I don't know why i am laughing, i should be scared

Really hoping htat you can stay with the decisions you make regarding AJ. It's hard when it's some one you love. Eventually, AJ needs to see the difference between his raising and the choices he makes as a man and stop trying to blame everyone else for everything he does. It just doesn't work that way. If he's too incapacitated to make any of his own decisions than he should be in a facility, and i don't think that is what he wants, eh? Can't handle responsibilities, well, then you (generally meant) can't handle freedom.
It's past the point of "who started what". It's time it just stopped. I'm glad to see that you have gotten to the point that you won't take it anymore, and I am sorry to see that that was necessary. He is acting way out of line. You need to make sure that you are safe, hon. Take care of yourself. HUGGGGGSS.