[Sameer6]

How many of you hated your School/College life and what reason ?

I never liked it.Talk about being a shy kid and also having severe anxiety and even worse having few Teachers who also beat adults. Hmm..these days i heard about few of the International schools here where they don't beat kids as well as don't even shout. Now that is the kind of school i would like.
My sister is working in one of the International schools and i went to that school once with her on a day they had a function. My sis may have liked her school life but didn't enjoyed college life because she didn't joined in a college.She was betrayed.She did wanted to enjoy the college life but it didn't happened.She is very intelligent though and i never liked both School/College. The school i studied before which absolutely sucks and i discontinued college (How it will be, if you are forced to study something which you never liked.That is what happened for me that time.)
My sis rarely talked about how bad she felt when working in that International school when she saw students having their freedom and enjoying the school life as in that school no teacher will shout at you,no problem at all. Me and my sis,we both didn't enjoyed a school or college like that.When she rarely talked about that school,i use to say......Sure i can understand how you feel but hey,don't say that to me,i don't want to hear it as i may get upset.Our time is gone.Not all people in this world are enjoying things that they deserved or wanted.
So overall i never had much chance of being around people.I never was in a place where i could meet people of my interests and i never enjoyed conversations like how 2 best friends would talk about their interests.

as for me, well, i never really had a chance to enjoy it.

i was out of 1 place and thrown in to another quicker than you could say psychcentral

try that... it's not fun

plus my highest grade in any given subject was an F- hardly cool

and yes, was shy too and kept myself to myself

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Yes. I'd be here for a long time explaining why, going through some crappy memories, so I thought I'd keep it simple.

I loved high school, but uni was another story. The stress of uni sent me into an episode and I got locked up in a psyc ward, since then I have been too retarded on meds to go back.

But the highschool days - I'd love to go back to them! Best few years of my life. I appreciated every day as I knew it wasnt for long. I loved my uniform, I loved my friends, I loved my classes, I loved living in a boarding house. I know I lived my life to the full back then, but I still wish I could go back to enjoy it all again. Even with the bipolar cycles and mental health issues it was easy to hide and manageable.

[Webgoji]

Why yes, I hated them both.

High School sucked because, frankly, I got sick of the steroid rumors. If I had been on steroids I would have weighed in at over 180 lbs ... not 132 lbs.

College sucked because I never saw daylight. I'm not lying, there was one week where I was awake for 125 hours. Seriously, I slept 3 hours the entire week. Drinking, partying, going out? Who had time for that?

Originally Posted by Supanova

I loved high school, but uni was another story. The stress of uni sent me into an episode and I got locked up in a psyc ward, since then I have been too retarded on meds to go back.

But the highschool days - I'd love to go back to them! Best few years of my life. I appreciated every day as I knew it wasnt for long. I loved my uniform, I loved my friends, I loved my classes, I loved living in a boarding house. I know I lived my life to the full back then, but I still wish I could go back to enjoy it all again. Even with the bipolar cycles and mental health issues it was easy to hide and manageable.

that's interesting you should say you enjoyed it, why is that?

oh. and you reminded me of a song from avenue q when you talked about that.... "i wish i could go back to colledge, cos at colledge you know who you are". suppose a lot of us deep down probably feel like that... after all that stuff, you're on your own. and it's difficult

[catsrhelm]

Me, I hated high school. Too many bloody cliques. My mother was gone all the time too, and she didn't bloody care about me and what I was going through.

College I love. There are no cliques. I am an adult now and don't really need my mother. I love how you go there to learn, not engage in some popularity contest.

[tinyrabbit]

I had issues at one school in particular with being bullied and picked on. My attendance record was very low as a result and I messed up my exams. I wish I'd gone to a different school. I didn't move as I had such low self-esteem I didn't think it would be better anywhere else.

[coleychi]

i'm 21 and a junior in college. i hated my (private, prestigious, competitive, ridiculous) high school... i really struggled there and i hoped things would get better in college. they didn't. my first year, i had a hard time balancing my social and academic life and ended up taking a year off. i still don't love it... i don't really connect with the people (i'm shy and have a bit of social anxiety) and the work is stressful (i'm a bit of a perfectionist too).

but for me, getting a degree is extremely important (and i can't explain why... i guess just because everyone else in my family has done it) so i'm trying to plow through and do the best i can. i've been told that my depression is situational/i'll be a lot better outside of academia... we'll see-- i definitely hope so. but yeah-- definitely not a fan of my high school or college experiences.

