[ladyjane4rent]

Is it mean that I sometimes tell my five yr old that she talks a lot?
Or is it weird that she *never* stops talking?
Three biggest times I hear her yacking away to me when I am striving for silence is: during meals [talking instead of eating and getting angsty because she wants a response from me but I just want to eat,] while I am driving [I either listen to an audible book or nothing at all.. just how I am relaxed while driving - but I certainly don't enjoy chatting a bunch while driving,] and when I am on the phone. I have to go upstairs and leave her with toys downstairs because every time I am on the phone she is tugging at my shirt asking me questions or telling me stories.
I love my kid to death, but damn, she talks a lot.

lol . . .

I don't think it's mean if you tell her that she talks a lot . . . Maybe if you told her that she talks too much it would be mean.

I guess she's not really responsible for a lot of her behaviour at this stage in her life, so it would be up to you to monitor this kind of behaviour instead of lashing out at her. So in that sense it would be wrong to criticize her.

If you are concerned, then maybe bring her up with your therapist or even discuss it with Doc John in one of the hosted chats here.

[ladyjane4rent]

lol, odd post, huh?

I don't think it is a behavioral problem in a sense.. just curious what others thought or if they have related stories of their children.
I think it is a good sign she talks a lot because 1. she is voicing her opinions, 2. she has a very active thought process, 3. she is constantly learning and retaining new things
You are right though, I will try not to criticize her for it.
I always wondered what those chats were about.. are they overflowing with a mass of people itching for answers?

Originally Posted by ladyjane4rent

lol, odd post, huh?

I don't think it is a behavioral problem in a sense.. just curious what others thought or if they have related stories of their children.
I think it is a good sign she talks a lot because 1. she is voicing her opinions, 2. she has a very active thought process, 3. she is constantly learning and retaining new things
You are right though, I will try not to criticize her for it.
I always wondered what those chats were about.. are they overflowing with a mass of people itching for answers?

Not really, sometimes they're a little crowded, but last time i went there were only 7 or 8 people there and only three of us asking questions.

If you want a quick answer from a psychologist without going into therapy about it, maybe one of these scheduled chats is the answer for you.

[Trippin2.0]

My daughter's had verbal diarrhoea(sp) since age 2! Lol, 6 1/2 yrs of non-stop yacking... When she was younger I invented the game '30 seconds of silence', haha, she didn't know how long 30sec was! My niece is 17 an STILL yacking away non-stop! Btw, it's not mean to tell her she talks alot.

[Travelinglady]

I seem to remember from somewhere that little girls tend to be verbal, especially more than little boys. I agree that telling her "she talks too much" might be a bit harsh. Would it work to tell her sometimes that your "ears are tired and need a rest"?

[ladyjane4rent]

Originally Posted by PAYNE1

Would it work to tell her sometimes that your "ears are tired and need a rest"?

GENIUS! Lol, I can't wait to see what her reaction to that will be.

[ladyjane4rent]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

My daughter's had verbal diarrhoea(sp) since age 2! Lol, 6 1/2 yrs of non-stop yacking... When she was younger I invented the game '30 seconds of silence', haha, she didn't know how long 30sec was! My niece is 17 an STILL yacking away non-stop! Btw, it's not mean to tell her she talks alot.

Lol, verbal diarrhea, that is perfect.

[Odee]

The situations where you find your daughter's verbosity as inappropriate are situations where she doesn't yet understand the socially acceptable situations to speak to someone. You wouldn't punish a child for interrupting, but you would tell them that they need to wait for you to be finished and that interrupting is impolite. Same goes for the phone.

I think "little miss talks a lot" is at the stage where she can't comprehend on her own why she's not being listened to. I don't think a five year old can understand that her talking is taking attention away from what others are doing. I've also noticed that little kids are notoriously bad at applying a "word budget" when they are relating information or telling a story. They don't seem to have the concept of 'irrelevant' yet.

Telling your daughter that she talks a lot isn't mean; it's a lesson about learning to communicate effectively. And that's something she's going to learn one way or another!! Better you than somebody else!!

[ladyjane4rent]

Originally Posted by Odee

I've also noticed that little kids are notoriously bad at applying a "word budget" when they are relating information or telling a story. They don't seem to have the concept of 'irrelevant' yet

Thanks for that, I have been repeating this over and over in my head ever since. Every time she starts giving me 500 worded paragraphs in explanation as to why for something I think of this 'word budget' and redeem my patience another few minutes before finally cutting her off. If I don't stop her after a while I fear she could go on and on and on and on and on and on and

[kindachaotic]

Once my son started talking, it was non-stop...
It's not just girls, he never outgrew it. He's 26 now.
I used to tell him I needed quite time.
As an introvert, riding in the car with him was brutal, talks loud & fast.
But... loving your child enough to die for them makes it all ok.
In high school, all that convo came in handy, couldn't hold things in.

[lonegael]

Maybe you can give her crayons and tell her to draw what she's thinking Be prepared for the dammed up explanations when she's done, though! Sounds pretty normal. reminds me of a poem my mom used to recite about me. She used to think my talking was funny.
The brook
I chatter chatter as I go
to join the brimming river.
Tho men may come, and men may go,
But I go on forever!
- source unknown.
HUGGGGGGGS

[Beholden]

Originally Posted by lonegael

Maybe you can give her crayons and tell her to draw what she's thinking Be prepared for the dammed up explanations when she's done, though! Sounds pretty normal. reminds me of a poem my mom used to recite about me. She used to think my talking was funny.
The brook
I chatter chatter as I go
to join the brimming river.
Tho men may come, and men may go,
But I go on forever!
- source unknown.
HUGGGGGGGS

Oh, I love your response lonegael!!!! i have a grandson who is in the Autism Spectrum who would talk non stop if you allowed him. His parents are always reminding him to stay conversational.

LadyJane4rent: At 5 years of age, she just needs to start learning restraint. Her development is likely right where it needs to be. She is the center of her own world, but it's time to have her know she needs to let others talk and others have tired ears and need a break. She sounds precious. I want to know what happens when you give her the crayons and tell her to draw what she is thnking!