[ptangptang]

So i'm on POF and cos i'm not the greatest looking guy around i decided that humour was the best approach. I do have a pretty quirky sense of hunour anyway so that does suit my personality. I would really appreciate it if someone who is on there ( the more the better really) could give me an honest opinion of how my profile comes across. I will do the same for other people too. Am i wasting my time on there ( i know it's free but.... ). Also what are your experiences of POF. If you can i will pm you my name on there. Thanks

[Melmo]

Ill check it out

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Yes I will do this for you.

[manwithnofriends]

A dating site? Seriously though, you've got to be extremely lucky to meet someone on there that you really click with. Most (men in particular) aren't interested in the long-term and some aren't what they claim they are (pictures say nothing about the user). Also, if a user provides his/her Facebook/Twitter/Instagram etc. accounts to prove he or she is real then the purpose is defeated.

[ptangptang]

Originally Posted by manwithnofriends

A dating site? Seriously though, you've got to be extremely lucky to meet someone on there that you really click with. Most (men in particular) aren't interested in the long-term and some aren't what they claim they are (pictures say nothing about the user). Also, if a user provides his/her Facebook/Twitter/Instagram etc. accounts to prove he or she is real then the purpose is defeated.

Haha, yeah i know.Like i said on another thread im sure about 95% of both sexes make a decision based on first impression looks esp on a dating site and if you haven't got even average looks you don't really stand much of a chance. I messaged one woman and she responded with 'you're not quite as ugly as sin, but verging on it'. Charming, so much for the gentler sex. And she was no oil painting haha.

[MuseumGhost]

Oh, ptang! Brave man. I think you look like a lot of fun. And you are NOT ugly. You look like you have lots of funny stories to tell, and you have twinkly eyes. Hopefully someone will come across it who has slightly more depth than a thimble----sheesh, people can be so cruel (especially thoise with no clue!!!).

I'm in Canada---so I don't know what POF stands for. But if you give me a little time, I could cast around & try to find it.

One solid hug for admiration. ((((hugggg))))

I did the online dating thing for a while.

Actually, it was fun.
I had a few dates with some pretty interesting, fairly intelligent [and fun/funny guys]. Nothing panned out, and the whole "dating thing" generally isn't my style... but if it was, first- I found OK Cupid, personally was more my speed, and second... I found that when I was kind of like "screw it" and wrote whatever i damn well pleased, reflected who i actually am and what i am like in my profile [and at some point it became just something ridiculous I'd write on when I couldn't sleep], people seemed to pick up on the genuine quality of it.

And I got better quality responses.
I got fewer responses- but they were often WAY more appropriate.

I am off OKC now but I saved my profile because at some point some of it was written kind of as entertainment for myself, so I don't particularly mind sharing. [also there are a lot of questions you can answer on OKC- multiple choice but you can also provide commentary; I started doing these when I'd have a few minutes. I took full advantage of the extra commentary sections and saved those as well HA]

ETA:
SAMPLE:
There are a few different sections one could fill out in the main profile on OKC.
one is titled
You should message me if
[my response:]

There are a lot of reasons one could message me:

***Someone mentioned on here that they "think about" the limits of space. I inquired as to whether they were indicating the edges of our universe, or that that like on a quantum level, nothing ever really touches... I mean it made sense to me.

I basically got a "WTF?", and a ceasing of communications.
Now maybe they were traumatized by a past physics class, but obviously, that was not someone with whom I was meant to spend much time. If you appreciate that line of reasoning, it might make sense to send me a message.

[if any of that made you laugh a little, you should probably contact me, as well]...

[sorry I keep doing this thing where I don't say everything I mean to in the first post I make]

RE: looks, etc.

So, my experience was, regarding looks, whatever else...
I had pictures up, yeah.

One of the things I did when I would start to talk to them was tell them, pretty much right off "Look, I know my face looks cute, but I'm a big girl. If you can't deal with that, I don't really want to meet you. Also, I'm crazy-actually certifiable, and I don't want to hear any crap about that. So, if you can't deal with either of those things and I'm going to get crap, we can not meet at all ever"

...I think generally they found me engaging enough to continue conversation and meet?

I don't know what that says though, just an observation/"food for thought"