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Old Feb 08, 2014, 12:29 AM
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My whole life, I seem to have picked the wrong people to befriend or love. It always ends badly, so these days I only have one real friend who I can say anything to. She's had her fair share of problems as well, but when I go off the rails a bit, so far she hasn't abandoned me and promises me she would never do that.

It took me a long time to totally trust her, but I think she's a "lifer" unless her smoking and excessive drinking destroys her health. I'm always so scared that she'll get cancer or drop dead of a heart attack, then I'll be left totally alone again.

Sorry if that sounds a little selfish, but I really don't know what I'd do without my friend!
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Old Feb 08, 2014, 04:10 PM
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nope.

everyone i thought at the time may be a real friend ends up not staying close to me at all when my illness is bad.

gave up ages ago though. i've not had real friends i don't think, ever. i don't know what it feels like
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Old Feb 08, 2014, 04:17 PM
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Urrrrrrgh! Define 'real' friends. I have such issues with this!

Firstly, yes, I do have a partner and they are the most wonderful person on the planet. I'm so bloody lucky and I know it....but friendship is a different thing and I have found, more perilous.

I used to have this really close internet friend, who I thought completely understood me and knew who I was. Until of course they betrayed me in the worst possible way and I realised, probably they never did. It was a huge blow, because I'm so private, anyway, who the hell else could I trust?

Do I have friends around me who care? Sure. Can they actually relate to me? No. And *that* is the part I find difficult, because right now, what I need in this period of my life is to be understood and not made to feel as though I have to put on a mask just to be around people. I've stopped believing in my more superficial friends. And truthfully, I find it so hard to believe I'll ever have a deep friendship again.
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Old Feb 08, 2014, 04:22 PM
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Urrrrrrgh! Define 'real' friends. I have such issues with this!

Firstly, yes, I do have a partner and they are the most wonderful person on the planet. I'm so bloody lucky and I know it....but friendship is a different thing and I have found, more perilous.

I used to have this really close internet friend, who I thought completely understood me and knew who I was. Until of course they betrayed me in the worst possible way and I realised, probably they never did. It was a huge blow, because I'm so private, anyway, who the hell else could I trust?

Do I have friends around me who care? Sure. Can they actually relate to me? No. And *that* is the part I find difficult, because right now, what I need in this period of my life is to be understood and not made to feel as though I have to put on a mask just to be around people. I've stopped believing in my more superficial friends. And truthfully, I find it so hard to believe I'll ever have a deep friendship again.
totally agree mate xxx
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Old Feb 08, 2014, 08:55 PM
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Yes, I have wonderful friends---but most are too far away to hug on a regular basis.

Distance, however, does not diminish my feelings for them.
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Old Feb 10, 2014, 09:59 AM
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i have a really good friend since last ten years. i love her company
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Old Feb 10, 2014, 09:11 PM
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My best friend unfortunatelly is now living in another city... But we manage to talk as much as we can online and by phone and meet so often. I miss the time when we met everyday, and I really don't know what I'd do without her sometimes.
In college I'd say I'm managing to have a few friends, one of them becoming quite a close one.. Usually I try to talk to everyone, but I don't know if it's for my 'bad days' some people seem to prefer to keep some distance...
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Old Feb 11, 2014, 11:22 AM
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Do you have any "real" friends... In addition to your partner or spouse if you have one?
I have 4 people that I can call 'real' friends, other than my family and significant other. I don't talk to these people everyday or even every month sometimes: but no matter what, once we talk or hang out it's like we never spent time apart to begin with. They are more like my family than some of my true family, honestly. But then again I don't talk to half of my family so...
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Old Feb 11, 2014, 11:56 AM
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I wish I had friends. I always marveled at tv shows where people would drop by friend's apartments and hang out. Or call and say "meet me here". Girl's day, shopping and lunch sounds like so much fun.

The last two times I met a lady my age whom I thought we would get along snubbed me. Each lady went as far as to trade phone and emails. One, I invited by email to go get coffee, never even replied. The newest friend possibility has yet to email me, I'm afraid to do it first now.

So, no, I do not have friends, I guess I don't know how.
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Old Feb 11, 2014, 12:39 PM
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Hello my new friend! You are not alone so don't feel like you have no friends. My story is the same. If its alright with you i am going to pm you.

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