Friends

Fuzzybear · 03:53 PM

Do you have any "real" friends... In addition to your partner or spouse if you have one?

I think I can safely say I do have some real friends.... And also that I don't carelessly or callously throw anyone away as everybody deserves kindness. I'm grateful for the life lessons I've had from people I used to call friend who I no longer do... I'm a wiser and better person because of all my experiences.

(not anyone on pc. You're my family here, those I know or am getting to know so hope you can tolerate my ramblings

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I'm also grateful in a sense for the IRL T I saw some time ago who turned out to be less than kind at times. Maybe I needed that negative transference experience to see how I sometimes got things wrong, wasn't clear, misread people etc...

and... I did love him before he turned mean. so it hurt all the more

Love and peace to all here

Rohag · Feb 01, 2014, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Do you have any "real" friends... In addition to your partner or spouse if you have one?

Yes. Depression and distance separated me from all my acquaintances but left me a couple of friends. Participating here thankfully opened the door to new friendships.

IchbinkeinTeufel · Feb 01, 2014, 07:00 PM

I'm single, but yeah, I have "real" friends, ... or should I say "friend". I used to have more of that, but I had some sort of breakdown, if you can call it that, and threw my social life in the trash; better off without the sort of idiots I was hanging out with, TBF. My best mate is brilliant, though; we usually refer to each other as brothers, because that's how we are. xD There's some friends online, but IDK if that comes under how you see "real" as.

Marla500 · Feb 01, 2014, 08:43 PM

I have a few good friends at work, but I think they are all like me and dont hang out much with other people except their families. people stress me out, still not entirely sure why, but there's only so much time I can spend with other people before I feel worn out. and how do you explain that to someone? that's the hard part. I like you but you wear me out...I think most people don't understand it, then they get tired of being your friend because they need to hang out with someone else all the time.

IcryWhoAmI · Feb 02, 2014, 12:47 PM

I have no friends. Literally none.

Feb 02, 2014, 12:55 PM

The Skeezyks has no friends...

danvb · Feb 02, 2014, 04:03 PM

Aside from the one person that knows me better than I know myself, NOPE! No friends.

Over the years I got tired of always giving more than I ever got in return... their expectations and demands on my time and energy... their lack of depth. I'm not one to live on the surface...

I have several good acquaintances... But they are "on the surface" friends... That is, "friends" so long as they find it convenient to be friendly.

Dan

ResaLock · Feb 02, 2014, 04:14 PM

I have no friends. No family either. One of my worst enemies is my only acquaintance. I ust talk to people on line...
I guess they're more like imaginary acquaintances. Nothings real...

sorry to be a damper on things...

..but thanks for sharing your life with your friends. I find it enjoyable to hear about other peoples relationship with their friends, family etc.

Sabrina · Feb 03, 2014, 02:45 AM

My husband is my best friend and I recently reconnected with a friend from 23 years ago. We have become great texting buddies and I hope to see her in March as we live in different cities. I consider one or two members here good friends.

gayleggg · Feb 03, 2014, 10:51 AM

I have one best friend. One that will even call and check on me if she hasn't from me in while. Unfortunately, she is in the medical hospital recovering from her latest suicide attempt. She will never be totally well again as this attempt damaged her kidneys and the nerves in her legs and feet. She may not be able to walk again. I went to visit her this weekend and she is in bad shape and scared. She is the only one I have that cares enough to even check on me. I have other aquaintences that are "friends" but never take time to check on me.

I'm thankful I've made so many on PC, it helps to get through this difficult time with my friend, who still doesn't want to live and I can't do anything to change that.

manwithnofriends · Feb 03, 2014, 02:07 PM

You guessed it.

gettinby · Feb 03, 2014, 03:03 PM

I have a few friends. Its not a word I toss around. I have alot of paranoid tendencies I guess. I know a lot of people but I don't leave my house very often. Its my safe zone. If I cant trust someone I don't go around them if I can help it. But the real friends I do have are great and caring people and understand me.

skyler143 · Feb 03, 2014, 03:33 PM

I can honestly say that due to my disabled life and being the caregiver for my elderly mom, that it really sucks, but i don't have any friends. Not one. I am a very outgoing person and can talk to anyone about anything, but i just can't seem to find friends. Or,i just don't have the time to look. My children were my best friends, and they passed away a few years back, within a year of each other, at the ages of 16 and 21. Then my husband died a year after that. So i guess i am kind of stuck in the past. But, i am so thankful to have found pc and get the opportunity to meet real friends for life!

