[JosieJoy]

So, this Sunday is Mother's Day in my state..and i wonder if some of you guys also having it or already having the day with your mother...i questioned, what will you do or what did you do with your mother before or during the day?

Originally Posted by JosieJoy

So, this Sunday is Mother's Day in my state..and i wonder if some of you guys also having it or already having the day with your mother...i questioned, what will you do or what did you do with your mother before or during the day?

mothers day in the UK is earlier on in the year, and i only just recently found out that the US/ canada have it in may

i didn't do anything on mothers day, as me and my mother arn't close at all.

[Blue_Bird]

I usually got my mom a card, gift, and a nice meal either ordered out or cooked by me. My mom died couple months ago though so it's just a hard time

[nonightowl]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

mothers day in the UK is earlier on in the year, and i only just recently found out that the US/ canada have it in may

i didn't do anything on mothers day, as me and my mother arn't close at all.

Thank you for posting this. I don't know how it is in the UK but I hate how in the US they shove these artificial, overly commercialized "holidays" down our throats. The media is making this a WEEKEND, saying "Mother's Day Weekend" like it's a legal holiday like Memorial Day.

They never stop to think how some people's mother may be deceased, may have been (or still is) abusive, may be distant, etc.

The US touts individualism but seems to forget we ARE individuals. Not everyone has a life or relationships like a Hallmark commercial. Speaking of which, think how much money the greeting card and flower companies make on days like this when they tell people to get a card or gift to show how much you love mom.

I'm not close to my mother either and never have been. Not for lack of trying, but she either does not want a real relationship or doesn't know how to have one. I've given up. I'm 54 years old yet she doesn't know anything about me. And that works both ways.

We are like oil and water: They don't mix. Like oil, she's "lighter" and prefers to stay on the surface. Like water, I like to go deeper, so I sink down to the bottom (like water being the heavier of the two) while the oil floats to the top.

I'm not going to even listen to the radio all weekend since they keep reminding me about Mother's Day and telling me to go get that "perfect" gift. My mom doesn't even talk to me hardly.

[Chimo]

Hi Josie, in the past my mom dad me and my brother would go out to brunch on MOther's Day and then give her her cards and presents. Then my dad would either grill (if it was nice out) or we would all cook a very nice dinner. Now though my mom and dad retired to North Carolina and we don't have the chance to go down and see them on mothers day. So me my brother and my sister in law sent flowers down there and she had gotten them Yesterday. She knows we are thinking of her anyway. I also call my mom on mothers day around 1pm to hear her voice.

[LiteraryLark]

Before I talk about my mother's day plans, I want to just come clean emotionally about something.

I believe it was Father's Day a few years ago, and my brother and I did absolutely nothing special for my Dad. Normally, I bedazzle the envelope with balloons and multi-colored highlighted confetti, but we slapped "Dad" on and didn't seal the envelope. In the card, we wrote a one-liner "have a nice father's day". We didn't get him anything special either. I could tell my Dad was seriously hurt by this, and this is something I always remember just seeing how hurt my Dad was by the lack of effort to make his day special. I am super close to my Dad, and I pride myself in putting others first, and maybe he has forgotten about it, but to me every big holiday I remember the look of absolute heartache on my Dad's face and how unloved he had felt, so now I make sure that every big holiday I do something above and beyond special for my family.

So, back to Mother's Day. I just finished making chocolate covered strawberries and red licorice sticks with sprinkles on top. I ended up buying way too much chocolate chips to melt. I bought three bags because online it said I'd need twice as much, but I used one bag of melted chocolate chips and that was enough for everything. I also bought brownies to make but now I'm thinking it's too much. I won a basket filled with goodies at the junior college's community day that I'm giving her as well as a purple summer kimono robe. I hope it fits her.

[Yoda]

I bought my mom some PJs and a card that I will give her tomorrow. Maybe bring breakfast biscuits depending on what my sister has planned for food.

Today my son said he hasn't got me anything for mother's day. Nothing.

Earlier in the week he asked what I wanted and I suggested making me a card and he said he didn't feel inspired. So I suggested he buy a plant or flowers where he works and I said I really like the ferns they have.

My feelings are hurt. I don't matter.

His birthday is in four days and I was going to order him an ice cream cake from Baskin Robbins and take him out to a nice dinner and buy him a steak. I have several small gifts plus I was going to give him cash to buy video games but now I don't even care. No cake, no cash and I will choose just one of the gifts to give him.

Like they say, it's the thought that counts and my son clearly doesn't think much of me.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by Yoda

I bought my mom some PJs and a card that I will give her tomorrow. Maybe bring breakfast biscuits depending on what my sister has planned for food.

Today my son said he hasn't got me anything for mother's day. Nothing.

Earlier in the week he asked what I wanted and I suggested making me a card and he said he didn't feel inspired. So I suggested he buy a plant or flowers where he works and I said I really like the ferns they have.

My feelings are hurt. I don't matter.

His birthday is in four days and I was going to order him an ice cream cake from Baskin Robbins and take him out to a nice dinner and buy him a steak. I have several small gifts plus I was going to give him cash to buy video games but now I don't even care. No cake, no cash and I will choose just one of the gifts to give him.

