[jbug]

Well my driving privileges have been taken away so I have to move back in with mom and dad until they get reinstated. I guess Dr. Baker didn't realize and neither did I that when I am able to drive that means I am no longer homebound so I am no longer eligible for home health. Well Dr. Baker wants me to have home health so I can no longer drive . I am very bummed but think that for some reason it has to be good. I know the temptation for smoking was extremely hard and I have to admit I gave in a couple of times . I am very ashamed to admit that. So on that hand it is better for me to be out here so I can heal and not have the temptation of that. It is very easy for me not to smoke when I am out here because there is no one to supply them. But when I am at my apartment all I have to do is go to the neighbor and he will give them to me. This will give me more time to build good habits in place of the smoking.

I am trying to remain positive but it is rather hard.

Jan

[perpetuallysad]

Aw jbug, that stinks. I know you were looking forward to getting to leave your parent's house. But you are right, maybe this will be good for you and give you more time to heal and feel good. Don't be hard on yourself for smoking, it's good that you haven't completely picked it back up. Baby steps...

[Naturefreak]

Sorry to hear that Jbug.

[shezbut]

Sorry that you have to move out jbug.

Focusing on the positive is a good idea ~ just don't kick yourself for your missed steps. Try to focus on here & now for quitting smoking. Reducing the temptation and ease of smoking ought to be a help in kicking the habit.

Wishing you the best, Jan.

[jbug]

Well I had to tell my parents about my oopsy on the smoking thing. Let's just say the doodoo hit the fan. So the consquences to my actions are I am not allowed to watch T.V. or be on the computer by myself. When no one is around to watch with me I have to find something else to do.

Jan

[perpetuallysad]

Um, what? Oh jbug, that's awful they are treating you like a toddler. Is there anyone else whom you could stay with while you recover? What would happen if you stood up for yourself and reminded them that while you appreciate their help, you are not a child and won't be treated like one.

[little*rhino]

sweet mother of god.... try just wetting your pants randomly if they plan to treat you like you are 2.

why do you need home health if it is ok to ask?

don't get me wrong, you need whatever you need and you have to work with your doc.. but i am fiercely independent and both my T and i are of the mind that more independence on any level is generally better for anyone. The home health would have to be worth a lot to put one's self in such a situation

i'm sorry it's rough

[jbug]

My doctor says home health will do better wound care than the wound care center.

My parents are very controlling and have been my whole life...I knew there would be consquenses but didn't know what they would be. I figured my dad would take away my MP3 player.

Jan

[jbug]

I emailed my doctor to tell him about the fact that I wouldn't pass my urine test and he said that they are only there to help me heal.

So at least he sounded positive and didn't sound all negative like I thought he would.

My dad is just concerned for me and is reacting the only way he knows how to and I need to learn to accept that as this is the only place I have to live at.

Jan

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Sending you some support Jan...just take it one day at a time and mark them off the calender...

Thinking of you,

Rhiannon

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by jbug

My doctor says home health will do better wound care than the wound care center.

My parents are very controlling and have been my whole life...I knew there would be consquenses but didn't know what they would be. I figured my dad would take away my MP3 player.

Jan

Are you sure that continuing to live by yourself isn't an option? There are Home Health Aides that could visit daily and help.

In my opinion, having independence is much more empowering and healing than living under the hands of another person. Even if that person has the best intention, human beings have a tendency to resist and give up under control. That is a well-known fact nowadays, which is one reason why doctors want us to get home asap.

Your parents tendency to control you makes me think that you'd give up much quicker. That's just not a healthy situation. Call the county and see if you can get their support to help you through. Hugs to you!

[jbug]

It is my parents decision for me to be out here. My dad said he would no longer support me if I didn't come out here and live with them until I can be off of home health. Since I am not able to drive if they have to take me somewhere they have to come into town which for them is about a 30 minute drive to my apartment and then go home again driving for 30 minutes. So it is easier for them to have me out here. Also Dr. Baker my physician said that he would prefer me to stay out here at my parents house. So I am just stuck here.

Jan

[perpetuallysad]

I feel so frustrated for you. Seems like you have little control over the things going on in your life. I hope things get better.

[jbug]

Dad and I talked last night about the no t.v., no computer rule and he said it was because he didn't want me just sitting around not doing anything. He said he doesn't do that so I shouldn't either. He has a hobby of woodworking and he wants me to have a hobby. So I asked if I started to scrapbook again if I could have my privleges back and he said yes. So I am going to go to my apartment today and pick up the rest of my stuff and that includes my scrapbooking stuff. So I now understand the reason behind his rule. He threatened my mom with cutting off her access to facebook because he thought she was becoming addicted to it and I kind of agree with him there she doesn't scrapbook at all anymore she just hangs out on facebook. So she is supposed to start scrapbooking again also. So at least we will be spending time together.

Jan

[venusss]

(((((((((((((Jan))))))))))

It must be so frustrating to be in that situation...