I just wanted to be treated equally by everyone. People get a lot of things from others: birthday wishes, friend requests, presents, valentine's cards, and lots more. What have I got? Unless I tell them or remind them that it's my birthday, nobody cares. The world is cruel towards me.

[Trippin2.0]

I think you should surround yourself with a higher quality of people... Clearly the ones you engage with are not meeting your standards, I think its time to go shopping. Out with the old sub-standard people, and in with the new ones who will treat you as you expect to be treated.

Just my 2c

Just to add to what Trippin said... you may also want to try being the type of friend you'd like to have.

[spondiferous]

Yeah. It helps to have some idea of what you want, beyond other people acknowledging you. Then evaluate yourself: are you this way for others? What kind of feedback do people give you? Because the other part of it is, even if it's stuff you don't want to hear, if you're hearing it a lot from various sources there's probably some truth to it. And if you do indeed embody things that turn people off/away, you likely won't have much luck with them until you do something to change that. And then yeah, start seeking out healthier people that treat you better. That's pretty much a bare minimum in my books.

[yellowfrog268]

That is one of my pet peeves.

When people who know you make no effort to remember your B day or other special days.
But these same individuals would be offended if you forgot them right?
Sometimes it is done by people you cannot just cut out of your life.
Just so you know, you are not alone in this.

[Blake04]

I agree with whats been said so far. Some new friends and the Golden Rule.
Its really disrespectful when people just barely acknowledges you.

But you also really remind me of a women i once knew. She was almost saying exactly what your saying, and i really believe she was trying her very best to be kind and friendly to everyone.
Sadly i think her best was just too good. She was so intense about being good that it come off as almost strange. People just noticed it right away. She was really "trying too hard".
When she was little she lost her mom and i believe thats why she was trying desperately to make everyone around her happy so they wouldn't leave her.

The point is, becours she was trying so hard, it worked against her. And when she calmed down and tried not reading too much into normal everyday situations, people around her started enjoying her company and showed her more respect.

I dont know if any of this would apply to you. But its something to consider at least
And ofc theres nothing wrong with being friendly! The world could always use more of that. And maybe you are just surrounding yourself with very self centered people. So time to find some new people. Maybe pursue some dream or hobby and make friends through that. Sharing a strong fondness of something is a great way to make friends since it tends to happen organically.

Best of luck!

Originally Posted by Blake04

I agree with whats been said so far. Some new friends and the Golden Rule.
Its really disrespectful when people just barely acknowledges you.

But you also really remind me of a women i once knew. She was almost saying exactly what your saying, and i really believe she was trying her very best to be kind and friendly to everyone.
Sadly i think her best was just too good. She was so intense about being good that it come off as almost strange. People just noticed it right away. She was really "trying too hard".
When she was little she lost her mom and i believe thats why she was trying desperately to make everyone around her happy so they wouldn't leave her.

The point is, becours she was trying so hard, it worked against her. And when she calmed down and tried not reading too much into normal everyday situations, people around her started enjoying her company and showed her more respect.

I dont know if any of this would apply to you. But its something to consider at least
And ofc theres nothing wrong with being friendly! The world could always use more of that. And maybe you are just surrounding yourself with very self centered people. So time to find some new people. Maybe pursue some dream or hobby and make friends through that. Sharing a strong fondness of something is a great way to make friends since it tends to happen organically.

Best of luck!

Unfortunately, I'm not a woman.

[Trippin2.0]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

Unfortunately, I'm not a woman.

Really? That's all you took away from the previous post?

Read it again and forget the friend was female, especially since the gender is irrelevant

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

Unfortunately, I'm not a woman.

Maybe I should just let nature take its course. Instead of trying to befriend them, let them seek me. I really do want them to seek me.

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Really? That's all you took away from the previous post?

Read it again and forget the friend was female, especially since the gender is irrelevant

I think i have taken in more than just a female. So when you don't try others will come to you. How often do I get such an invitation?

[shezbut]

I know you're eager for some solid advice on what to do and what to expect from others, when...but it isn't that easy. That's the whole point of not pushing yourself so hard towards others. As people really do pick up on your desperation and it turns them off.

Find some enjoyment in things that you can do by yourself and enjoy, without counting the days or hours before someone calls you. Once I got a job (as a hostess at a restaurant) and that filled my desire to meet lots of people. I chilled out a lot on that inner turmoil I felt about being alone. Once I did that, I made friends.