[Donutworryrelax]

Hey, everyone

Look I know that I'm not the only one experiencing problems with my therapist; I mean there's a whole forum here just for talking about issues in therapy. However, something came up in my therapy that really ****ed me up, and I would greatly appreciate any advice/help/support. I don't mean to sound needy or attention-seeking, and if you think that, that's your opinion and I can't do anything about it.

I've posted a lot on here about how hard termination was with my former university therapist, but things have recently took a turn for the worst.

So, I posted on here a couple of days asking about emailing her for closure, and I eventually did so. However, she seemingly ignored my email; I emailed her on Thursday, and she hadn't emailed me since.

So today, I had group therapy with her and the rest of group. I was feeling so mad/betrayed/hurt about her basically ignoring my email and acting like everything that I'd told her had meant nothing.

I told the group about this experience, but I "disguised" her by talking about a boy who didn't text me back. I was so mad/upset that I cried, and swore a bit. I think she knew I was talking about her. After group, I was so pissed that when everyone left, I just told her that it was basically her. It was a **** move, and pretty wimpy, but I wanted to let her know how much she had hurt me.

So she told me that she hadn't received my email until today, and I felt like such an ***. I apologized, even though I wasn't sorry, and left still pissed. She later replied telling me that she couldn't email me because it was bad for "my emotions", but I should bring up my problem in group. Such ********.

Maybe I have no right to be mad at her, but I really hate her. She knows that I have a really hard time trusting people, and she basically destroyed my trust in her. I don't think I'll ever be able to see her in the same way again. Even worse, I probably made one of the few people I trust hate me or think I'm a freak.

So what to do? Any advice or whatnot?

You trusted that therapist. But he/she does have many patients other than you. I'm sorry you felt like an ***, you shouldn't. Just remember that they are bound to keep what they know about you in trust and not shared with others.

When getting into a group therapy situation that is more difficult. I actually had the opposite of what you are describing happen to me. Instead of me talking about her, she talked about me, at least 4 times. She kept saying "such a lovely person once reminded me that I must be on time"..... IT was ONCE that I was frustrated with waiting, I had to wait many times past our appointment times, and I just said, something like "you know, it's hard to wait 10 or 15 minutes past our time that is scheduled".. I guess I affected her deeply by reminding her that time is important to a patient. Although she was much too caring, and often disrupted the group for lengthy periods of time talking about her own mental illness. She needed attention herself.

I don't know what else to say. When you get that close to a therapist/counselor, things get complicated. Your feelings were triggered by feeling as though you were ignored. I hope you manage to work it out with this person.

[avlady]

i'm sorry this happened to you. i think personally group therapy is sort of bunk because one person usually has the floor in my experience. i had to drop out of my group therapy because i wasn't getting any help because of something like that.