Hii, just wondered, who all are okay with adding people from PC or any other social network site onto Facebook? I'm okay with it depending on the person but don't do it often.

[Canyon]

I don't do it. Although I did just deactivate my FB account. I do temporarily activate it from time to time. It has people from my family, my time in school, work, and other personal things that could be used to track me down through "friends" if the person and I were to not have the same boundaries or have a falling out.

If it were a made up account without people from my real life and without my real name, then I would consider it. I just don't see the point to setting up such an account to supplement what can be done through PMs and things on this site.

BTW, I did have a horrible experience with having a couple of FB "friends" whom I moderated with at another board. I had known them online and through skype conversations for quite a long time. When we no longer saw eye to eye, they turned on me and tried to drag family, friends, and co-workers into the fray. I would say CAUTION is essential when you have no real world experience with a person.

Originally Posted by Canyon

I don't do it. Although I did just deactivate my FB account. I do temporarily activate it from time to time. It has people from my family, my time in school, work, and other personal things that could be used to track me down through "friends" if the person and I were to not have the same boundaries or have a falling out.

If it were a made up account without people from my real life and without my real name, then I would consider it. I just don't see the point to setting up such an account to supplement what can be done through PMs and things on this site.

BTW, I did have a horrible experience with having a couple of FB "friends" whom I moderated with at another board. I had known them online and through skype conversations for quite a long time. When we no longer saw eye to eye, they turned on me and tried to drag family, friends, and co-workers into the fray. I would say CAUTION is essential when you have no real world experience with a person.

I totally agree with you and I do it very rarely, and honestly, I usually wind up deleting the person because eventually the person stops talking to me.

[dillpickle1983]

I don't do it unless I really know the person in real life.

[smmath]

Very interesting question. I have no qualms with adding people from here or even giving out my cell # and email address. I am not concerned with giving anyone my basic info because I trust people and don't worry about "bad apples". Besides I rarely go on FB and no one could hurt me with the info I would give them. I usually let the other person make the first move because I couldn't handle the possible rejection.

[penguinh]

I don't do it- even for a close internet friend that I've known for years because I like to keep the anonymity. I feel awkward because people I know in real life don't know about my personal problems. I like to protect my image/ people's perception of me.

[smmath]

Penguinh, that makes complete sense. I think that anonymity on here is what allows people to ask for support with what is really bothering them.

Originally Posted by smmath

Very interesting question. I have no qualms with adding people from here or even giving out my cell # and email address. I am not concerned with giving anyone my basic info because I trust people and don't worry about "bad apples". Besides I rarely go on FB and no one could hurt me with the info I would give them. I usually let the other person make the first move because I couldn't handle the possible rejection.

I totally agree with you, other than you and a couple other people, I don't have many FB friends from PC or other websites because I fear possible rejection.

[LiteraryLark]

I've done it, but personally I just like to keep my profile exclusively for people I know in real life.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by penguinh

I don't do it- even for a close internet friend that I've known for years because I like to keep the anonymity. I feel awkward because people I know in real life don't know about my personal problems. I like to protect my image/ people's perception of me.

That, and the whole, what if someone from real life, goes, hey, how'd you meet them? Well, um, .... Besides, mine would be ladies only, as that's precisely how my FB is set up, barring blood relatives. Long story, there was a bizarre fall out when I changed from married to divorced, and I'd had mixed genders on my former fb. Less drama, this way. Besides, the point, this second FB experience, was initially to set up social media for the youth wrestling program, and friend request after friend request poured in from long time friends and family members, and then I felt stuck back into fb-land....

[Maven]

I don't share my FB page with people here, because I like the feeling of privacy I have (even knowing that a smart hacker--or even an amateur one, probably--could find out plenty about me if s/he knew how). I actually did share with one person here, and that's worked out fine, but I am still leery of doing it again. On FB itself, I am friends with lots of people I don't know in real life. Some of them are favorite authors, celebrities, organizations, and others who share my views (and some who don't), but I rarely ask for a person's friendship on the site, because a couple of times, FB has logged me out, so the next time I came on, I got a warning (because someone whose friendship I requested turned me down) that you're not supposed to request friendship of people you don't know in real life. Really? Do you think that FB and most other social media sites are made up of only people who know each other in real life? People have "friended" me and I them (again, rarely), but I wouldn't have nearly the fun, interesting chat and fun debates if I hadn't connected with some of these people. I am somewhat careful; I don't put my hometown or schools/colleges I've attended on the site. I am not as careful as I should be, I'll admit, but apparently more careful than many, because I see lots of people who list where they are, what schools/colleges they attend(ed) and even where they work.

FB is fun, but I'm seriously overwhelmed by all the social media stuff there is to do (including here), and I don't want to quit, but I also want to get things done and make some dreams come true, which, if I'm honest with myself, means giving up (at least for a while) this socialization.