[radio_flyer]

OK We are butting heads.. Or I think it is a power struggle with him.. I am not into power stuff.. I prefer to get along.. To make a long story short...... He pisses me off.........The renter /

I was putting up the Christmas tree upstairs for AJ and the renter said I was making too much noise and that I was invading his space and that I live downstairs and not upstairs. He has a lot of nerve.. Said the wrong things to this old lady....He ranted on that I need to show him some respect and that he lives he too..........

OK I rarely go upstairs..... AJ said I could go upstairs any time I wanted..So this isn't an issue with AJ.. But this isn't really an issue, I'm just *****en cuz what he said pissed me off....

The issue is.........I've been cooking breakfast and dinner for AJ... I make extra for the renter to be considerate..... So for the record I now won't cook for the renter.. or do his dishes......

Of course it would be a plain sin if I told him he couldn't have Thanksgiving food and leftovers.. And I would never ever do that to anyone.. WOuld be the most selfish thing anyone could do... SO he can have all he wants and that is ok for me.....

OK the issue is after Thanksgiving.. When I make the Frittata, which I might make for Wednesday... It is the size of a pie.....Again selfish for me to tell him not to touch it... Neither AJ or I could really eat it all......HOW can I let him eat food that is cooked in small "bulk" without my insides burning up with anger, because he doesn't appreciate anything.. He is a taker... A pure taker......I'd rather give the food to the dogs than to him.. omg that is cruel... But I don't know how to get my inner thoughs calm when I see him filling up his plate and walking off.. Like he is entitled to anything in the kitchen.........It is his attitude.. not mine.. I don't know how to deal with this.. How to let it go when he is so nasty to me and here he comes and takes what i cook....

I think this makes sense.. On how I feel.. I don't like him.. that is clear.. I'm not selfish... Just his attitude irks me......The sound of his flip flops floppen when coming downstairs my whole body tenses up......I need to learn what to do to get over this..

ANY IDEAS.... AJ needs the money, so the renter stays until he decides to move.... this sounds so stupid doesn't it....Even if it sounds stupid, I still don't like the renter.......ugh

OK so the renter is 34/ And AJ told the renter to throw in $100 each month for groceries .. BUT I DON"T come with that deal... Renter is to COOK what he wants...

Bottom line is == It is best not to piss off the cook!

[gma45]

It is hard to live with someone that you don't like, Hell its hard to live with people you do like in my opinion! I suppose you just need to try real hard to make things work the best you can since it is not your place and AJ needs the money. I know how hard it can be. Our renter just moved out Thank the Lord! I felt like I was being so selfish too, over little things like toilet paper ha! But he never bought a roll the whole time he was here 6 months. I think he was just young and had never lived on his own and didn't realize that things just don't appear like food and laundry soap and t-paper. Oh well I can kinda relate somewhat. Just know you are not the only one that has felt those feelings I went through it all last summer. Quick note: Next it will be....cooking in your kitchen with your pans and not replacing things and leaving a mess, I know been there!

[Open Eyes]

Oh Radio, you sure this renter isn't related to the last grumpy one? I think this one is too grumpy and your going upstairs is not going into "his" area, I agree. I think you "give" too much tbh. You have manners and are generous, but maybe you need to pull back on the giving, it isn't appreciated.

It is hard to have to share space with someone like that. You are too giving.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes

[radio_flyer]

GMA.. You made me smile.. when you said it is even hard living with folks you get along with.. Talk about truth.. Do believe you hit the nail on the head....

AJ told me to fight my own battles.. He doesn't want any part of it.. Told me I am a "big girl" and I had to "DEAL" with the renter.... Well, what comes to mind is the renter brought down a stack of dishes and he didn't wash them so I put them outside on the patio. When he wants a dish he is going to have to wash it...

We have the same issue with the "toilet paper" too.. Geesh, I don't even think he buys his own shampoo or body soap... Guess he thinks everything is his.. As all the renters have thought the same thing... The renter doesn't make much money.. In fact he has gained weight since he moved in... He has been eating good. He should realize that and appreciate it.. Not try to dictate...AJ was only trying to help him out by asking only $100 a month for food.. He eats twice a day and sometimes three times a day.. And he is always asking me, "do "WE" have any food made..Funny how our stuff is "we" and his stuff is "his".