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skyler143 · Feb 03, 2014, 04:26 PM

I am on that island with you friend. Since we have no one else, lets just be each others friends!

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healingme4me · Feb 03, 2014, 05:29 PM

I have two really good friends, one from childhood, the other from college. I have a couple other friends, closer to home, so yes, is the answer, to the question.

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danvb · Feb 03, 2014, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by danvb

Aside from the one person that knows me better than I know myself, NOPE! No friends.

Over the years I got tired of always giving more than I ever got in return... their expectations and demands on my time and energy... their lack of depth. I'm not one to live on the surface...

I have several good acquaintances... But they are "on the surface" friends... That is, "friends" so long as they find it convenient to be friendly.

Dan

Furthermore...

... I probably don't make a very good friend myself. I usually come across as arrogant and haughty... even though I'm neither of those things. Thus, no friends... which is really a shame because I'm actually a rather nice chap.

Dan

Espresso · Feb 03, 2014, 06:18 PM

No, I don't really have friends. There's the wife of my husband's friend, but we don't do much. I've lost touch with all my old friends from high school and college.

Webgoji · Feb 04, 2014, 07:16 PM

I have friends outside my marriage. A couple of guys and I are going to Robocop next week and my best friend I've known for ... carry the 2 ... divide by pi ... 32 years.

IchbinkeinTeufel · Feb 04, 2014, 09:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by danvb

Aside from the one person that knows me better than I know myself, NOPE! No friends.

Over the years I got tired of always giving more than I ever got in return... their expectations and demands on my time and energy... their lack of depth. I'm not one to live on the surface...

I have several good acquaintances... But they are "on the surface" friends... That is, "friends" so long as they find it convenient to be friendly.

Dan

Totally relate to that.

gloamingone · Feb 06, 2014, 05:47 PM

Some acquaintances, but other than my boyfriend and my ex-husband, no friends. I've lived most of my life this way, and it gets very lonely at times.

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atomicc · Feb 06, 2014, 06:41 PM

My best friend is my boyfriend, but I also have a girl best friend who is amazing and we see each other often.,I have another friend who I've been friends with for about eight years, we're not insanely close now but we still see each other.

Feb 07, 2014, 07:24 AM

I have some amazing friends. My ex therapist and I are friends.

pudica · Feb 07, 2014, 09:53 AM

I had friends when I was still studying but not any more. Pretty much close to a recluse these days if not already one. The only people I talk to are my parents but the relationship isn't good either.

JadeAmethyst · Feb 07, 2014, 05:21 PM

I have made some pretty questionable "friendship" choices, so no real friends. It is partly my personality though, and I understand this. Basically, I enjoy being who I am, my dogs and family....and the folks here on pc are my real life friends. This is plenty at the moment.
good posts!

08:38 PM

I've just one true friend atm who's here with me right now. Been pretty caring & supportive of me & I feel like I also did the same for my friend although we live in the opposite corners of the world & have never seen each other the whole time(been more than 8 months now) & there's very little to no possibility that we'll ever meet or see each other in real life but still the way we care & look for each other is amazing & I'd say there's some what spiritual element involve in it too. We forewarn each other too about the problems that are about to happen with us which is pretty unbelievable if you ask me. I know its useless to mention it when people are far way from spirituality but it works for me.
Any way, I'm a friendly person in general & open to new friendships & has never shunned any one unless it's something conflicting. I put a lot of effort in my friendships & try to make it work & last. I've learned from my experience that distances doesn't matter in friendships. Some times people you may have never seen or talked to in real life might end up being the closest to you & its also the other way around as most of us including myself can relate to it as well.

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