AM I Unreasonable?

To make a long story short, the "AC/Heating" tenant moved out last July. He left a leather sofa set, bed and some other stuff here which is in the shed. There was no "agreement" with AJ to store this guy's stuff. There is no room in the shed for our stuff, like the lawn mower, gas, and our very own "junk". SO our junk is stored in the garage. We have asked the guy to get his things but he won't come get it. So what do we do?? hmmm

Then it looks like the "contractor" tenant won't be moving out soon, so he goes and puts boxes of stuff on top of MY very own "end tables and coffee tables which happen to be in the garage. I asked him to move his boxes off my stuff and he said he would, but he didn't, so I did....

AJ's bought a beautiful Italian leather sofa set with coffee tables and end tables from one of his friends for me because AJ knew I did not like the blue sofa set. We haven't yet put them downstairs yet, because of the snow and we need to sell the blue sofa set that I am now using. So much drammmmmmmmmmmmma... geesh......... ANYWAY I am irked that someone would pile their boxes on top of my stuff? Maybe one box but not four........AM I just picky........ I would never dump my junk on top of another person's stuff......

Maybe this is the reason I have nothing...... I am honest and respect others.. Seems some folks don't give a hoot other than themselves...They will run you over to get what they want. And I just let them.. But for some reason all this stuff is bothering me.......... In other words... GET YOUR JUNK OFF MY STUFF NOW... NOT TOMORROW.....NOW!...AM I UNREASONABLE?....

AND IF YOU DON"T GET YOUR STUFF OUT OF THE SHED, I WILL EITHER SELL IT OR CALL GOODWILL TO COME GET IT.. I WANT THE SHED BACK AND YOUR STUFF OUT......... AM I UNREASONABLE...... GEESH 7 MONTHS IS LONG ENOUGH. GET IT OR I WILL GET RID OF IT.........

Have I turned into an unreasonable person? Is it wrong to want the stuff out of the shed. Or is it wrong that I don't want folks dumping their junk on top of my stuff??? Maybe this is called "the crazies"......If it is, I rather like it... Call me nuts, call me anything, just get your junk off my coffee tables.....

Good, healthy vent!
Jmo, but I don't think you are being unreasonable...I think you have shown remarkable restraint and patience.
It's good that you are no longer willing to put up with their BS.

Take care of you...

Catherine

Thank you Catherine for understanding. Maybe the time has come when I start to stand up for myself instead of letting folks walk all over me. Even when I say something, they get irked and sometimes threatening, but so what! You can't scare me anymore... They can get mad all they want. Isn't my anger! It is theirs....

Absolutely NOT being unreasonable.
You've told him to remove it..7 months have gone by since.
Maybe, out of courtesy (not that you haven't been more than enough already) but, for YOUR peace of mind....give him ONE more notice to remove it, or it is GONE. And do not feel guilty for getting rid of it, no matter your means.

And as far as your belongings being dumped upon in garage. Hell NO, you're not unreasonable. Like you, I'd never do that to another, either, and I expect the same awareness and respect in return.
If he won't remove his crap off of yours, then....dump it elsewhere. Simple.

People like that irritate the hell our of me, too. You are not alone.
You are not unreasonable.

Shangrala

It took me a long time to stop being a doormat...thinking I had to put up with **** from people.
It was wonderful to think, "I won't let you do that to me any more" and put it into action.
A ten ton burden fell off my spirit when I did it the first time...the second time, I was delighted that I kicked butt.

Go get 'em!

Shangrala... We would have to give him one more notice to remove his things from the shed. AM thinking we need to do it in writing .. I would not have the "heart" to just be rid of his things without one more last chance call for him to get his things..If he doesn't want his things, we don't either and would like to have our shed back for our things...

Hey this is feeling good.. Folks understanding me.. And feeling the same as me.. Guess this is what "you have rights too" means.. ANd it feels good...

As for the "contractor" moving his boxes off my tables, he is not about to do it. I moved some of the boxes earlier. Tomorrow I will move the rest of his boxes and move my things further to the front of the garage. When the snow melts the leather set goes down stairs....

Has taken a long time for me too, Catherine.. This being a "doormat" for others is for the birds...Can't say I feel all that empowered yet.. ummm I was a little shaky when I asked the contractor to move his things... Stopped being shaky when he didn't and I moved a few of the boxes.. Think "strength" stepped in.. smile

Just feels soo good and "empowering" being heard and understood. I will be a glowing when I am a doormat no more...

YOU are NOT being unreasonable, but the other person is for sure... do what you must.

Am trying Rhapsody.... All of these supportive replies are really helpful....I am getting there.. slowly but surely...

I was in a similar situation storing stuff for someone who never came to get it after repeated requests. Eventually, we placed a notice in our newspaper that if the stuff wasn't collected after 7 days, the stuff would be sold to defray costs. We got rid of it all and have still never heard from him to this day.

I'm not sure what State you live in, but some States have laws that say if you leave your stuff and don't come for it for a certain period of time it is considered abandoned. It would seem that 7 months would be long enough, especially if he hasn't made any attempt to compensate you for the storage of his things.

I would check the law in your State and then, if it is indeed considered abandoned, you could donate it or sell it and it would be within your rights.

Good luck to you.

As Elysium pointed out there are state laws about tenants stuff. I used to work for a guy that managed a ton of properties and in our state you actually aren't allowed to give away, sell, anything other people's stuff if they leave it. He has a HUGE warehouse space filled to the brim with people's stuff and he's obligated by law to keep it all.

Not to be a downer at all, because i think it sucks that they are taking advantage of you like this, but please check your laws, it would stink to get a notice one day that you have to pay for the replacement of his stuff. Good luck.

My parents used to have a lot of rental properties and went thru similar trials. In Ohio you have 30 days to remove your stuff or it becomes property of the landlord. The tenant has to be notified in writing and a notice placed in the local newspaper. After 30 days you can do whatever you want with the stuff.
Good luck.

You got your groove on now, Radioflyer!! Know it's hard not to let people trounce on you. I'm still practicing being assertive.
Yeah, put what you want in writing. I do watch those tv shows like Judge Judy (okaaay, my guilty pleasure) and she always wants to see a copy of something in writing. That way, if you're taken to small claims court (heaven forbid!) you'll have covered yourself.

I agree with the OP that you should check your local state laws or get an attourney.. You don't want to end up in court With him suiing you over it..(spelling)..

I had a similar situation, and I gave the guy his last and final notice in writing and then I got rid of it, as he never responded. isn't there a clause something like 'abandonment' As for the boxes, I would move them off your stuff.

My rule is I treat others how I want to be treated and generally I am a very nice person and get along with most people. Now that being said if someone disrespects me or my things then I no longer feel that I need to treat that person that way because they are not be nice to me. The first time I ask someone to do something or stop something I am usually patient and nice the next time I am not. After 7 months of his stuff being in the shed I would write him a letter stating that he has one week from today to get his junk out of the shed or else it will be considered abandoned and will be up to your digression to do whatever you want to with it. As for the other guy putting his junk on your stuff I would talk to him and tell him I asked you to move it you didn't and I had to, so in the future I would appreciate you not putting your stuff on mine.

Think my "thanks" button took a walk on me.. It vanished...

Elysium... Thanks for the suggestion...IS a good idea to check out the laws of this state and see what we can do legally..