Can someone help me understand

I'm with you as I like farmergirl's idea too... Doubt we could increase the rent... But $100 per month to wash his dishes... sounds good to me.. Can always use the extra dollars...I will have to take a picture because I am sure it would be priceless, the look on his face when I tell him I will wash his dishes for $100 a month..................................

OMG Renter washed his dishes twice today.. He was making lunch for his g/f and we were talking. For whatever reason, my voice was "softer" today.. And I forget exactly what all was said. He asked if he could use our plates and I said sure, as long as you clean up. And if you don't I know where to put the dishes. He smiled and said yes, he learned his lesson.. I then said, asking him to wash his dishes isn't that I am punishing him. I said I'm not here to punish or hurt you. Just would like you to be considerate and clean up after himself.

SO low and behold, he washed his lunch and dinner dishes.. WOW,, I am pleased..

Yay, yay, yay! Hope it continues indefinitely.

amandalouse... took me awhile to respond.. here goes..

You said "yes you have rights but you cant force someone to do something they dont want to do.. at least here in new york the law says everyone makes their own decisions unless they are under the age of 18. adults are free to make their own decisions about what they want to do and say. not everyone is going to do and say things the way we want things to be done or said"...

This is true, we can't force someone to do something they don't want to do. And yes, adults are fee to make their own decisions about what they want to do and say.. IN my opinion, a person that expects me to clean up after them because they are expressing their "rights" tells me a lot about that person. Tells me that this is the type of person I would rather not be around because they are self centered and expect the world and everyone to revolve around them. In other words. It means they are saying the most important thing in the world and the only thing that matters is me, me.

You said "let me use another example...posters here on psych central... can you force someone here to do something they dont want to do for example maybe the word sunshine triggers you, irritates you and you want posters to not use that word to find a different word to discribe the weather where they are..you can ask them, you can place them on ignore you can report them but that does not mean they are going to stop using the word sunshine and post the way you want them too right.."
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I can't argue the fact that people have rights. Of course they do. But there are also guidelines on Psych Central we are to follow. And if we don't follow the guidelines, because we are exercising our "rights", we would get a warning from the Admins. If we continue to disregard the guidelines, I do believe we would be booted from Psych Central. Psych Central has the "right" to expect folks to follow the guidelines.. We then are exercising our "rights" to either follow the guidelines or or get booted? right?

Unfortunately, there are times when we have no option other than to "tolerate" bad behavior, esp in the workplace, or stores, etc. But I also think that in "our home" where we are to feel safe, comfortable in our "space" from the world, we can expect folks to cooperate, be considerate of each other, be respectful of others, so that our home environment doesn't become a war zone....There needs to be a place where we can just chill... And that means we don't have to be a chillen in our housemate's filth..

Guess if a person is messy and doesn't care about dirty dishes or how clean they keepe their living environment should live with folks that think the same as they do. Then one would not be imposting "to be clean" or "to be messy" .

Guess I did something right, because the "renter, housemate" started washing his dishes.