I hated school because I was bullied even in primary school I was bullied and then the bullies followed me to high school, I would skip school a lot and then I would get into trouble.

[cool09]

Yes, I hated HS and College. I had lots of problems with anxiety, racing thoughts, etc. and PSU was super depressing (cloudy, cold and rainy the vast majority of the time). Too many people at PSU, I felt like a statistic.

[Grey Matter]

I hated high school. I loved (and love) learning, but in a school that did not support those like me (mentally ill and disabled) it didn't end well. I was eventually expelled on the grounds that I was having too many anxiety attacks and that they were "false".

As for college, I loved it.

[bronzeowl]

I was bullied in elementary school. I can't even remember most of my middle school years because of my so called 'friend'. My mom tells me, though, that they were bad. So, I figure she's probably right. High school was so-so. With students, anyway. I wasn't as heavily bullied there, and I managed to make some friends. But the staff didn't like me much. History of depression and self harm and all that. When me and that so called friend got in a fight.. both of us had initiated it, both of us had to be pulled apart. And yet, I was the only one to get expelled. Go figure. No surprise there. My mom wanted to fight it. I said no. I cannot, for the life of me, remember why I would have said no. I do remember, though, trying to explain everything and they wouldn't listen. They kept interrupting me. Throwing in words like 'premeditated'. They never gave me a chance to talk. But I was quite used to that by then. If you're one of the three 'bad' things in a bible belt, no one ever listens to you (gay/trans, mentally ill, and poor). High school was miserable because of the staff, not the students. That is pretty sad, if you ask me.

I was sent to an alternative school. Which was worse. I think it broke my mom's heart seeing the way I'd come home. Sometimes I wonder what would have happened had I stayed there. Of course, they treat you like criminals there. Doesn't matter why you're there. There was one teacher that didn't. My English teacher. She actually treated me very well. Suppose it helped that it was my best subject. But if you want to know the torture an alternative school is... think about how they treat kindergartners. Some of the teachers treated us like that. Then others treated us like we were all toughened criminals destined for prison. I just gave up. I would come home every day either crying or so angry that... I just ended up dropping out.

College is much better, to a point. It's stressful. Some days I want to rip my hair out from the stress. But the instructors/professors are MUCH better. Of course, it's a college. I'm sure they have stricter regulations than your average public school. Most of the students are more mature. Overall, much better experience.

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

that's interesting you should say you enjoyed it, why is that?

I had everything I needed to live a happy life. Even when the depression hit and I was self harming, I was very very good at hiding it. I loved being able to hide it, having no one suspect or constantly ask if I am doing ok.

When the hypos hit I was the life of the party, literally, I would party and have a brilliant time without any responsibilities of work or money. I found school work easy, I rarely studied, spent more time with my friends and with my horse.

I was house captain, boarding house captain, on the rowing, netball, gymnastics, equestrian and cross country teams. It was easy to exercise and participate because it was just part of life there. They had so many options for so many fun things!

I look back on those days fondly, and I am so incredibly thankful that my father sent me there. Even before that school I had a music scholarship at another school, I never ever had a problem with making friends or problems with teachers or grades really (one F in year 10 for english but changed teachers and finished the year as an honor student in english).

Yep, highschool was brilliant. I had opportunities and I took them.

[Grey Matter]

Originally Posted by bronzeowl

I was bullied in elementary school. I can't even remember most of my middle school years because of my so called 'friend'. My mom tells me, though, that they were bad. So, I figure she's probably right. High school was so-so. With students, anyway. I wasn't as heavily bullied there, and I managed to make some friends. But the staff didn't like me much. History of depression and self harm and all that. When me and that so called friend got in a fight.. both of us had initiated it, both of us had to be pulled apart. And yet, I was the only one to get expelled. Go figure. No surprise there. My mom wanted to fight it. I said no. I cannot, for the life of me, remember why I would have said no. I do remember, though, trying to explain everything and they wouldn't listen. They kept interrupting me. Throwing in words like 'premeditated'. They never gave me a chance to talk. But I was quite used to that by then. If you're one of the three 'bad' things in a bible belt, no one ever listens to you (gay/trans, mentally ill, and poor). High school was miserable because of the staff, not the students. That is pretty sad, if you ask me.

