[tearsinabottle]

I have had 20 chiropractor treatments since 21.october. It has cost me 7000NOK ( around 770 USD ) by now and its starting to get too expensive as I have other dept to pay.

I said to my chiropractor I have less with money this month, so asked him if we could wait a little with next appointment. He looked surprised and lifted his eyebrows and had some kind of surprised smile on his face and I think he said "have you". He did look surprised. I did shrink a little because I still like my chiropractor ( had a crush on him but have calmed down ) and felt embarrassed suddenly. I tried make it sound better by saying I meant the chiropractic treatment.

I only felt some embarrassment because of his reaction. It made me think he thought "can anyone not have afford to chiropractic treatment." Because he looked so amused like he couldnt believe it.

But then he saw me a bit embarrassed, I guess, and gained his more serious look again and said "of course and that we could set next appointment to february.

I mean, chiropractic treatment is not cheap, it cost 410kr per hour.

I dont think I should feel embarrassed?

[CANDC]

No you should never feel embarrassed about your financial situation. If he was a standup guy he might have offered you a sliding scale.

Have you ever asked your doctor if yoga would be okay to do with your physical infirmities? If your doctor approves there are a number of yoga free classes online search adrienne youtube complete beginners. Clear it with your doc first.

[DechanDawa]

Whatever the situation, it sounds like the professional person is acting weird. When, where and how we get professional services is our business. I even get this when I go to get my hair cut because I trim my own bangs. Mostly they act like I am not capable of trimming my own hair, which is irritating, but not embarrassing. It would be nice if you could be more irritated than embarrassed. And yeah, try yoga, that's a great idea. Maybe you could take this space to look into another chiropractor since you have a bit of a confusing history with this one, and maybe you could even find someone less expensive.

[tearsinabottle]

Hi CANDC and Dechan,

Thank you both for responding. I am thinking the same that its nothing to be embarrassed over. I did get sligthly embarrassed though but I have figured out it must have been because I had a crush on him and still like him. When I got home I felt on two occasions kinda sad and bad inside for not being able to go to him for a while. I understand this feeling is a false unhealthy feeling that doesnt ring true. I know its my own feelings to own.

I dont know if he is acting weird, maybe he is. I can only speculate why he seemed so surprised. What I think or feel the most is that he may just didnt expect it. But if so is that is kinda weird since it IS expensive in the long run. I just think that if he knows I like him he may didnt expect it. I know that sounds crazy and its probably totally silly to think. Its just a gut feeling I have because of the history with him. I migth even be way off and its nothing at all.

Its a while I have been there because I have been sick with flue. So I missed my last appointment the 28th. But I guess its ok to have a space between treatments. My back is about 60-70% better.

I dont think I get it cheaper than I do.

I dont do yoga where my mind can drift into anything unknown because of my faith. If yoga is about the mind drifting away? Or maybe that is only meditation? If its only stretching and relaxing I will try do that. And I will try exercise more and walk more, relax my back and keep a good posture.

[DechanDawa]

I think you can do yoga purely for physical relief, and your mind will be okay. (I am a meditation teacher, and also do yoga.) In fact, yoga may help you to center and focus your mind, as you will be focusing on the stretching exercises and and how your muscles feel. You have been very honest about your situation and I appreciate that about you. I perhaps should not have used the word " weird" -- but rather, "unprofessional". As an example --- I go to the same dentist every four months for teeth cleaning and have not been able to afford periodontal Xrays for a few years. I explained this to the dentist. He said to just keep coming in for the cleanings, and it is okay for now. I know this is not his usual policy but because of my finances he is working out an arrangement. He did not make me feel embarrassed. Finances are a fact of life. Continue to be honest with yourself, and I think you will find all your answers. Best of luck, and such good news about your back!

