Relationship Anxiety

I am recently involved in the longest relationship I have been in before. This is the most serious one I have been in and I have not had luck with them in the past but I am experiencing extreme anxiety from it.

I love my boyfriend so much, I care so deeply about him but I keep having this huge anxiety about him never texting me back again. When we are together I feel completely fine but occasionally do wonder if he does not love me anymore.
I have asked him before if he would ever ghost me and he says no that he would never not communicate with me again without any breakup.

But I am still terrified of it I get so anxious about him not texting me back at least once a day and I just want it to stop, it is driving me insane. but i feel like If i do not worry about it it will happen to me.

I have no idea where this anxiety stems from seeing as though I was never abandoned as a child I know it could possibly come from extreme low self esteem problems but I just really really want some good advice on how to stop feeling this way and if anyone else experiences the same thing. I have anxiety about a few other things in the relationship as well but I wanted to talk about what affected me the most and on a daily basis.

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Hi,
Perhaps your anxiety about the other things are more relevant than your worry about him not replying to texts?
He might be too occupied by other things, or you may be texting him too often?

Yes, what are your expectations about texting? How often and at what times are you doing so? Is it always appropriate? (ie. when he is at work or a function?). This could not be an indication of his feelings for you at all.

You need to sit down with him and have a discussion about expectations regarding communication. Is texting even something he wishes to do? Perhaps there are times for him it isn't a good time. Perhaps he just isn't a texter (I never respond to a text unless it is a question or requires a response and certainly don't expect an immediate reply either). Personally, if someone wants a conversation with me I expect a phone call. He might have his own views on the subject.

I can relate to your feelings I feel the same way with some of my friend. I keep asking myself if they still care about me, even though there's no reason why they shouldn't..
Could it be a problem of self-esteem, maybe?

its just typical anxiety. i know all about it and yes, it sucks. i have been with my wife for four and a half years and weve been married for 2 years and i still have anxiety about her loving me although i know she does. i have trust issues, im scared of being left alone. i get horrible seperation anxiety when we arent together. if she doesnt text me back right away i worry and freak out. ive learned its just having an anxiety disorder and i have to live with it. like i said it sucks but just do the best you can.