[Susie72]

Hi to everyone . Im from Oxford England and have currently started counselling . I went private as i am a mature student nurse and i dont want an NHS file on me hanging around !! . I had 6 weeks free counselling organised through the GP . The guy was great got me so well . It had to end as thats your limit . I now pay privatley and had to start at the beginning . In the first session i rushed and felt i said to much about my past as a child . I wanted to be where i was with the last counsellor . I cant take bk what i said but 2 sessions later i feel the same i just want to take back some of the abuse i mentioned and i dont know why !! As i wanted to say it . Im due to see him again tomorrow and he seems keen for me to move on but i feel i need to go bk . He seems quite adamant for me to move on . What do i do ???

[Skeezyks]

Hello Susie: Welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. (By the way, I've never been anywhere in the U.K let alone Oxford. But I sort-of feel like I have been to Oxford because I always used to watch the BBC mystery productions of "Inspector Morse" & "Lewis"; both of which were set there.)

I don't have a lot of experience with therapy myself. I saw a few therapists for brief periods over the years. But none of it ever amounted to anything. However, here is a link to an article by our host, Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D. on that very subject. Hopefully what Dr. Grohol has to say in the article will help you to feel better about where you're at:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/when-y...ch-in-therapy/

By the way... there is a forum, here on PC, dedicated to the topic of psychotherapy. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/psychotherapy/

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

Originally Posted by Susie72

Hi to everyone . Im from Oxford England and have currently started counselling . I went private as i am a mature student nurse and i dont want an NHS file on me hanging around !! . I had 6 weeks free counselling organised through the GP . The guy was great got me so well . It had to end as thats your limit . I now pay privatley and had to start at the beginning . In the first session i rushed and felt i said to much about my past as a child . I wanted to be where i was with the last counsellor . I cant take bk what i said but 2 sessions later i feel the same i just want to take back some of the abuse i mentioned and i dont know why !! As i wanted to say it . Im due to see him again tomorrow and he seems keen for me to move on but i feel i need to go bk . He seems quite adamant for me to move on . What do i do ???

Hi Suzie. Sorry you've had to start again.

It makes perfect emotional sense to me that you'd try to get back to the place you left it with your previous therapist. I'd probably have done the same.

It's not easy deciding when and how much to say about childhood abuse.

Do you have a limited number of sessions you can afford with the new T? Just wondering if that's why he's rushing things.

Either way, he needs to stop! Back up! He really has to listen to what you are saying.

That's my opinion.

Hugs.

Hi Susie. What about if you tell the therapist what you just told us? Sounds like that right there is where you might be stuck right now and what you might want to work on for the moment. You don’t need to go to a point you feel uncomfortable in my opinion. Just my opinion... do what feels best for you.

[Susie72]

Thank you to you all for your replys this has made me feel so much better about tonights meeting . Our sessions are open ended with no date yet to finish ☺

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

Let us know how it goes

[*Laurie*]

Hi Susie, Welcome to PC

Sometimes it's easy to say something while sitting in the safe, closed-off therapy room. Later, we might feel that we said too much and that feeling is uncomfortable.

Also, you might post about this on the Psychotherapy board on this forum.

[Fuzzybear]

Hi Suzie, I just read your post and purple’s reply.

IMO, unless this therapy is time limited because of financial issues (?) this therapist is somewhat out of line trying to rush things so much

This therapist needs to listen to what you’re saying. I wouldn’t tolerate this from a therapist

My best to you

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

Hi Suzie. Sorry you've had to start again.

It makes perfect emotional sense to me that you'd try to get back to the place you left it with your previous therapist. I'd probably have done the same.

It's not easy deciding when and how much to say about childhood abuse.

Do you have a limited number of sessions you can afford with the new T? Just wondering if that's why he's rushing things.

Either way, he needs to stop! Back up! He really has to listen to what you are saying.

That's my opinion.

Hugs.

[Susie72]

Thanks again . I went to therapy and the first thing he did was ask how i felt about saying to much first time . Straight away i felt more comfortable that he had responded to how i felt . I may be poor at the end of this journey but i feel now i will get there 😁

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

That's great news!

[Fuzzybear]

That’s great, Susie