[fosterthehuman]

so this has been on my mind but i used to live with these roommates in provided housing and i never really got along with one of them, like we barely talked. and on the last day when we had to move out of the housing, we were supposed to all leave at 9am and have all of our stuff out of the apartment. but honestly, i was a little behind in getting my stuff out. ik i could have packed better too :/. plus i had to get some of our roommates stuff out too (one of them had left a week earlier for school but she accidentally left things in the apartment. and i didn't end up leaving until 9:30/10am. we ended up getting a $25 late fee cause we were there long. and my roommate (the one i barely talk to) seemed upset at me, cause she was already ready to leave but she couldn't leave until everything and everybody was out. and when we left, i was in the building hallway talking to my bf and she walked by me and didn't say bye or anything. i mean, ik we weren't close but damn. and she was moving back to a different city so it was kind of weird to just not say anything to someone you've lived with for a while. i mean, i guess it makes sense cause a lot of times when i saw her i would be the one to say hi or else she would just not say a word. and i guess i deserved that for making us have to pay a fee. but then later, i saw that she wasn't following me on instagram anymore, and it looked like she blocked me. so i got pissed and blocked her back and on tumblr. but we work at the same company and she's working there as a seasonal position so sometimes i see her pass by. i don't say anything and neither does she. i feel like it was my fault to why she stopped talking to me. i didn't mean to upset her, and i feel bad now for making her wait that day. idk am i overthinking this? ik i'm confusing cause i don't really want to be friends with her but i just feel guilty and want to know if it was something i did.

[TishaBuv]

It wouldn't hurt you to say hello and ask her if she's mad at you because of the late fee and apologize. Doesn't it feel dumb to both walk by each other without saying a word? I'd try to bury the hatchet.

[fosterthehuman]

I mean cause she would walk by me numerous times (before the late fee thing happened) and not say a word to me, so idk if that would even change. Like she never really said hi to me or anything before or ask to hangout. so idk what would happen? and yeah ik, i had a feeling that she was probably mad because of that, great.

[TishaBuv]

That's weird behavior on her part.

I'd be tempted to say to her "Aren't you ____?" Even though I know darn well it's her and she knows it, kind of just to mess with her.

[fosterthehuman]

sorry i'm just so fustrated at myself cause when i was living with her, she was such an irritating roommate (had loud phone calls in the living room, and then just moved all her stuff into the living room cause she said that our alarms would wake her up and she didn't even tell me, i asked my other roommate and she told me. and that was another thing, when there was an issue or anything, she wouldn't talk to me, only the other roommate and that's how i would find out abour stuff. and none of us could ever sit on the couch or have room over there cause her stuff was layed out everywhere. she wouldn't keep her stuff clean or clean up after herself at times to the point where we would have to tell her or just clean up after her cause we had room inspections sometimes, and there's time she made us gets points, which isn't good on the inspections. like it happenes a few times and of course it wasn't just her that got us points sometimes but it was usually her and her stuff. it was just annoyingalso, whenever my other roommate and i would clean before inspections, she never helped, or help do any of the regular weekly chores for that matter, except get our mail and that was it. also, on our last day, i asked if the stuff on the table was hers and she was like "yeah, you can just throw it out," idk it just seemed like she expected me to take it out. and i said "i still have my own things to get done right now, so i can't." and we were supposed to take out any trash left inside and i had to take it all out and throw away/find space to pack things that my other roommate left. and i asked my friends and bf for help. and she stayed in the apartment and just put her part of the trash in the bins that we were gonna take out, and i guess that made sense cause one of us had to stay in case the housing staff was ready to do a final inspection. idk i just now feel like i'm a really ****** person now and i wasn't even trying to piss anyone off, i didn't mean to get a late fee. i guess i'm kinda still mad about those things that happened with her too. i just feel like she wouldn't care about my apology anyway. like, i'm her being the one stressed about this and i doubt she even thinks about it at all. plus, if she really did bock my on ig, i doubt she would ever want to talk to me again.

[TishaBuv]

If someone's holding such a grudge over $25, worrying about it is not worth your time. She sounds like a strange bird. If it makes you feel better to apologize, then do it, even if she doesn't respond well. What's most important is for her not to make any trouble for you now.

I disagree with Tisha (sorry Tish)

I would approach her and apologize and pay her the 25 dollars that she lost through no fault of her own. Ditto the other roommates, but that's just how I am.

I wouldn't mentally go over your relationship with her to rationalize why she doesn't speak to you now...it serves no purpose but to make her wrong and you right (hey, if that works for you then great, though)

The bottom line is that you feel guilty. Squaring everything with her will not create a friendship because you two have a personality clash, but at least you won't feel guilty and can smile and say "hi" to her in passing.