I was sent to an alternative school. Which was worse. I think it broke my mom's heart seeing the way I'd come home. Sometimes I wonder what would have happened had I stayed there. Of course, they treat you like criminals there. Doesn't matter why you're there. There was one teacher that didn't. My English teacher. She actually treated me very well. Suppose it helped that it was my best subject. But if you want to know the torture an alternative school is... think about how they treat kindergartners. Some of the teachers treated us like that. Then others treated us like we were all toughened criminals destined for prison. I just gave up. I would come home every day either crying or so angry that... I just ended up dropping out.

College is much better, to a point. It's stressful. Some days I want to rip my hair out from the stress. But the instructors/professors are MUCH better. Of course, it's a college. I'm sure they have stricter regulations than your average public school. Most of the students are more mature. Overall, much better experience.

God, we sound alike. I was NEVER bullied by students (luckily) but I was endlessly harassed by the staff. I was sexually assaulted in high school by a boy, and when I reported it in tears, shaking, the Dean asked me "what were you wearing?" not "we will protect you" or "we will get him kicked out". Nope. I GOT PUNISHED FOR IT. We BOTH had ISS. I had to spend a whole day locked in a little room with a boy who wanted to do worse than sexually assault me.

I was given endless detentions and ISS' because I just couldn't attend classes. I would lock myself in a bathroom stall and cry. I'd hide in the library. I could never breathe. They decided to, illegally mind, call me into a meeting without parent representation where the principle told me its all a bit "funny" and "ironic" that I have these anxiety attacks perfectly "timed". You idiot, I had anxiety WITH CERTAIN CLASSES. I said I wasn't speaking without a parent, and I was forced into detention.

My parents came in the next time and till this day I regret it, but I asked my mom not to say anything. I was just so tired and done at this point that I wished they'd get rid of me. And they finally did.

I had a suicide attempt shortly there after. I ended up in a residential treatment place for depression where they let me do some school work. But when I got home, the alternative school was...weird. I didn't hate it. I didn't like it. To be honest, I don't even remember 99% of it. And that's fine by me.

[Sameer6]

Originally Posted by Liverbird

I hated school because I was bullied even in primary school I was bullied and then the bullies followed me to high school, I would skip school a lot and then I would get into trouble.

Oh my goodness...I feel very sorry for you.

Originally Posted by Teen Idle

I was sexually assaulted in high school by a boy, and when I reported it in tears, shaking, the Dean asked me "what were you wearing?" not "we will protect you" or "we will get him kicked out". Nope. I GOT PUNISHED FOR IT. We BOTH had ISS. I had to spend a whole day locked in a little room with a boy who wanted to do worse than sexually assault me.

I was given endless detentions and ISS' because I just couldn't attend classes. I would lock myself in a bathroom stall and cry. I'd hide in the library. I could never breathe.

That is insane. Sorry to hear that you had to go through that.

[eskielover]

I loved school.....always did well & got good grades.....I remember being really shy but for some reason in junior high I ended up being president of orchestra & getting to direct the orchestra for my graduation, I was president of the girl's scholastic club & class rep for student council.....have no idea how shy I was I could have possibly done those things.

High school was a bit more of a challenge......especially when it came to Chemistry & Math analysis.....but did well in all the other classes & really enjoyed being involved in Marching Band.....we got to try out for marching in the Rose Parade, but we were beat out by another band. I graduated the year before they started taking people from every school in Los Angeles to be in a unified band....oh well...that would have been a long cold parade to march in anyway.

College was great....I got my AA in music...performed a lot with my flute & challenged to write a lot of different kinds of music & took choral conducting.....after that, I transferred into the Univ & realized that Music wasn't going to be a good direction so change to Accounting information systems & Computer Science....long before the PC was in existence...It was a challenge....enjoyed the accounting but really loved the business law classes but mostly love programming computers.....ended up getting married (the huge mistake of my life)..........however.....

I got an opportunity to go to Roma Italy for 5 weeks with my husband & his job & had an amazing experience there just wandering around Roma for 5 weeks & finding so many interesting places & tours & meeting interesting people to talk with....I always hated history until I went there I lived completely surrounded by it......that cost me a whole semester off of school but it was so worth it.

