[tylereagle1]

I am a Messianic Rabbi and we have a men's group as part of our synagogue life. It meets every Monday night, at various restaurants, for two hours. A few years ago my nephew married a beautiful young woman, whom we love, but she is exhibiting a behavior that is strange and troubling to me and I need help understanding. She says that she is "devastated" (her words) when my nephew goes to the men's group. It has been reported by witnesses that she cries and won't eat and has even stated that she is offended that I would create a situation where she can't be with her husband. What is going on here? This seems to be an extreme over-reaction to being separated from her husband for a mere two hours per week! I can't help but believe that she has some deep-seated, emotional issue that needs to be addressed.

[thephilosopher6]

Originally Posted by tylereagle1

I am a Messianic Rabbi and we have a men's group as part of our synagogue life. It meets every Monday night, at various restaurants, for two hours. A few years ago my nephew married a beautiful young woman, whom we love, but she is exhibiting a behavior that is strange and troubling to me and I need help understanding. She says that she is "devastated" (her words) when my nephew goes to the men's group. It has been reported by witnesses that she cries and won't eat and has even stated that she is offended that I would create a situation where she can't be with her husband. What is going on here? This seems to be an extreme over-reaction to being separated from her husband for a mere two hours per week! I can't help but believe that she has some deep-seated, emotional issue that needs to be addressed.

Perhaps she has BPD or maybe she's Schizotypal. Can't say for sure. No diagnosis can be given over the internet. She would have to be diagnosed by a mental health professional.

I would suggest it is a trust issue. I resented the social aspect to the meetings my former husband went to. He didn't put the same effort into spending time with me as he did his groups.

[Perna]

I would talk to your nephew and see if he can talk to her and figure it out or get her counselling or something; sounds like a problem for the couple (does he want her clinging to him like that?) and your group is just a symptom.

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by tylereagle1

I am a Messianic Rabbi and we have a men's group as part of our synagogue life. It meets every Monday night, at various restaurants, for two hours. A few years ago my nephew married a beautiful young woman, whom we love, but she is exhibiting a behavior that is strange and troubling to me and I need help understanding. She says that she is "devastated" (her words) when my nephew goes to the men's group. It has been reported by witnesses that she cries and won't eat and has even stated that she is offended that I would create a situation where she can't be with her husband. What is going on here? This seems to be an extreme over-reaction to being separated from her husband for a mere two hours per week! I can't help but believe that she has some deep-seated, emotional issue that needs to be addressed.

She does have a deep seated emotional issues that needs to be addressed. She seems to have intense insecurity and anxiety. Therapy would best for her, and to diagnose her illness.

[tylereagle1]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

I would suggest it is a trust issue. I resented the social aspect to the meetings my former husband went to. He didn't put the same effort into spending time with me as he did his groups.

Well, in my nephew's case, he is very loving and attentive and they spend all of their other time together. That's why I don't understand her resenting two hours per week.

[avlady]

when a couple first get married i've found they want to be together all the time, maybe she'll grow out of it. i myself had the same issue where i couldn't stand to be away from my husband, but i wouldn't sweat it if she loves you that much'

[*Laurie*]

I agree with avlady. Also, is there something about the group itself that your niece-by-marriage doesn't like or agree with?