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#1
Sep 28, 2016, 04:00 PM
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I've mentioned in another post my concern over my acquantaince's attachment to her teenaged son. She is using her inability to find a babysitter as an excuse to not go out. I am beyond concerned, I am now unfortunately growing frustrated. This is just wrong.
He is a teenager. He seems to have no impairment. He is extremely immature - but who wouldn't be if they were a teenager and still being babysat? Can anyone help me with suggestions as to how to open the necessary conversation? |
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#2
Sep 28, 2016, 04:13 PM
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wow...tough one. I think you might just have to ask "Why do you need a sitter for (fill in the name)?
then......well, depends on the response.
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Sep 28, 2016, 04:18 PM
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We're living in an age where offspring aren't considered adults until they're in their 30s so I think what your friend is doing is part of this new trend. I agree it's a problem, but today's parents are so protective of even young adults that the poor kids are ending up emotionally handicapped. I don't know what the answer is other than to realize this is a trend that is going to lead to lots of issues in the future as children aren't allowed to grow up and make a life for themselves.
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#4
Sep 28, 2016, 08:08 PM
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By 'teenager' what age do you mean? There's a big difference between 12 and 19.
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#5
Sep 28, 2016, 08:09 PM
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why is it your business
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#6
Sep 29, 2016, 03:11 PM
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#7
Sep 29, 2016, 03:20 PM
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Sorry to say it is that person's business. Not yours, really.
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#8
Sep 29, 2016, 08:25 PM
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Welll...if she's leaving her thirteen year old alone during the day I'd say that's fine. But if she's going out at night and returning late, I'd say she does need to arrange something. Someone to stay with him...have him stay at a friend's house, or some kind of arrangement. Thirteen is too young to be left alone at night - and, in my experience, is not a wise idea.
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| leomama, Trippin2.0
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#9
Sep 30, 2016, 03:47 PM
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When I was 13, I was out at night with friends...
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Sep 30, 2016, 05:18 PM
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Sep 30, 2016, 06:01 PM
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I think there is nothing wrong with not wanting to leave your 13 year old home alone at night. It is a rare 13 year old that will not get in trouble if left up to their own devices at night at age 13. You might want to read some books about teen brain development to learn why it's not a good idea to leave kids home alone at night. Also there's nothing wrong with not wanting to go out at night as a mother.
Last edited by leomama; Sep 30, 2016 at 06:02 PM. Reason: Misplaced word |
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#12
Sep 30, 2016, 06:37 PM
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My daughter is 13 soon.
No way I'm leaving her alone at night without supervision. Not because she's immature or might burn the house down, but because the world is just too ugly a place to take such a chance like that in this day and age. Even if I lived in a snazzy neighborhood, just, no. No way in hell I could enjoy myself on a night out wondering if my child is safe. Frankly, in my eyes 13 is still very much a child, "teen" has barely just entered your age category, so IMO its very irresponsible leaving a 13 year old alone at home.
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#13
Sep 30, 2016, 07:26 PM
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I just wanted to pipe in with another point of view...
Perhaps she is saving her 13 year old from embarrassment.....13 does not want to be told they will be getting a babysitter...That would be humiliating (and whatever term she could use....it's a babysitter). I know that I would rather save my child from humiliation than go out with friends. So, she maybe made that parenting choice and doesn't want to say the real reason because she will be judged for it... 
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#14
Sep 30, 2016, 08:08 PM
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No way my 14 year old stays by himself past 10 pm. Even then it's for a couple of hours, maybe 4 tops? even then I'll call if I have chance. I like everyone home by 8 pm, 9 pm nights he plays D&D.
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#15
Oct 03, 2016, 12:35 PM
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Well, slap the shackles upon me I guess.
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Oct 03, 2016, 12:47 PM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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