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Hello all!
I have an issue. It has been bothering me for almost a year now. I have been in therapy for about 2 years now. For a long time, I was really struggling, and now I am doing a lot better. Recently, my therapist and I went from therapy once a week to once every 2 weeks. I know that this is a good thing. However, I am saddened by it cause deep down I know that means that therapy is going to be nearing an end at some point. And I know that in order for me to grow to my full potential that therapy will have to end so I can handle life on my own, and not have to rely on someone else to help guide me through it. I have a fear of abandonment. I was put in foster care the day I was born and I was adopted at 2.5 years old. So, I have a fear of abandonment when therapy ends at some point in the future. Though, I know I would not be being abandoned. But It still feels that way to me, if that makes sense. I fear that when therapy does end that I will have a set back from it to where I will get really depressed again or go back to my old ways. I do not want that at all. So, I am trying to get over this fear now, so I can better handle things in a healthy way when it does eventually happen. So, my question is. How do I overcome this fear once and for all? I feel like this fear is taking control of my life, and I do not want that. Sorry if this post is all chip chopped. |
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#2
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Maybe you should talk with the therapist itself? Maybe he can help you and give you advice, as he's been doing until now
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#3
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I'm an adoptee too, so I get the abandonment issues.
I don't really know what to advise you, as I have only started therapy recently and I don't feel any attachment to mine. I do find it very very hard to trust though, and once I do trust someone and let them in I am terrified of them leaving or doing something to make them leave. I know I'm not answering your question here. I just wanted to let you know that I understand. |
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yes, discuss this with both your therapist and psychiatrist. In the meantime, how are you occupying yourself now during those times when you once had your sessions? I think keeping yourself busy at what used to be session time may be of help coping.
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I'm not sure such fears can be gotten over. Fear is a sign of being alive and taking risks. I think acceptance of fear brings new courage and peace.
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Nammu …Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. …... Desiderata Max Ehrmann |
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I have spoken with my therapist about this fear. She assured me as long as I keep improving and keep showing her I am coping that I have nothing to worry about. But for some reason, I still have this fear and I do not want me therapist thinking I do not trust her when I trust her completely.
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I have talked with my therapist about this before. She told me as long as I keep improving and showing her that I am coping that I have nothing to worry about. I just do not want her to think I do not trust her, if I bring it up again, because I do trust her completely. I, however, have not thought about telling my Psychiatrist about this. I do not see him until March though. In the meantime, I am occupying my time with my college classes and group therapy at my college (so, I can work on this issue in my groups as well).
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