Would You Say Good Bye?

I've been her at PC for almost 9 months now and have made some nice friends. This subject came up in another thread so I thought i would ask it here. If you decided to quit posting here, would you say good bye to your friends. There used to be a very nice husband and wife team named Bearchic34 and TheLionKingLives - they just disappeared - I really enjoyed their posts. I also feel worried when a PC friend is obviously upset and all of a sudden stops posting. This makes me/others feel concerned. I would never want to leave someone hanging, so I would like to know how others feel about this. Would you let people know you're leaving?

I voted I would say, but, they could be out somewhere doing something.... I would give at least a day before I would get over concerned about it, Babysteps is not stupid, he know his depression won't last forever.

Yes, I would. It would make me wonder why someone would just leave for no reason.

Gotcha

I remember Bearchic34 and TheLionKingLives I also really enjoyed them. I still do wonder what happened to them.

I've been here for almost 4 years now and have seen many people simply leave without saying goodbye. It is disconcerting to say the least.

i voted not sure. It depends on why i'm leaving. I think that i would but if i didn't think anyone would miss me then i wouldn't. Maybe you could so the people that you are talking about. I would hope if i hadn't been around for a while and someone missed me that they would send me a pm and then i would get am email notifying of pm.

yes i would say goodbye and let people know why im leaving to make everything clear before i leave.

I am pretty sure, if I ever decided I needed to leave PC, that I would share this with my PC buddies.

I have been in situations though where I just had to get out and dodge...and I think it's sad when this happens, but sometimes it's the only way to move on.

It would depend on how and why I left. If I were, say, leaving in protest -- something I don't picture myself doing here -- I'd want to make a statement on my way out. At other sites, though, I've just found myself participating less and less until I gradually lose touch altogether.

At least three times now, when some site where I'd been participating regularly changed format and required me to register again, I've just not bothered. I call that the site leaving me, though, not me leaving the site.

I voted I don’t know. I would try to drop those who have befriended me a note to let them know what was going on. I don’t know that I would write a general post to everyone but then again I am fairly new and don’t think a lot of people even know much about me.

That being said, sometimes we have good reason for not contacting our friends online. A few years back I was online and the whitecoats came and took me away. I could not tell anyone where I was including close friends because I was in hospital having a psychotic episode. When I returned (between hospitalizations) I decided to pull my blog without telling anyone what happened. I thought I was being ordered to do so by aliens who were tapping into my mind. I also had paranoid thoughts regarding some of the people I had come in contact with. Some of my fellow bloggers were not too pleased by my sudden exit. I felt horrible about it then but now I say too bad. I was in serious distress and did all I could to maintain myself.

Hi All,

I voted no.

This is just the Internet and this is just a message board.

It's no big deal if people leave. People come on here for various reasons and once those reasons no longer exist or are relevant to them and their lives, they move on.

Just look through the member list on here and you will see hundreds of members. You will also see a lot of folks that were quite busy with posting but are now inactive and haven't posted in years.

Peppermint

Yep. Do not see a reason to leave. As a matter of fact, at the time of my death, my sister friend confidant has instructions to get on here and let you all know.

First off we are not allowed to make a post saying we are leaving its against the guidelines.....

Personally I would just tell my close friends on here and I would do it via msn so as to keep in contact with them.

Yes I agree saying goodbye shouldn't be done in a post. I was talking about PMing/emailing friends and letting them know.

Thanks to all who have responded so far.

I voted "yes" for letting (at least some) people know; there are just emotional obligations to be met here, in my opinion. I've gotten too much genuine goodwill here to just cut-n-run.

There are a few here that I'd even PM my email to, if they ever felt the desire to get hold of me.

Maybe I'm somewhat codependent here, but I would be rather hurt if some of my friends here just vanished without an explanation or a goodbye!

Mike

I voted yes because my whole life has been about ppl leaving without closure... as hard as it would be to deal with it on both sides. I refuse to just leave...when ppl have done that to me it leaves a hole inside my spirit and then just more heartache on top of heartache.... that would be hard for us! ThaCrew

This is a good question Lynn. I answered "yes" but that comes with no guarentees. For an example , what happened to depressedalaskan?
The last I was in contact with him they were putting him on a heart monitor. That was almost two months ago. I still visit his profile but he is gone. Maybe someone knows what happened to him . He was one of my first friends on here and you would think he would at least say goodbye. That is not like him . Maybe he's in a situation where he can't . That is possible.

I agree - I really missed it when TheLionKingLives and his wife used to post. I hope Depressedalaskan is okay. I told my oldest daughter that if God forbid I mysteriously die -she should notify my friends here because I don't like to leave people wondering or worry them.

Chris - it's ironic that I posted this thread on the day you decide, you want to leave. I hope that you reasure your friends here that you WILL be okay,(some members here are worried). I hope that you feel better and reconsider coming back here. I hope the problem you had here, isn't what made you leave - there's always a solution. Be well and I wish you peace my friend

I guess this isn't a joke after all

Regarding 'Good Bye' posts, please read >>>>>>>>>>>

Sorry, but no more "I'm leaving" posts

When I left I pmed my friends and gave them my e.mail address, it was something I had to do at the time for my own health and healing. I know it's upsetting when friends leave, it's everyones personal choice, but if folk are not told it does lead them to worry .... just my thoughts. Ophelia.

At least IMO, I think it's good that leaving posts are banned- it can trigger bad anxiety and other feelings. Better to notify close friends through PM.

I left for a bit, terminated my account. I needed to for my health because I was going through a very screwed up time. I didn't really say goodbye to anyone- my friends that wanted my email address had already asked for it and I figured the rest wouldn't want to keep in touch with me at any rate.

I can't foresee ever terminating my account again. Too many people here that I keep in touch with through PC.

I try to, but there have honestly been times that I haven't.