiful & struggling as she claim and portray it to be.
At the same time this woman who was previously with me is now with a colleague of mine in the same company.
What she did exactly to him was what she did to me.
Claiming to be pregnant when she is not.

We broke up mainly because she claimed that I did not have time for her.
Followed by her accusing me of being heartless and not wanting the child etc…
She wanted someone who is emotionally and physically available.
Anyway she might have made that excuse up.
The new guy is giving her emotional and physical attention, more than anyone else. He is a good guy.
Why is she doing this to him when she is getting what she is yearning for.

Can anyone tell me what is going on, to take this off my mind.
A part of me still loves her deeply. But knowing the truth hurts further.
Knowing that she has never loved in the first place.

[Perna]

Who knows? Maybe she wants the feeling of control. Maybe she feels her husband has all the power in her marriage so she likes to mess with other men, see if she can get them to do as she wishes. If she bothers you I would tell her current guy, what she did to you, try to warn him so he becomes wiser before it is too late?

[pegasus]

Time to move on Dinbravo.

[Dinbravo]

Should the new victim and her hubby be notified of her doings?
Or would it be better to just be minding my own business?

I can't risk exposing my identity until everything has been sorted out.
seeing and knowing something terrible is going on, it takes quite a bit of effort on my part to blantantly just accept it and let her claim another victim.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hmmmm good question Dinbravo - "Should the new victim and her hubby be notified of her doings?"

I have mixed feelings on this one.

In one respect it could save this new man alot of grief and heartache. I'm leaning more towards the side of telling him ....

On the other hand, in order for you to move forward for you own mental health sake and forget about all of the nonsense that she put you through, is it really worth your while being concerned about what she is up to next?

Just look after yourself first, is all I'm saying.