[rdgrad15]

I've always wondered why people sometimes ask questions when it doesn't affect them. Like back in college, I always hung out at a certain location for socializing and also to do homework. I was there way more than my dorm room. And people would ask why I always sit there. I told them I just like it. But they would come off as annoyed about it. It doesn't affect their lives so I don't get what the big deal was.

Also, more recently, since I don't drive, every so often I will have no choice but to go to work early. Depends on who drives me and what time is combiner for them. Usually when I am there early, I am in a unused room waiting for my time to start. Everyone knows this, even my supervisor. But sometimes a a couple coworkers will act annoyed and ask why I do that. They recommended I start using Uber.

I told them it is too expensive since I've used it and only use it for emergency situations. I would be spending over 10 dollars to travel 7 minutes from my house. I really don't mind going in early. I stay out of everyone's way and the room I am in is never used in the morning. So I don't get why they ask me that stuff when it doesn't affect them. They start work earlier, but then get out earlier. I start later and get out later.

So technically, if I am inconviencing anyone, it is myself since I have to sit and wait for my time to start, and then complete my hours for then day. It is not an every day thing. At most, once a week. And I am very quiet. So I don't get why a couple people act like it is a big deal that I walk in early. I figured if my supervisor is okay with it, and no one who is higher up said anything about it, then it is okay. It may seem weird but at the same time, I don't get why people have to act annoyed at some things I do when it has no affect on them and has nothing to do with how their day goes. Anyone else have this problem? Andyone inderstand why some people are nosy? Any suggestions on how to deal with it. Just find it annoying at times.

That is rather rude, nosy, and inconsiderate. Would you say this has come to the point of being harassing? It certainly sounds as though you have been made to feel uncomfortable. It is time, I think, to have a chat with your boss or Human Resources about this.

My father fell ill with a stroke last week and I have been inundated with inconsiderate nosy enquiries from people - most of whom are complete strangers to me. It has come to the point that I simply reply back that the I wish to keep such information private. I tell them only that information they need to know (that the event in fact happened and he is recovering nicely). In other words, I am telling them to mind their own business.

When it comes to them 'offering' their unwelcome suggestions, you might tell them that you have your reasons not to.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

That is rather rude, nosy, and inconsiderate. Would you say this has come to the point of being harassing? It certainly sounds as though you have been made to feel uncomfortable. It is time, I think, to have a chat with your boss or Human Resources about this.

My father fell ill with a stroke last week and I have been inundated with inconsiderate nosy enquiries from people - most of whom are complete strangers to me. It has come to the point that I simply reply back that the I wish to keep such information private. I tell them only that information they need to know (that the event in fact happened and he is recovering nicely). In other words, I am telling them to mind their own business.

When it comes to them 'offering' their unwelcome suggestions, you might tell them that you have your reasons not to.

Sort of. I find it odd. I don't think talking to someone would do any good. I just brush it off but yeah it has made me uncomfortable. I could easily just find another location to go to if neccessary. I really don't see a problem with walking in early, as long as I am not in anyone's way. Most people actually like that, especially those who are higher up.

[Trippin2.0]

Maybe these people are simply curious and just trying to help by suggesting alternatives...

Has anyone actually said they find your presence at work or the study / socializing place annoying, or is that your interpretation?

It's not uncommon to misread certain people...

[MiddayNap]

Do your coworkers ask you this every single day? If so, I can understand how it could be annoying. I do agree with Mr/Miss Trippin2.0, in that you may be misinterpreting what is meant. To be sure, you could simply ask them if your routine bothers them-that seems like the most logical solution.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by MiddayNap

Do your coworkers ask you this every single day? If so, I can understand how it could be annoying. I do agree with Mr/Miss Trippin2.0, in that you may be misinterpreting what is meant. To be sure, you could simply ask them if your routine bothers them-that seems like the most logical solution.

I don't do it every day, but it is pretty much every time I do go early. I may ask to see if me going in bothers them. I really don't think it should because, like I said before, it has no affect on how their day goes. If anyone is being inconvienced, it is myself. And I really don't mind since I don't do it every day. No one else is being inconvienced. But if it really does bother them, then I can easily find a different location in the building to go to. Most of them don't care, but there are a couple that frequently ask and make it seem like there is something wrong with it or seem annoyed by it.