[Candicejantje]

Like it's a struggle to face the world and talk to people and you dont want to deal with your emotion?

[Skeezyks]

I have always felt that way. But I learned, early on, to make myself get up & do what needed to be done. It often wasn't pretty. But I did it. I still do.

[SlumberKitty]

I've been there and wanted to do that, but like Skeezyks, I just make myself do what I have to do that day.

[bpcyclist]

It has been a huge part of my illness.

Yes, pretty much all day every day. I do get dressed when I need to go out, and I cook/ clean/ do stuff, but as soon as I can, I'm back in comfy clothes and in bed with my cat and my iPad.

[~Christina]

There are days when I’d love to just be able to stay in bed but I have chronic pain and I’m OCD about cleaning.

So I wind up getting up to try and stretch out some pain, then I wind up cleaning some and cooking dinner.

And there are a few days here and there that yes I make it out of bed to then spend the day in my chair.

Not all day, but I spend a lot of time in my bed, but not for the typical reason. I'm not depressed or sleepy. I try to get dressed no later than 10 am. Ideally, my bed is made at the same time. My bedroom is my favorite room because it's most comfy. I lounge on the bed with my laptop. Of course I could use my laptop downstairs, but I usually don't.

I had pet parrots for over 18 years and they were housed in a cage in my bedroom. I would often let them out to be with me and play, or if I didn't have them out, they were at least able to watch me and I'd talk to them. If I spent much more time in another room, they would have been given less attention. Since my last parrot passed away, I still spend most time in my bedroom out of habit. I am starting to get out of the house more out of loneliness. Getting out is beneficial. When my husband is home and relaxing, we occasionally sit in the living room, but again, more in the bedroom. Our bedroom is the only room in the house that has a TV. We watch a few TV programs/news at night.

[divine1966]

No. But I’ve been known to spend a day on my couch or recliner in pajamas and a robe. Even on days when I don’t feel well or very tired, I’d rather vegetate on a couch or chair in a living room. I feel that a bed is for sleeping only. Unless I am sick with fever or something.

[cygne]

Yea - sort of. Sometimes I imagine everything, the whole day passing by. Minutes turn into quarters and then those grow into hours. I then wonder whether anyone would notice if I got up, or if it would make any difference.

And I might get a tingly feeling in my throat, my eyes would get watery - maybe I'd shed a tear or two. Would get sick to my stomach thinking about going out or having to get up and face the world and the 9-5 minions, with their painted faces. Am I the hypocrite or is it them?

[mainrain]

Yes. I spent all day Saturday on my bed, and only got up to use the toilet. I prepared one meal, which was cereal, and ate half of it before it felt futile. I just started listening to music a while back, and I hope I can stave off the tedium.

Power and strength to you, my friend!

[eskielover]

I own my farm, I have my horse & dogs that REQUIRE my care so NO, there is no way I can stay in bed all day.

HOWEVER I have an elderly dog who requires a lot of my time unless she is skeeping & sometimes needs my help getting up if she is not on carpeted floor so between doing things around my farm I do go up to my bedroom with her & crash on my bed & read or play on my phone & my kitten loves to crash on the bed with me between his holy terror kitten play....but definitely it is not an all day kinda thing. Just too many responsibilities that have to be done. Only when I am sick & even then I have to at minimum care for my animals.

[princesscookie19]

SOmetimes I normally wake up @ 9am than I might go back to bed for an hour and than have a hot shower to get me threw out the day.I don't see anything wrong with sleeping alot.Its good if you hear voices and most hospitals recommend sleep if you are having alot of manic epsiodes. When I was in hospital they just put me in observation with a room with just a bed and a big window. I was so crazy I started to bang on the window but I eventuality went to sleep. It helps.

[HD7970GHZ]

Interesting thread!

Absolutely I do! I do it all the time haha. I think sleep is one of the only ways to reset and recharge myself. The world is overstimulating as it is, let alone all the inner turmoil we experience as a result of trauma. I think it is sooo important to spend time recharging. Sleep is often stigmatized as a bad thing, but in consideration of all the other negative coping skills out there, it really isn't that bad!

I recently read a book on Highly Sensitive Persons. Inside the book it talks about how sensitive persons require extra rest; sleep can be one of these methods.

I think so long as sleep is seen as a coping skill and rarely (if ever) used as a means to avoid - then it isn't anything to be ashamed of. I am soooo guilty of using sleep to avoid, but even when I do I can recognize what I am doing and set limits. At the same time, depression hits hard and often without warning. I think it is okay to allow ourselves the freedom and permission to sleep a lot if our bodies require it. Part of being healthy is maintaining the so called, "balanced life," but also listening to what our bodies need and acting in accordance to it.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

[loner67]

I get up early in the morning usually 2-4 am and then up for two to four hours from then and then have a nap after and then even naps thru out the day...i Dont get much done at all. i more recently suspect that i have ME/chronic fatigue syndrome as it can be congental/heriditary and my mother has it already for two decades or more.... Not much gets done with me, although recently i got my own hair clipped and then later washed-Finally!!!!

[princesscookie19]

really? no. But I should get more sleep thanks for the topic!!

[TheSadGirl]

Typically only during episodes of depression or agoraphobia. Both come and go. During these times I like to sleep my emotions away and feel comforted hiding under blankets.

Experts always say the key to feeling better is to force myself outside. Even during these patches I try to spend a min of 10 min a day sitting on my porch. I believe we need to take care of ourselves and what that looks like is different for everyone.

The nice thing about the internet and forums is that we can get social interaction without having to go out. I like that.

[eskielover]

Wow....reading the responses I'm thinking that a HUGE part of my healing process was buying my farm that I am totally responsible for on my own & the responsibility for caring for all my critters. I HAVE to focus on them, not just how bad I felt. A lot more has gone into my healing than just that over the last 12 years but for me, it seems like that first step was the right one.

