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Old Dec 28, 2016, 07:39 AM
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I am a 51 year old Daughter of a 69 year old mother. My whole life my mother was what I would call a hypochondriac. She would also cry a lot to guilt my sister or I into doing things she wanted, or to get what she wanted. Needless to say over the years I became hardened to her behavior. I avoided her as much as possible and could only handle being around her in small doses. Recently I had to move in with her because she needs help with daily living. Now that she is older and some of her health complaints are valid I find I am being callous towards her when she talks about her aches and pains. I don't say anything bad I just don't say anything at all. I get angry when she cries instead of caring because I feel she wants the kind of attention that she has always wanted from me..to feel sorry for her. It's just not in me to give. She always directs and redirects every single conversation back to her health issues. Frankly it's downright annoying. I feel like she is unknowingly being manipulative. If I say anything she doesn't want to hear she starts crying or acts all depressed. Can anyone give me any advice on how to deal with her in a healthy way? Thank you in advance.
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Old Dec 28, 2016, 12:59 PM
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Looks like this is a two way street. Open communication is best. You have you hired a home care nurse to check in on her?
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Old Dec 28, 2016, 01:03 PM
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Yeah, talkin with her about this could be a solution.. just explain to her how you feel about this situation.

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Old Dec 28, 2016, 06:12 PM
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I think that maybe your mom doesn't know how else to ask for love. Talking with her would be important.
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