[midnitegreen]

My grandmother is so annoying with my dogs. She baby talks them and gives them so much attention all of the time. Sometimes i really like them. but when they shy away from me because i am very loud and move quickly i get angry. Anyone have any advice?

[Yoda]

Likely they associate your anger with being loud and moving quickly. Like Pavlov's dogs.

Dogs sense things we, as people do not. They give unconditional love--it is why it is so easy for so many to love them, and they are now used as Therapy Dogs for people with PTSD. If you only love them some of the time, as you say, they know it.

Your thread says "I hate my dogs"--is it possible that they sense that you hate them? They are bonded with your grandmother, and not with you?--Perhaps, if you treat them as your grandmother does, they will see you in a different way? Then you can bond with them?

I wish you and your dogs all that is good and healthy in your relationships---theo

[Sabrina]

I also wish you well with your Grandmother's dogs but sense that they are scared of you. Perhaps you can soften your voice around them and watch your quick movements. I have a well adjusted but very timid dog who cowers if I raise my hand (not to hit her) and it sometimes frustrates me but I just placate her with loads of love and attention.

[Shangrala]

I think it goes far beyond just our behavior with dogs. They can sense how we "feel" about them, despite how we "act", and they respond accordingly.

We recently added 2 baby toy poodles, (sisters) to our family, with the intention that one of the girls would be my daughter's, (who's 14), and the other as mine.
All went well for the first couple weeks. Nilla, (my dot's pup), was responding well to her until dot began to lag on her attending to her. Naturally, I became the initial caretaker of both.
Since, Nilla's attention diverted over toward me as her "mommy", instead of my dot, as Nilla didn't sense the love from my daughter as she received from me.

My daughter began to mention how Nilla doesn't "love" her. I told my daughter, that telling her pup hello when she felt like, then shoving her aside the rest of the time it isn't enough to form a bond. That bonding means....accepting responsibility of the pup...the good and bad.
Also, any animal will not respond favorably to a fearful situation, (with yelling as one of them). To form a bond with an animal, you must FIRST gain their trust..and that wont happen when they sense fear.

If you really want to form a lasting bond with your dogs, then you have to first understand that you receive what you invest.
"Acting" like you want their companionship isn't enough. They know better. You have to "want" their companionship. In order to obtain their companionship, you have to earn their trust.
Your grandmother "baby talks" them because it's how she "feels" about them. To her, they are her loved ones.
I do the very same thing with my pups...to me they ARE my babies. Naturally, I attend to them exactly as such no matter the situation. I'm constantly talking "lovies" to them, (my hub and dot think I'm odd for that, but it's how I "feel" about them). And they respond by following me everywhere, under my feet constantly...etc.

A great way to begin a bond is by being the one who feeds the dogs. Perhaps, you can be the ONLY one who feeds them...and when you do, talk to your dogs..(lol...I know that sounds odd, but...they DO know the difference).

Hope that helps some....
Shangrala