Mother's Day is coming~

I'm in the group of individuals that have deceased moms. I'm a giver more so than a taker. My children began the weekend on Thursday by hand selecting little gifts. I have one homemade card made at school. My oldest didn't have cash to buy the plants for sale at school. One of my friends declared it a pj day for herself. Just quiet pampering as it's the first without her mom. We had takeout and a quiet day. A ritual that I nearly forgot was having lobster. My mom loved lobster. Yesterday was a fluke because the restaurant that we ordered from was chosen for me. It wasn't on the menu. It used to be. I asked, although I had a backup option. I actually made the lobster about me instead of my mom, which signifies a growth. It's been 6 years since my mom passed away. It's understood that I need a little alone time. I found out that my paternal gram used to like being alone. My stepmom told me that my dad would take off on her because he assumed that's the norm. Her mom died when she was 16. My dad missed the point.

I think it's important to honor good moms even though it points out the bad situations (either bad moms or thoughtless kids). That's just something that is a by-product of things like this but it doesn't mean that the good situations shouldn't be honored.

I lost my phone several weeks ago & haven't been able to find it or get another one set up at the phone company. My daughter only does texting & without a phone, didn't hear from her. She used to send flowers but ended up spending money she didn't have. I told her it would be more of a gift to me for her to not get deeper into debt trying to buy things. She lives 1/2way across the country from me & neither of us have money to spend on travel or things though I have a box of things to send from all the holidays this year I haven't had a chance to get sent off either. I know she cares & loves me & she knows I care & love her with out the THINGS to show it. That's just the season of life we are in right now.

Thanks for letting me know it's not just the U.S.

It's literally "in your face" if you happen to go to the store on such a "weekend." Last week I had to go grocery shopping. Right by the door is all the flowers, balloons, cards, candy etc., they want you to buy.

I was also thinking why don't we also have a Daughter's Day, Son's Day, Niece's Day, etc. Turn the tables on them a bit, let them see how it feels to hear endless pitches to "get that perfect gift and show how much you care" to someone who doesn't talk to you.

I'm so relieved this "weekend" is over. Even the weather forecast pointed out what "holiday" was yesterday and how the weather will be great for you and mom. SO painful for me. Thank goodness it's over, at least for another year (which goes way too fast for me now). I can now watch/listen to the weather and news again......I figured if something is important enough, the EAS (Emergency Alert System) will break in to programming. I always have either the radio or TV on, so I won't miss it.

I listened to Bollywood music all weekend. I never did before and found it festive and energizing. Certainly different. I stumbled onto it, looking for a news station I haven't listened to in years. It was sold to a foreign language media company. Not a single WORD on Mother's Day since it's an American/UK thing.

I hate Valentine's Day too. If it falls on a Friday or Monday, it's a "weekend." All it does is remind me that nobody loves me. The only good thing about it is that the chocolate is on sale just before the day or even that week, since they need to clear it out for Easter candy.

JosieJoy, sorry if this thread was meant to be a cheerful one without the "Debbie Downer" stuff. But this subject is something I feel so strongly about I had to vent.

nah, its fine^^ I used to be love on being celebate Valentines Day but since there's no one to say 'i heart you', i dont mind and i'm still young at this age too^^

I don't know about the UK or elsewhere, but here August is the only month without any holidays, official or "manufactured." So, it's my favorite month even though it's hot as h e l l.

Just want to say many thanks for those who put "thanks" under my ranting post. This confirms my theory that I can't be the only one who feels this way. I'm not alone after all and PC is my only outlet.