I did tell the renter that if he wants to get along with me, he needs to stop riding my back....That we all live here... Not just him... You'd think he was the owner/landlord here.. rolls eyes

The renter was also using our laundry detergent and softner. AJ now hides it in my bedroom. The renter did buy some laundry detergent. Thinks he is worried we will use his..Surprised he didn't take it to his room..

GMA, it does feel good that someone else has been there and understands. I'm just sorry you had to go through it too...Need nerves of steel we need...

I was always polite to him... I ignore him now...He only starts stuff with me when AJ isn't here.....

I have to learn to not let him get under my skin.......And I'm not sure how I am going to do that........ugh

[radio_flyer]

LOL Open eyes... He could be the last renter's brother... AJ wanted me to pull out the Christmas decorations and decorate upstairs.. Make it look nice when mama and the baby visits over the holidays....

AND yes,, this renter is grumpy.... He is worse than a woman pmsing....Gesh...

Good point that I do give too much... Guess I am feeling at this point, "why do I always have to be the nice one"....Maybe I don't want to be nice to him...Ignoring him is working for now.

I don't think "appreciate" is in his vocabulary.....ugh

[beauflow]

(((Radio)))

I don't think it is rude to let the dogs eat the left overs over this human that is being rude and mean and taking things for granted.

He is a renter of a house hold that has other people that live there.

I agree there should be boundaries but if there are common areas like the living room- then well, that is just that- common areas.

(((I hope things get better)))

I do hope that this guy, is just blowing off steam, perhaps things are bothering him and misdirection to you perhaps? I don't know, but a suggestion of another angle as well.

[radio_flyer]

Beauflow.... I don't know what his deal is. Nobody here is "riding" his back about anything. He just moves in and thinks he is "King" of the house..

AJ had to buy a cover with a lock for the thermostat because the renter kept turning the heat up. AJ even told him if he didn't leave the thermostat alone he would charge him extra for heat.. That didn't stop him.. SO now he can't mess with it because it is locked. Odd thing now the fan to the furnace won't turn off which means the blower runs constantly. Not sure why the repairman "the guys that installed the heat pump " haven't been here to fix it. AJ s aid he called them..

Might be things in his life that is bothering him. That doesn't give him any reason to take it out on me. He comes home from work, jumps in the hot tub, runs around in that towel wrapped around him, "ugh"......Gets, or rather he "used to get" a hot meal after his "relaxing time" in the hot tub.....Then he sprawls on the sofa to watch tv.. Surprised he doesn't expect us to "spoon feed" him his meals..... ugh

[lizardlady]

Radio Flyer, I don't know if you could do this, but what about a rental agreement that spells out what is expected of everybody?

IMO, this guy has it made. I've had friends that rented a room from someone and that's exactly what they got - a room! They had bathroom privileges, but had to use their own hygeine products, they had kitchen privileges meaning they could cook their own food, laundry was done at the laundrymat.

I'm soory, I don't know why you live with AJ. Would it be possible for you to get your own place?

[radio_flyer]

Lizardlady., I agree .. the renter has it made and he is too stupid to know it.... I've been there too. In the 70s I rented a room.. That is exactly what I got. A bedroom. I had to eat out. Do laundry at the laundry mat. Could not even have food in my room. I am not even sure I had a tv, but then I might have. hmmm
My landlady must of warmed up to me because she started to bring me a cup of coffee in the morning before I went to work..

As for getting my own place.. I guess maybe that could be an option.. Just be very hard for me to live alone again... I don't know if I've be more happier living alone.

I can add that AJ had a chat with the renter this evening. Firmly, told the renter to lay off me... SO atleast AJ confronted the renter.. Set things straight...

Renter washed his dishes this evening.. And he will cook his own food. And to add, the renter is trying to warm up to me, but it isn't working... I will tolerate him, but keep my distance.. I don't like him and that is that...I will do nothing for him... End of story....

I'm exhausted... lol.... Mama and baby are here this evening... Baby has grown so much... He is so cute... He is teething, we think. He drools a lot and that is a sign of teething.....Gosh, AJ is so happy when he is around the baby... I hear baby's mama and AJ laughing.. SO nice hearing them laugh.......and enjoying the evening.... LOL, I don't know what I'm saying becuase I am sooo tired......... off to bed...