[di meliora]

Alex Lickerman, M.D., gives us this advice:

ACCEPTING CRITICISM

For me, this is all about silencing my ego. This is how I try to do it:

1. Don't respond immediately. I presume my first reaction will be dismissal based on my desire to preserve my self-concept. Much of the time, however, I fail at this. But that's okay because I can always...
2. Consider the criticism in a cool moment later. Just because I may vigorously defend myself against whoever may have criticized me at the moment they bring a criticism up doesn't mean when I'm done I automatically dismiss their criticism from my mind or forget it. But in order to do this I must...
3. Spend time on a regular basis asking myself how I can improve. If I've established this as a habit and do it alone when I can have an honest dialogue with myself, I just may have a chance to consider a criticism on its merits. Which is when I try to pause and ask myself...
4. What if what s/he said is true? I ask myself this question as a hypothetical and begin to explore the implications. Which is how I.

Lickerman then talks about sorting out the criticism. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...nage-criticism

I have never been fond of criticism yet understand how insightful criticism is of benefit.

[beauflow]

Thanks for the article Di Meliora

Criticism is something I struggle with as well... I find that for me sometimes it is my mood, sometimes mood mixed with the WHO is giving the criticism...

Spend time on a regular basis asking myself how I can improve. If I've established this as a habit and do it alone when I can have an honest dialogue with myself, I just may have a chance to consider a criticism on its merits. Which is when I try to pause and ask myself..

That there is something that I, myself have done for quiet some time now... It is very helpful for me to improve, and has helped with people that I trust that give criticism..

I still have some trouble to take it some days, but in a way to see that some people just want to throw in idea's and want you to do your best.. not trying to attack or tear me down.. (which is how some of it feels like some days-- but need to remind myself, that is not always the case-- some just want the best product)... one thing I also try to remind myself is that -- it could be taken as brain storming... meaning, I myself can not think of it all-- input from others can be quiet nice too

other times, people that are just critic on everything, it does depend on that as well--- or a person that always is criticizer of specifically 'you' or 'others' or 'something'... those can easily be thrown out the window-- not saying that SOME TIMES they are helpful but usually they aren't and just some one on their high horse (ya know?)....

[DenisDonnacha]

"other times, people that are just critic on everything, it does depend on that as well--- or a person that always is criticizer of specifically 'you' or 'others' or 'something'... those can easily be thrown out the window-- not saying that SOME TIMES they are helpful but usually they aren't and just some one on their high horse (ya know?)...."

that's exactly it, if someone gives real, constructive criticism I will go away, think about it and accept it, but a lot of critics just seem to be criticizing because they can, or because it's your work.