Ended up pregnant & had our daughter 10 months before graduating....I had several job offers before even graduating & took the best one.....then about 2 years later ended up taking a position in aerospace firmware design engineering which I enjoyed for 15 years....I went back to UCLA's extension classes to get continuing education & really enjoyed those classes.

After aerospace collapsed in 1994.....I took a couple of graphic design classes....but depression had taken over then & couldn't function & was in & out of the hospital by then.......it wasn't until 2003 when I decided to go back to the local junior college & take interior design classes that I really was able to enjoy school again. My accounting degree came in handy as I ended up treasurer for the on campus interior design club & put together grant request for them to get money for speakers for the club activities. I was the leison with the professional interior design associations.......H had lost his career as an engineer by then also & started taking the classes with me....sadly he had issues with school & tried to major sabotage my class project because he didn't want to do the amount of work I was putting into mine & he didn't want to accept doing less than I was doing. All the serious issues in our marriage of all those years was finally coming to a head....my mother had cancer & that summer she had the surgery & I had a horrible asthma attack from the smoke from a forest fire....my mare had her baby & my foal was injured when 3 weeks old just at the time my mother wasn't getting well from her surgery & the cancer was taking over & ended up going through a trauma with the home care person, anorexia hit.....so needless to say....I never went back to school.....instead it took me a few years to be able to function again.....& I finally LEFT my H moved 2100 miles away to where I didn't know anyone......

Getting back into classes again......there is a Seminary about 20 minutes away from my farm that offers some outstanding classes & being a senior citizen now.....they offer free audit of some classes.....so will be looking into that when I get my place a bit more organized.

Love figuring out how to fix things, take things apart....first thing I did when I got my lawn tractor was to take it all apart & put it back together while installing the mulcher.....love learning how to do new projects.....new hobbies learning how to paint, blend colors & textures. beading jewelry & other projects.....all part of liking to learn new things constantly....good thing I can figure out how to repair things because around my farm & being the only one here, I am the one that has to fix everything that breaks or how to get something done with the tools I have available.......love a challenge & constantly have to learn new things to do this......it makes life interesting & enjoyable even when I end up fighting with a project when it doesn't go as easy as it should.

[ADDithers]

Hated school - never could sit still. My college career lasted two weeks; got bawled out during a lecture in front of all the other students for missing class - I had no idea there was another portion to the class (duh - lab). I decided to call it quits. Big mistake. Have had to work twice as hard for half as much. But I honestly don't know what I could have done, I just wasn't built for school.

Originally Posted by Supanova

I had everything I needed to live a happy life. Even when the depression hit and I was self harming, I was very very good at hiding it. I loved being able to hide it, having no one suspect or constantly ask if I am doing ok.

When the hypos hit I was the life of the party, literally, I would party and have a brilliant time without any responsibilities of work or money. I found school work easy, I rarely studied, spent more time with my friends and with my horse.

I was house captain, boarding house captain, on the rowing, netball, gymnastics, equestrian and cross country teams. It was easy to exercise and participate because it was just part of life there. They had so many options for so many fun things!

I look back on those days fondly, and I am so incredibly thankful that my father sent me there. Even before that school I had a music scholarship at another school, I never ever had a problem with making friends or problems with teachers or grades really (one F in year 10 for english but changed teachers and finished the year as an honor student in english).

Yep, highschool was brilliant. I had opportunities and I took them.

sounds like you got a lot out of the experience.

glad it worked well for you

[yoyoism]

I disliked high school due to personal issues and by senior year, I had low-grade depression. I still passed because my teachers liked me and knew my behaviour was very uncharacteristic. I probably should have almost failed AP English and World History, but I didn't.

It did not blow up in my face until university. Stopped going to class after two months, parents found out at the end of the semester, started therapy for depression and social anxiety in January. Now I am at another college and I am honestly doing very well. It's a lot easier than uni (program and workload wise), the classes are smaller and less intimidating, I can interact with my professors (which is really important to me), I have friends, and I'm getting good grades.

There is still a small niggling thought that I am not good enough though. I need to go back to university one day, college is really simple. But I'm afraid I won't be able to face the challenges, deal with the workload and stress again. We'll see.