Do i deserve that?

My mom and my sister in law had a fight between them ... Then while me and mom were out with her kids for playing .. She wrote posts about my mom on fb ... When i returned home .. I read them .. I felt really annoyed .. But didnt want to tell my mom about it .. So i called SIL .. To explain the posts .. And told her that it makes me really sad to see them .. And told her i wont meddle in anything about the problem but posting on fb is very annoying .. And that family problems shouldnt be public ... She told me not to meddle and that iam young and she is older than me and i shouldnt talk to her like that ... Then i later found out that my mom knew about the posts .. And we decided to unfollow her ... Which means that she wont know if we unfollowed her .. Then after a week i wrote a post critizing posting bad things about poeple on fb .. Then i found out after 3 days that she blocked me fb .. And since then ... For 2months until now .. I recieved no call from her .. Iam the one who calls her .. When i know that she is sick i go to her .. But i feel the atmosphere is strange .. When she gets sick ,she wouldnt tell us .. Btw, she is living above us if you know what i mean .. She told me we are like sisters ..i really though of her like that .. I never told her anything before that incident .. If she wrote sth about me on fb ,i wouldnt be as annoyed but it was about my mom .. Btw iam 21 and she is 30

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Time to log off from family drama and Facebook.

Haha .. U mean i should forget it right ? I tried many times .. But i want to know if iam that wrong

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She is your sister-in-law, which means that she is your brother's wife, and they live with you in the same building. I suspect that living together at the same building with the parents of one of spouses isn't a good idea. I know you're from a tradition and culture where extended family still has some presence, but still it's not a good idea. The parents will always try to intervene with the justification that they "care", and I don't think any one would like that. As for you, just try to be nice, and don't escalate things. That's all you can control. Blaming others is not a good thing within a family.

I know what you mean .. But iam talking about me and her .. I didnt interfere with the problem i only told her about posting on fb

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What she did was wrong. But there is a reason for her being upset. Addressing the root problem is right thing to do. How is the relationship between your parents and your brother? Is it at ease all the time except for this incident?

Its a very good one .. But i slightly feel a change after it

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Iam not in a position to talk to her about the problem

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OK then, if it's a good one, this incident is not that important. Mistakes happen. I agree someone older has to intervene to fix it, but still you can choose to talk to her or not personally. I think the brother can do something. Just keep things calm from your side.

In the post i wrote .. I said that posting on fb is not right and that one should face the problem and not be a coward

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Thank you very much .. I will try

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Now .. Since she blocked me .. I called her few times and often offered my help ... Bu she never called me .. If i study in my room which is quite distant .. I'd learn she visited us from my mother .. If i was lucky and open the door .. She would casually say hi and during the visit doesnt look at me or speak to me .. So,should i cut her too? Bec. Iam sick of it ... Its not like i shot her .. I only did what she did to make her realise the impact of subtweeting.. Btw i deleted my post but she wouldnt know bec. She blocked me and so did i after a month bec . i was pissed off .. One day i called her and told her to retalk again but she said we r already talking .. And told her not to unblock me to prevent any problems in future .. But i think there would be no future resulting from that treatment


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I would just let this incident pass for however long it takes for your SIL to get over it. Sometimes weeks, sometimes months but usually they will get over what was bothering them & things will go back to status quo. If you keep needling about it, it keeps the problem alive longer then longer for it to just pass.

We only say hi now .. So .. I should keep it like that until she is ready to talk ,right ?
Thank you for yr time ..i appreciate it 😊

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