[Chocopiano27]

it's not only about relationship, it applies to everything.
i don't seem to trust anything or anyone in this world except my mom. somehow i feel so betrayed

usually i look like a happy extroverted bubbly girl, but i have problems in keeping friends, even though making friends is no problem for me.

people say i have no circle. i just jump around, fortunately people except me, but i still feel VERY lonely and alone. like i have nothing to depend on and that i have to be strong always, and alone.

i dont open up, im scared

but i dont wanna be like that, it's just sad to know your friends just don't know how to approach you anymore and that you feel left out. at the same time i know that I am the one who's behind all these problems.

pls help i cant take it anymore it's so hard to live with no trust.

[sugarbeeMe]

Trust is not "all or nothing". Try to remember this. Have you read any books about setting boundaries? Boundaries can allow you some space to trust "a little bit" one person, in just one area in this one relationship so that you are protecting yourself while testing out this trust thing. You will find some people deserve your trust. Start small because some people don't deserve your trust at all and could hurt you.

[Sunflower123]

I agree. Start small and build up. You are capable of trust. You trust your mom. You could pick your most trustworthy friend and slowly build your trust.

If this continues, please seek a therapist. You don't want to carry this baggage around the rest of your life. Sending big hugs.

[Thunder Bow]

You are not the one behind the problems you face. You do have to Trust yourself first. You have the final say so about what others say about you.

[Chocopiano27]

Originally Posted by sugarbeeMe

Trust is not "all or nothing". Try to remember this. Have you read any books about setting boundaries? Boundaries can allow you some space to trust "a little bit" one person, in just one area in this one relationship so that you are protecting yourself while testing out this trust thing. You will find some people deserve your trust. Start small because some people don't deserve your trust at all and could hurt you.

People are just scary.. Btw do you have any book recommendation about that? I'd like to read one

[Chocopiano27]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

You are not the one behind the problems you face. You do have to Trust yourself first. You have the final say so about what others say about you.

Omg you're right It's been a long time since I feel like I trust and can depend on myself. I guess maybe that's the source of the problem?

[Thunder Bow]

It is part of the problem. Stand up for yourself, and take are of yourself.

[sugarbeeMe]

Originally Posted by Chocopiano27

People are just scary.. Btw do you have any book recommendation about that? I'd like to read one

A tried and true is Codependent No More. I read it years ago and it is still in print, we know it has lasting power. Melody Beattie is the author. Hope you enjoy! ❤️