I'm always so boring in conversation. How do I stop being boring?

[isadora]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I'm always so boring in conversation. How do I stop being boring?

Hello Illegal Toilet
You shouldnt think your boring. try new things come up with random conversations lol hope this help!

If i say the kind of stuff that comes to my head, they'll think i'm crazy or stupid. Discuss.

[isadora]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

If i say the kind of stuff that comes to my head, they'll think i'm crazy or stupid. Discuss.

I wouldnt judge you. I don't think your crazy or stupid. You got a friend in me

Originally Posted by isadora

I wouldnt judge you. I don't think your crazy or stupid. You got a friend in me

Nah i'm saying like in real life I can't say stupid **** or people give you weird looks.

And then If i try to cut loose in reali life am also second guessing myself . . . am i being TOO weird, am i being TOO random? etc

[isadora]

I feel you sometimes I get that feeling too. Sometimes I say weird things. I'm very shy to talk to people. Cause I don't know what they are going to think or say something about me.

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Nah i'm saying like in real life I can't say stupid **** or people give you weird looks.

I try to speak up my mind about anything and it's like I'm insulting their mother. So I believe that unless you say the exact words they expect to hear or whatever pleases them, they will always give you a weird look.

I guess I stopped caring because I just stopped talking to most people.

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

And then If i try to cut loose in reali life am also second guessing myself . . . am i being TOO weird, am i being TOO random? etc

You shouldnt second guess yourself because that's the one and only true thing there is in life for yourself, you. That's the way I think because in the long run, the one thing/person that will always have/be there for you is you. Sad but true.

And what's the problem with weird and random? Maybe you're just talking to the wrong crowd because I am weird and random myself AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT lol :P

But if you want to be like anybody else, then just listen and pick up pieces of what they say and just pretend you care. It's as simple as that.

Someone: So I traveled to France last year, I am thinking of traveling to Italy this year.
You: How cool! Why Italy, now? (as if you could care any less of them being 2 feet away from you or not)
Someone: Insert random chattery here that I can't be bothered to come up with.
You: That's really interesting, maybe I should travel to Italy too!!!1

Yeah. If you make it about them, they will love you. Most people are that selfish deep down.

I've mastered this art by working most of my life in PR.

Suggestion: Do things that people like to talk about, e.g., go to the movies or read a book. I great opening line is: Yesterday I saw the movie _________. I thought it was ______. Have you seen it?

[Trippin2.0]

I love having conversations with weird and random people, it's fun and unpredictable, the possibilities of where the convo leads are endless, and that keeps me interested Sadly, I only know 5 people like that irl, but lucky for me, we're quite close. The advice above about small talk is spot on. People are fickle, if you seem interested in them, they will interact quite willingly with you, and who knows, maybe they'll enjoy a random topic or 2. Fyi, you are N0T boring, I'd hang out with you any day. I've followed a couple of your threads and I think your interesting, funny, intelligent and entertaining. Sometimes I'm not even sure if you mean to be entertaining, but you have my attention nonetheless.

1982, unhappyguy, you make some good points. I guess I'll try and fall back on overwhelming interest in other people.

Trippin, thanks for being nice about my threads on PC. I guess my problem with conversation exists here too . . . i seem even unable to chat with anyone on PC about anything. I don't know.

[Trippin2.0]

Communication is not something everybody is automatically very skilled at, so there's no need for thinking you're any kind of inadequate. You just need some practice to get into the flow of things. Maybe you can use PC as your practice arena, I'd be willing to be a contender

[MuseumGhost]

You are probably very creative, clearly very intelligent, and you obviously think 'out of the box'. The odds of you being able to talk to most people easily grow dimmer, the higher your IQ is.

My answer was to become a better listener. People LOVE to be listened to. Then, you will find the normal social constructs work in your favor---as people will be asking you (or, they should---can't guarantee it) what your thoughts on the topic at hand actually are.

I've also learned to content myself with just a few good friends, who love & understand me and care what I may actually have to say.

If you genuinely want to interact with people, you do have to work at being accessible; and go from there to figure out who would welcome idiosyncratic randomness and sparkling, unpredictable and unscripted repartee.

And, PS: I doubt very much that you are boring.

Originally Posted by MuseumGhost

You are probably very creative, clearly very intelligent, and you obviously think 'out of the box'. The odds of you being able to talk to most people easily grow dimmer, the higher your IQ is.

I don't know that i'm intelligent, sometimes i think i'm mentally retarded. It's hard to explain, but basically I make logical errors all the time.

My answer was to become a better listener. People LOVE to be listened to.

I'll try this, except it's kinda hard in a group situation to listen actively to someone? Cos then all I'm doing is just listening to a group conversation?

[honeybee777]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

1982, unhappyguy, you make some good points. I guess I'll try and fall back on overwhelming interest in other people.

Trippin, thanks for being nice about my threads on PC. I guess my problem with conversation exists here too . . . i seem even unable to chat with anyone on PC about anything. I don't know.

Thats not true you talk with me and rhylee all the time, we enjoy your jkes, your guile videos and other strange topics lol, your very cool to talk to !!!

[MellyAngry]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I'm always so boring in conversation. How do I stop being boring?

I always feel like Im talking TOO much then its awkward... Then i just get self conscious...