[Chocopiano27]

Have you ever experience being so confident you feel like you're the leader of the room, and that every joke you make is funny and that you're great in every way? And suddenly those feeling vanish and you feel small, insecure, timid, and very uncomfortable at some particular situation?

I do, a lot. And it's hard to maintain that confidence, I usually get uncomfortable around gossiper girls (i'm a girl too btw) not sure because I had a trauma back then or something, but it really effects my everyday life. I get scared being in an all girl environment, it makes me that uncomfortable to the point where my real personality just can't seem to show (i'm usually loud, funny, and fun to be with, but when I'm insecure I become distant, cold, and rude, even though I don't really want to be that way)

Is there any way to NOT be like that? it has been killing me inside for years If you have any tip or any words to say, maybe any experience, please tell me

[MickeyCheeky]

Have you thought about a therapist? Unless you already see one.. I can relate to your situation in some regards. I'm sorry

[Thunder Bow]

Best to avoid gossip, then you will feel better. Gossip is always belittling.

[eskielover]

I would also question that level of confidence being natural just as the swing in the opposite direction. Maybe finding a middle ground would be all around better.

I agree...i avoid gossip completely. Not healthy behavior for anyone.

I n3ver felt comfortable in all women environments but though I was an only child, i grew up in an all boy neighborhood & necer found interezts in the things that girls had interest in. Even my collefe degree & career in the 1970's was in the male dominated computer engineering field & had no interest in home or family like other women did....so I relate to that feelig.

Howecer it is normal to fid ones self in plaes where confidence is lacking, when in unfimiliar situations. Those are the experiences we GROW & LEARN from. There is nothing wrong with that. Its usually overly arrogant people who never lack confidence or at least dont allow anyone to know that they do even though in reality their confidence is lacking. Learn to KNOW yourself & accept yiurself for what you are in the situations yiu find yoursslf in. Dont try to be something you arent just bexause yiu feel you should be a certain way all the time. That isnt normal either