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Jan 25, 2016, 01:13 AM
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I just got news that a guy I went to grad school with died today, but I don't feel anything and that bothers me.
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Jan 25, 2016, 02:40 AM
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Did you feel anything for this guy while he was alive?
Like did you care about him, did he matter in your everyday life? Because if the fact that he was alive didn't affect you, I'm not surprised that his death doesn't affect you either... I'm personally not bothered by random people I know or knew dying, its a whole different ball game if its someone close to me though. It would bother me if I felt nothing then.
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Jan 25, 2016, 08:31 AM
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maybe you are in shock? then denial, anger etc, until you get to acceptance. i know when some of my friends dies and family members too i handle it well until it really sinks in.
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Jan 25, 2016, 08:42 AM
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How did he die?
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Jan 25, 2016, 04:13 PM
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If you didn't have some personal relationship with him, I think that is natural.
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Jan 27, 2016, 10:32 PM
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He died in a car accident, I considered him a friend But we weren't exceptionally close, it just feel weird because so many of my friends are posting about being in shock and seem so upset and I just feel kinda blah, I may feel differently when I get to the funeral though, I've had it happen before where it doesn't feel like that big of a deal until everyone is there together then I pick up on everyone else's feelings.
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Jan 27, 2016, 11:40 PM
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Don't beat yourself up for how you feel or don't feel. It might take a while for it to sink in.
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Jan 27, 2016, 11:58 PM
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I`m going to sound like a real *** for this but my sister was murdered by her husband almost 20 years ago. I have never shed one tear or anything. Never been to her grave site, except for the day of the funeral. I have no desire to go. My dad died around 3 years ago. Big deal. We didn`t speak for the last 10 that he was alive. Now, it has been quite awhile since I have spoken to my mother and it stems from my childhood. I just don`t care. My sister was the one that always got in trouble, I kept my nose clean. She was always the favorite. Guess I`ll burn in hell but I don`t believe in that either.
But as others have said, it may just take awhile to sink in for you. Everyone has a different grieving process. Last edited by Anonymous37867; Jan 28, 2016 at 12:49 AM. |
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Jan 28, 2016, 12:25 AM
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It sounds like you feel bothered.
Most people usually don't feel as much as they would like to and just try to act sympathetic but really aren't empathetic at all. Which is a big difference between the two. |
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Jan 30, 2016, 02:09 PM
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Grief is different for everyone and there is no right or wrong way that a person deals with it.
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