[Bcrawford]

Have a couple friends with depression. One of them listened to motivational speaker on being a success. The main take away, "Accomplish one thing every day". After my husband died, things were rough at first, that advice has been very helpful. No matter what, I have an alarm set, I get up and make my bed. (Even if you get back in bed and cover up and don't come out, you accomplished something that day.) The next day, do the same, but maybe drag a blanket with you and veg in front of the TV. But, get up and make your bed. I have days I've sat around in my jammies all day, but, I got up and made my bed. I am disabled, if nothing planned, it would be very easy to be unproductive. But every day I can say, "I got up and made my bed". I know clinical depression doesn't compare. But, accomplishing one thing every day, is a great mood booster.

[bpcyclist]

Originally Posted by Bcrawford

Have a couple friends with depression. One of them listened to motivational speaker on being a success. The main take away, "Accomplish one thing every day". After my husband died, things were rough at first, that advice has been very helpful. No matter what, I have an alarm set, I get up and make my bed. (Even if you get back in bed and cover up and don't come out, you accomplished something that day.) The next day, do the same, but maybe drag a blanket with you and veg in front of the TV. But, get up and make your bed. I have days I've sat around in my jammies all day, but, I got up and made my bed. I am disabled, if nothing planned, it would be very easy to be unproductive. But every day I can say, "I got up and made my bed". I know clinical depression doesn't compare. But, accomplishing one thing every day, is a great mood booster.

Yes. This is good. Making the bed has importance to me. I may not be able to do much, but I almost always do that. The other things I can always do, even if I'm psychotic--which I have been a lot lately--is I can remember to pray and I can breathe when I'm freaking out. Those three things I can do, even when manic and psychotic. Making the bed is a bit harder when depressed, but I still can usually do that much.

Achieving small things is very important to me, because sometimes, that is all I have. Baby steps.

[Photonate]

I've been doing this pretty much 24/7 for the past ~2 years or so, ever since I moved into my 1st apartment. Aside from a few brief manic episodes where I felt positive and would sit outside rather than in bed all day, about the only time I ever get out of bed and outside is to walk to the corner store to buy junk food.

But earlier today while feeling severely depressed and hopeless, I was thinking about how for me personally, ending my own life just simply is ultimately not an option, so that being the case, considering that life (and time) will undoubtedly go on, then the best thing to do is to at the very least take care of and improve my health any way I can. If life is going to keep going on then just not caring about, or taking care of my health, most certainly is not going to bring me any happiness. So if exercising as much as I can, and having a healthy diet happen to be the only 2 things I can manage to handle and do to improve my health, then I really need to start doing them.

A couple of the main reasons (or honestly excuses, rather) I would tell myself for not exercising, are that it is painful due to having 4 fractured vertebrae, and being anywhere in public causes horrible anxiety. But humans are amazing beings, and I realized life adapts, and grows from struggles and adversity, so if I start doing it more often, over time it's not going to be as bad/difficult. My back muscles will grow stronger, and the anxiety and self conscious issue, even if these issues don't drastically improve, will at the very least become slightly more tolerable. So these things, and like I previously talked about how ending my own life ultimately isn't an option considered, there really, honestly is no reason for me to not start taking care of and doing anything/everything I can to improve my health.

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By the way, I thought I'd include and try to explain my personal reasoning for why ever ending my own life isn't an option for anyone it might help who struggles with that matter, so bare with me as I try to explain it as best as I can lol

Basically my personal reason I recently came to, and what keeps me from doing so, is thinking about how rare life is in the universe, and not only how incredible but how much of a gift, life, simply just in itself, is, taking that into consideration. If I live in such an incomprehensibly vast universe, and (at least for now &#128513 we are the only known life, then just like how incomprehensibly vast the universe is, the life, consciousness, sentience and such given to me, is just as incomprehensibly much of a gift, so I am going to cherish and not intentionally do anything that will end it.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by HD7970GHZ

Interesting thread!

Absolutely I do! I do it all the time haha. I think sleep is one of the only ways to reset and recharge myself. The world is overstimulating as it is, let alone all the inner turmoil we experience as a result of trauma. I think it is sooo important to spend time recharging. Sleep is often stigmatized as a bad thing, but in consideration of all the other negative coping skills out there, it really isn't that bad!

I recently read a book on Highly Sensitive Persons. Inside the book it talks about how sensitive persons require extra rest; sleep can be one of these methods.

I think so long as sleep is seen as a coping skill and rarely (if ever) used as a means to avoid - then it isn't anything to be ashamed of. I am soooo guilty of using sleep to avoid, but even when I do I can recognize what I am doing and set limits. At the same time, depression hits hard and often without warning. I think it is okay to allow ourselves the freedom and permission to sleep a lot if our bodies require it. Part of being healthy is maintaining the so called, "balanced life," but also listening to what our bodies need and acting in accordance to it.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

[downandlonely]

I have not stayed in bed all day, but I used to have this really comfy couch, and I would move from the bed to the couch and back to the bed on the weekends. So I guess that's the same thing.

[*Beth*]

I haven't stayed in bed all day since my youngest child was born 31 years ago, but I would like to. I would like to stay in bed all day with my kitties all snuggled around me and a few good books to read.

I have to get up to do the care my pets require, I have to eat and do at least basic chores. I am exhausted, though, from struggling with a lifetime of stress and mental health challenges. So if I can, when I can, I sleep and sleep. Usually, I'm in bed by 10, awaken at dawn to open the curtains for the cats to look out (one cat pats on me until I get up). I drink some coffee, read the news, check this and that, and go back to bed.

The best and hardest sleep I get is between 10 a.m. and noon. I have no idea of why that is.