Like they say, it's the thought that counts and my son clearly doesn't think much of me.

I'm so sorry to hear that. It reminds me of how my Dad felt when I disappointed him on Father's Day. It's a heartbreaking feeling for both parties. How old is your son? Maybe he is surprising you with something? That is truly hurtful.

EDIT: From the sound of you giving him cash for video games, he sounds like a teenager. He may be struggling with money. I am 23 and I asked my Dad for money to help with Mother's Day gifts and treats because I am in between jobs and I am struggling with money. If he is working minimum wage, then he may not be able to afford a gift and he may be ashamed that he can't give you something. But I don't know the situation.

[Yoda]

Thanks, LiteraryLark.

Unfortunately it is only me that is heartbroken. My son is 26 years old and works part time in KMart. He has over $3000 in the bank. He lives with me and I only ask that he help pay for gasoline and food but he contributes little.

I don't even know what to say to him.

[LiteraryLark]

I made these for my mom

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by Yoda

Thanks, LiteraryLark.

Unfortunately it is only me that is heartbroken. My son is 26 years old and works part time in KMart. He has over $3000 in the bank. He lives with me and I only ask that he help pay for gasoline and food but he contributes little.

I don't even know what to say to him.

You should certainly say something. Don't bottle it up. It's your house, your rules. After all you've given him, he is basically a freeloader. It doesn't hurt to show a little appreciation especially on Mother's Day FFS!

[SilverNeurotic]

I called and wished my Mom Happy Mother's Day, I work all day tomorrow and live in another state so no chance of spending the day with her. She is going to breakfast with my sisters and my niece (my brother's little girl).

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[doyoutrustme]

my mom is a hard core narcissist. i choose to avoid drama and got her a card and small gift. sometimes i just ignore "mothers" day

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

I made these for my mom

I taste-tested the licorice...Mmmmmmm....must refrain from having more....xD

[Crazy Hitch]

Yup ... Mother's Day here in Australia too today.

Taking my kids out to a Thai Restaurant for dinner tonight.

[likewater]

Originally Posted by doyoutrustme

my mom is a hard core narcissist. i choose to avoid drama and got her a card and small gift. sometimes i just ignore "mothers" day

My mom is paranoid. One time my sister sent her flowers and she said she knew we poisoned them. Our mom is also really violent and mean. I will call my sister bcuz she's a mom and celebrate the moms at church. Still a.rough day especially bcuz I can't have kids.

Originally Posted by nonightowl

Thank you for posting this. I don't know how it is in the UK but I hate how in the US they shove these artificial, overly commercialized "holidays" down our throats. The media is making this a WEEKEND, saying "Mother's Day Weekend" like it's a legal holiday like Memorial Day.

They never stop to think how some people's mother may be deceased, may have been (or still is) abusive, may be distant, etc.

The US touts individualism but seems to forget we ARE individuals. Not everyone has a life or relationships like a Hallmark commercial. Speaking of which, think how much money the greeting card and flower companies make on days like this when they tell people to get a card or gift to show how much you love mom.

I'm not close to my mother either and never have been. Not for lack of trying, but she either does not want a real relationship or doesn't know how to have one. I've given up. I'm 54 years old yet she doesn't know anything about me. And that works both ways.

We are like oil and water: They don't mix. Like oil, she's "lighter" and prefers to stay on the surface. Like water, I like to go deeper, so I sink down to the bottom (like water being the heavier of the two) while the oil floats to the top.

I'm not going to even listen to the radio all weekend since they keep reminding me about Mother's Day and telling me to go get that "perfect" gift. My mom doesn't even talk to me hardly.

yeah, same in the UK.. it's always shoved down everyone's throat, and it's always a weekend

mothers day weekend, fathers day weekend, valentines weekend, do you know.. i hate the lot of them

just regular days for me

mother- not close

father- never met

and i don't have a valentine

[JosieJoy]

Aww, don't worry. Maybe you try to get along a bit with your mother maybe you two both can still celebrate for next year's Mother's Day

[JosieJoy]

Oh no...i really sorry for your mom though..and i hope she's a very good mother for you because you have bring lots of effort taking care of her...but still you have to stay your spirits up to continue moving forward your life..just remember that your mother always be there in your heart

[JosieJoy]

Well, at least you've tried to talk to her, right..? I don't know why some mothers didn't really want to communicate to their own children instead other children...

[JosieJoy]

Daww, that is the sweetest gift you ever give to your mom during Mother's Day

Actually, my mom also got a bouquet of flowers from my two sisters that lives far away from our home few days ago it she was surprised and blessed

[JosieJoy]

Well, i hope you and your family will gonna have a very special bonding together even better in the nearest future and hopefully your father felt loved too

Wow, that's a lot of gift you're making for her and i think she's gonna love that kimono robe ^^

[JosieJoy]

That one super looking tasty treat for your mom~!

[JosieJoy]

Well, i don't know how to say but i hope your son realize about a value in life between him and you...how about try to talk to him personal?

[LiteraryLark]

I am super happy that I could make my mom's day extra special. We had pina coladas and watched Top Gun while munching on chocolate dipped licorice sticks (that I made myself). She loved her presents and now my family is watching Seven Samurai and ate the chocolate dipped strawberries I made. <3