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Old Sep 17, 2016, 01:10 PM
Ladyp123 Ladyp123 is offline
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A friend of mine been talking to her therapist for a lil over 3 months now... she have told her T about the verbal abuse that Gose on between her and her boyfriend of 9 years ( 1child together) she have not disclosed to her about the physical abuse that happened last year like 2 times. He promise not to every do it again and haven't ... but still verbal abuse (he's threatened to kill her several times in the past no longer tho) if she was to tell her T about this past domestic violence and threats that happen like a year ago will the T report these past events ? He haven't done it since. Also he's a great father to their kid. She's worried what to share again their child is well taken care of no neglect or abuse to child. The parents just not a match in heaven. She just want to talk about it with her T but is unsure.
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Old Sep 18, 2016, 02:54 AM
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Maybe you should look up what a therapist is allowed to do/has to do where you live, and who will be able to know what you tell your therapist, and what they are allowed to do with that.
As far as I know, usually, only your therapist will know what you've told them. They can't tell anyone else what you tell them. Unless you're specifically planning to hurt yourself or another specific person, then they may have to report it. But that's not the case, so I think they aren't allowed to report this if they even wanted to. Usually a therapist would try and get you to get yourself the help you need, but your friend can just refuse.
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Old Sep 18, 2016, 07:42 AM
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Recommend to her: THe Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. It saved my life. Verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse. No a t isnt mandated to report someone being abused; I hope she will talk tohim about this. I think she should also call the domestic violence hotline. Abusers can snap; no way to know when he will do this again. This is still a dangerous situation.
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Old Sep 18, 2016, 08:00 AM
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Threatening to kill her is really serious. I agree, this guy can snap. I wouldn't think the therapist would report this.
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Old Sep 18, 2016, 10:42 AM
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If at any point the therapist feels the violence in the home in any way puts the child in danger, he would be a mandatory reporter of that kind of risk to a minor child.
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Old Sep 19, 2016, 02:05 AM
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If she believes the child to be in danger, she is obligated by law to report it.

There are 3 things actually. If the patient is threatening to harm themselves, threatening to harm others or child abuse.

Likely though, the therapist will give her a chance to move her child to a safer environment before she would report it to CPS. She can't legally do anything about your friend herself, she is an adult and can make her own choices, but that child has a right to safety.
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Old Sep 19, 2016, 05:57 AM
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I would think that if the therapist would deem her life in immediate danger, it could be reported.

However, based on what you have stated, it doesn't seem to be the case of her life being in immediate danger. Just my opinion.
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Old Sep 19, 2016, 08:10 AM
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If the Therapist is concerned about safety, they must report this. Similarly though, if you feel there is a danger, you should report this too.

20 years ago I answered my door to find a police officer, social worker, and resource center worker. My life changed dramatically. Had whoever that person was never reported their concern I've no idea how much longer I would have lived with the abuse. I never found out who but to them I am eternally thankful.
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Old Sep 19, 2016, 04:18 PM
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In my state a therapist will definitely report it if s/he thinks a child is in danger.
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Old Sep 20, 2016, 03:58 AM
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it would just be common sense to me to try at least to get out of the situation, like a shelter for women and children. i went through this too
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Old Sep 20, 2016, 08:52 AM
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What if you were to do some homework? Compile a list of services offered in the community and leave it with her. You may have to get tough and risk your relationship.Tell her that you understand you are 'rocking the boat' but your friendship means enough to risk doing that.

Contact a shelter. They will be able to help you with additional resources and even suggest ways to initiate the process. In some cases, they will come and get the person requiring the help. They can sometimes arrange care/fostering of pet(s). If they can't they will be able to recommend how you can help.
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Old Sep 21, 2016, 05:56 PM
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Thank u everyone for the advice you guys are great on here. Believe me me and her have talked about this supposedly she's moving out to live with other family I shall see. I'm happy if she do.
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