[Petru1993]

Hi. This is my first post here and it's something that's just occurred to me. I don't want to go all out on the question, but I'll give you the details in short.

Basically. I find myself to not really care what people say to me. I find myself to not pay attention to other people's opinions and feel like it's a waste of space to even think about it and how others make me feel.

My priorities in life is for my family. When i say family i mean. Myself my wife and kids. For example. If my dad didn't like my girlfriend or whatever at the time. I wouldn't care less about his opinion. And i mean that for anyone. I don't let other peoples opinions into my life. The way i think about life is quite scary sometimes. I'm a very open minded person and definitely unique in terms of my mind.

The way i think is very different. I always take into consideration about how i would feel on my deathbed. Would i regret anything? Is what I'm doing in this moment a waste of time? Will I regret what im about to do?

Everything i do in my life is based on those thoughts.
I believe that it's you against the world and you have no one with you because at some point anyone and everyone can betray you and at the end of the day it's just yourself. No friends, family, nothing. One day they may all be gone. I feel like everyone lives life solo.

For some people. If they walked down the street and someone called them a di*ckhead. They'd retaliate. For me. I wouldn't care at all. That's their opinion and i thinking about it or retalting is a waste of time and space on my mind.

So the question is. Is that a normal thing to think like that? Or am i cold?

[llleeelllaaannneee]

I don't think it's cold not to engage in other people's opinion of you or how you live your life.

You've described a world view that may make you unusual in regards to the things you mentioned but not, in my book, "cold".

It's possible you're cold (harsh, unfeeling, insensitive to the feelings of others)...

I'm not asking for answers, share if you like but you may ask yourself:
Do you lack feeling in general? Do you feel numb? Do you feel unconcerned when someone close to you like your wife or child is suffering? If you do something inconsiderate or hurtful wether intentional or not do you feel bad?

Most people I've known, including myself, who believe or have believed that they are alone in this world have been kicked around quit a bit by life or have a traumatic event in their past. Someone once told me I was cold because I was being self protective. I thought kinda funny coming from this person because he was a young alcoholic. I said nothing but wanted to say, " oh just wait in see how you cope once you're sober for awhile".

[Thunder Bow]

No one should base their self worth on what others may think of them. Thus it is healthy that this does not affect you. We all do live our lives solo. No one can get under our skin and be with us. However, I do see anxiety and some depression in your post.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

Yup. They pretty much said it all... I am also like this a lot too, insome ways. I don't really dwell on other ppls opinions... except for when they impede on my own way of living. For me this became my way of thinking very early on growing up in environment where my own opinions were never validated or even considered. At home, I was ignored, always wrong or not good enough. At school i was mad fun of at for speaking up right or wrong.... so from a very young age, I isolated and stayed quiet and outta sight mostly just to not be picked on I think. I pretty much grew up believing automatically that no one would like me or care about me so I put up a wall. But some part of me never stopped yearning to feel connected. Somewhere along the way, I flipped to trying ridiculously to fit in anywgere.... complete fail. I still hold no close relationships except my husband. But the truth is I am very insecure and have become frozen in life as having no use or purpose.. "the left over piece that don't fit."

I don't think your "style of thinking" is normal but who knows what "normal" is and who cares?

You sound intelligent and you have your priorities. Roll with it.

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