[tearsinabottle]

Originally Posted by DechanDawa

I think you can do yoga purely for physical relief, and your mind will be okay. (I am a meditation teacher, and also do yoga.) In fact, yoga may help you to center and focus your mind, as you will be focusing on the stretching exercises and and how your muscles feel. You have been very honest about your situation and I appreciate that about you. I perhaps should not have used the word " weird" -- but rather, "unprofessional". As an example --- I go to the same dentist every four months for teeth cleaning and have not been able to afford periodontal Xrays for a few years. I explained this to the dentist. He said to just keep coming in for the cleanings, and it is okay for now. I know this is not his usual policy but because of my finances he is working out an arrangement. He did not make me feel embarrassed. Finances are a fact of life. Continue to be honest with yourself, and I think you will find all your answers. Best of luck, and such good news about your back!

Hi Dechan, I may think more about relaxing the mind as long as my mind dont start focus on something else than God. I read the church leaders tells us that christians should keep away from all of it. But I think just stretching and relaxing the mind is ok.

I dont know what to think about my chiropractor, why he turned so surprised so suddenly. My only guess is that he didnt see it coming for whatever reason. I am thinking for myself that as much as I would like to go to him for my back and to see him too, I cant just keep going there when it gets too expensive for me and just because I like him and feel I need to go lol. I have self humor so I can laugh of myself and this. To say that I feel I need to go comes only from my own issues. I guess I didnt even "want" to tell him I cant come because I had a crush on him. So I hoped some way that he would say treatements are over, but that didnt happen. Not that I wanted it to end. I wanted it to end from his side since it got too expensive for me. Then I didnt have to tell him myself. Its good my back is better though. My chiropractor is also happy for that.

I have used some weeks thinking about how to say to my chiropractor its starting to get expensive for me. I didnt know it would be soo many treatments. Before I have had only 8-9 but then I didnt have pain. The pain I have now is pain when laying. Its new for me, so I guess this is why I need so many treatments. So recently I was sick with flue and I am now well again and then I did go to one appointment yesterday to tell him I dont have afford this month. Lol..I could have just rang and told him, but did show up because I felt I needed to go one more time, to tell him personally....just because I like him..its silly but a little cute too....but now I have said it to him.

Like you say, we should not be made embarrassed for not having afford to dentist and all those things we need. I dont have problems cancelling my dentist appointment and other stuff, but this chiropractor and having a crush on him have made me feel unable to tell him its getting to expensive. His reaction may have been a bit unproffessional. Maybe he didnt expect it. I cant think of what else it should be.

[Septembersrain]

I can't afford a chiropractor. I can't even afford a therapist. Heck, I'm happy if I can afford to eat out or cut my hair!

I wouldn't be embarrassed, there are many of us who can't afford this as we've got many other pressing debts to deal with.

My priorities are my own, just as yours are too. If you have other bills that take priority, no reason to feel embarrassed by this!

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[tearsinabottle]

Originally Posted by Septembersrain

I can't afford a chiropractor. I can't even afford a therapist. Heck, I'm happy if I can afford to eat out or cut my hair!

I wouldn't be embarrassed, there are many of us who can't afford this as we've got many other pressing debts to deal with.

My priorities are my own, just as yours are too. If you have other bills that take priority, no reason to feel embarrassed by this!

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Hi Septembersrain, you are right one should make the most important debt the first priority. I didnt know I would have 20 treatments and more And then I got a crush on my chiro on top of it! When I think about it more ( like the other poster said about I should rather be mad ) it kinda actually makes me a bit mad so much money have gone to this treatment even I needed it and it makes me even more stressed because my financial situation is one reason I cant sleep without pills. I also have a gambling problem, but have taken care of this some months ago. I asked to get payed out salary once a week so I dont gamble them away. If I didnt have this debt I could have afford to chiro and stuff as I have good income. I dont have afford to a therapist either. It sucks!

I just hope by time I will have it better, when debt starts to go down instead of increasing. I know I shold be even more mad at my gambling addcition. It will be tough the next months but then it will be slightly better.

I got next appointment in february but the truth is that I really dont have afford to use the money on chiropractic treatments instead of paying more on my dept, as the rents of my loan is 2/3 of what I have to pay in the month I should have told my chiro to make next appointment around april, but I didnt manage to admit it since I like him and felt embarrassed.

Well the pessimist in me questions why so many sessions are necessary. It seems to me they aren't working.

Would a massage therapist possibly work? They are certainly a cheaper option and many will come to your home for the session.