[Jenni855]

I have a sister who is mentally ill and once tried ending her life. I didn't tell anyone at work until months later when I told a colleague who I thought was a friend in a text. They didn't reply even though I saw them in work all week using their phone and texting. Eventually they did come and see me to talk about it but it was strwined and she changed the subject quickly and definitely pulled away a lot from me. Things havent been the same since
Has anyone else encountered this from family, friends and co workers when talking about your own or a family member,friend or partners mentwl illness? How did you feel?

[Silent Void]

I never discuss it with anyone but family. People are a**holes about it.

[Jenni855]

Yes, learnt that too late. My problem was and is that my family were unaccepting of her problems and wanted to deny there was anything wrong. I was so lonely and desperate I reached out for some support. Wish I never had now.

[Karchaman]

Unfortunately yes.......be careful who you tell......and never put this type of info in a text.

[Silent Void]

Jenni

[Jenni855]

Karchmann, it was a weak moment what can I say. I had nobody to help me and I did something i now regret

[BeaFlower]

I'm sorry for what happened You can talk with me or other people here if you need support. Hope that you find support also in real life. Maybe there are other friends or coworkers that would listen to you more. Hugs

[loophole]

Originally Posted by Jenni855

Yes, learnt that too late. My problem was and is that my family were unaccepting of her problems and wanted to deny there was anything wrong. I was so lonely and desperate I reached out for some support. Wish I never had now.

Not to cause you grief... but a text message is really a bad place to put that... that's a face to face conversation. ..... your friend just may be clueless what to say.. also they may not know for sure if u want them to say much of anything since it was in a text.... I don't mean to drudge up old thoughts. .. or rethink yourself....

[Jenni855]

It isnt nice to completely ignore me though is it without saying anything surely? At the least a 'Got your text, is there anything i can do?"would have been what a friend should do.

[loophole]

While I do agree entirely with you...... some people are clueless how to handle these things.. I don't mean to stick up for your friend.... my wife's grandpa is literally dieing in the hospital as we speak.. I don't have a clue how to deal with this stuff never have.... I'm bipolar.. the few times I dealt with it in my family I just never spoke of it at all... and became for angry inside...

[loophole]

I'm sure my wife wants and needs support.. I just have no clue how to show it......

[possum220]

Family and friends can have many varied responses to things that happen. Hopefully you will learn who is safe and who isn't. There are times and places to talk. Communication is much more about what is verbal. If you are talking with a person face to face it is easier to see how a person is responding be it positive or negative.

May you find the safe people in your life.

[Sameer6]

Originally Posted by Jenni855

I have a sister who is mentally ill and once tried ending her life. I didn't tell anyone at work until months later when I told a colleague who I thought was a friend in a text. They didn't reply even though I saw them in work all week using their phone and texting. Eventually they did come and see me to talk about it but it was strwined and she changed the subject quickly and definitely pulled away a lot from me. Things havent been the same since
Has anyone else encountered this from family, friends and co workers when talking about your own or a family member,friend or partners mentwl illness? How did you feel?

In one of the videos i have where Actor Will Smith says that when you have a problem,people recognize you less.He is 100 % right.I know about that.

[Jenni855]

Personally I just don't think it is the right way for a friend or for someone who claims to care to act. Like I say, all it would have took would have been a 'Is there anything I can do?" Being ignored really hurt me.
Anyway, at least I know now she cant be trusted.

[healingme4me]

Stinks you still have to work, with her. Do, you both socialize, outside of work?
In times of struggle, we learn who our true friends are. Old saying.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Fear, not knowing what to say, and lack of understanding/knowledge makes it difficult, I guess.

[Jenni855]

I do get that Zwang, it is hard knowing what to say but it hurt that she just ignored me and didn't just say something, anything. It was so hsrd for me to do in the first place

Healing-i keep my distance now and I know she sees me differently. Like you say, you learn who your real friends are in times of need. I was always there for her so it hurts she couldn't be there for me. Thanks for understanding x

[loophole]

I e come to realize people are inherently weird... normal doesn't exist really... yes disorders and weird are not the same.. but everyone is weird... I heard a story yesterday about real life people we know being super "weird" with their kids.... I thought it was nuts they think it's normal and.good.... thats.just how.the world is.... sort of off topic.. sorry

[glok]

Sorry, Jenni855. I wish you well.

[Jenni855]

Thanks for the kind thoughts.