[Roba]

I am not sure where this belongs if not here you have my permission to move it. I have a sister who does not want me to talk to anyone because I may say something she does not like. She recently got a facebook account which I also have a facebook account I have been a member of facebook since 2010 with no problems. She joined facebook and one page that I liked was for an ambulance company I did not even have a chance to look at the page and she was questioning why I liked the page. With her being on facebook I can not commit on any post or like any post. I had to start sending friends that have birthday's private messages. I have made everything but my friends list private. She asked me to be a friend I did not accept so now she is following me on facebook. Do I block her and if I do will she find out and get mad. What is the best way to handle this situation?

[Thunder Bow]

Block her, and let her get mad.

[Roba]

Thank you I will

[pegasus]

Hello Roba, nobody has the right to control you like that, you should be able to view and like whatever you like. Enjoy Facebook as you want to and if you want to block her, you have every right to do that too, family members do not have to 'friend' each other, this is your private time, yes.

[gayleggg]

I would block her, too. You don't need the drama.

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[psyco123]

dear rooba,

is ur sister possessive about u? whatever try talking to her and find out the issue.is she jealous..or else she will be repeating the same everywhere..
i mean she will be putting her head in all ur matters..if u feel talking to her is risk..then go ahead block her..relax..

[avlady]

block her, i have a sister exactly like that, you don't need the abuse anymore!!!

[Roba]

Hi everyone update I blocked her so we are not friends. The new problem is we have mutual friends. One day we were on facebook the same time and one mutual friend had posted pictures and a video on her's which is Mobil facebook the pictures where first on mine which is desktop the video was first. She made a federal case out of it because on mine the video was before the pictures. Because of this I now use facebook very little. I was using youtube now she has started using it so I have stopped so there is no problems . If I had the money I would move out but I do not have the money. The only thing I do is go on websites that she does not go on to and wait for the time to come that I can move out or die which ever comes first because I have given up. If you talk to her she will say I never said that. She will say that I am lying or telling stories. She does not want you to talk to anybody because you might say something. Everything has to be her way or not at all. Any ideas on how to handle this situation ?

block her

[Roba]

Thanks I have on facebook this is since I blocked her on facebook.

[Thunder Bow]

On YouTube you can block other members, and delete their posts. I have done it and it works well.

[Roba]

Ok Thanks I did not know that. She is not a member of youTube she was just on it I deleted it and stopped using it so that she would not make any trouble with me using it like she did with facebook and the mutual friends we have on facebook.

[avlady]

i just wanted to add something here, my sister is so mean to me about everything i say and do and she has been this way for all my life. i recently got in touch with a relative who wonders why she is this way with me. i don't have any idea why she feels like he can control me in such a way, i totally ignored her and she still is this way even after we reconnected and now i know for sure she will never be my friend and that is better than having to deal with her. i love my sister and tried so many times to get along with her but she just is the same even after getting back to her so i figure it's totally over. it makes me feel so bad i could have had a good relationship with her but i guess it's not in the cards. be yourself and let this person go is what i advise from my experience. good luck

[*Laurie*]

The situation with your sister is not about you, it's about her need to be a manipulative control freak. My guess is that she does the same thing with other people in her life - or tries to.

My eldest sister is like that, too. Sadly, our relationship has dwindled to almost non-existent because of her controlling behavior. I won't tolerate that kind of abuse.

[Roba]

Thanks for the help.

Did I miss something? Am I to understand you reside with her?

[Roba]

Yes I do reside with her

[Roba]

Yes I reside with her

[Roba]

Update on the situation My sister does not want me to talk to anybody about anything. I have low blood platelets and was told by a doctor not to get cut or scratched so my sister thinks I can do carpentry work. I have also been having dizzy spells to the point of sometimes falling down which I am on medication for. The medication helps but does not fix the problem of the dizzy spells.

[freespirit37]

Your sister needs to get a life

[sammo777]

blocking your sister on facebook is okay -- just because you live with her doesn't mean she can be all in your business.

I don't know your situation, but, I'm thinking....

maybe your sister is taking on the role of parent? trying to look after you, accommodate you, and maybe, if you've been diagnosed with a mental health problem and on medication, maybe she feels she needs to keep an eye on what you're doing.

maybe she's always been looking out for you, or feels like she has, and maybe she doesn't always want to and gets a bit resentful sometimes.

maybe she thinks you're not able to live independently, and she has to keep an eye on you to keep you safe and well? Sometimes, if people have been ill, we mollycoddle them, wrap them in cotton wool, and as the person gets better and gets more independent that cotton wool wrapping feels like suffocating restraints.

sometimes, people who seem to be wanting to control you are not doing it because they're bad and want to harm you -- sometimes it's just their clumsy way of trying to help.

If I was you, I'd have a proper talk with her. She could be a great ally in your life.

However, if you've already tried all that and got nowhere, how about making a proper plan to get a place of your own?

[Roba]

I have depression and sometimes I think about suicide when I do I talk to my family about it then I feel better. My sister told me not to talk to anybody even family that I live with because somebody may hear me.

[Nike007]

I'm sorry you suffer from depression. It does not seem appropriate for your sister to have this much control over your life. Just one question though: why are you listening to your sister when she says not to talk to family? She is not the boss of your life and you should be able to do what you want. If you trust someone enough, tell someone about her and maybe if they don't live in the same household move in with them if they are comfortable with it? My siblings make fun of me all the time because of my interest in mental illness and ADHD. I just ignore them as much as I can. And why doesn't your sister want someone to hear you? That doesn't seem right. Have you ever asked her why she acts this way to you or why she doesn't want other people to talk to you? Maybe you can figure out her problem and if it is something bad, suggest her to go seek help of some kind. Anyways, keep us updated. I wouldn't listen to her. If she gets mad at you, I would tell someone about it. And why are you doing the carpentry work? Can't she pay someone else to do it? If it is risking your health, refuse to do so. Say your doctor said you can't get cut or scrapped and if she says too bad, I would not do it anyways. This will probably hurt your and her relationship but it isn't healthy right now and you need to feel safe doing what you want. Hope this helps.

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[Nissala]

I blocked my sister about 5 year ago... do what is best for you!