Would You Go to Your High School Class Reunion?

Hell no, I hated high school, it was not a good time for me.

Not just no, but H E L L NO!

The one person I would want to see from back then I still see. I spent Christmas with her family.

I didn't care much for the rest of them back then. I doubt I'd care about them now. My high school years are a huge coal black dark time in my life. We had daily riots my junior and senior years. I was a socially awkward outcast. Let's not forget I was the daughter of the town drunk and all the demeaning shyte that went with that. I didn't even go to my high school graduation. By then I was working and just wanted to get out of the f'ing place.

I do have one post-graduation story that's sort of funny in a bitter way. I took all sorts of deridement in high school over the fact that I planned to attend a state school. I knew I was going to have to pay for it myself and state school was what I could afford. The others looked down on me because they were going to attend Ivy league or Big Ten schools or the naval academy. A few years later, while busting my hump to get through state college I found out the snobs either flunked out or got kicked out of the big name schools. I'm wicked enough that I got a chuckle out of it.

For those of you who have gone and enjoyed it. Good for you. My not wanting to go isn't about holding grudges. It's that I didn't like those people back then. Why would I like them now?

@ the OP. Regardless, what the rest of us say, if you want to go, then go. If you don't want to, stay home and do something you enjoy.

No I would not.

I have not been to any of my high school reunions. I really do not like the person I was back then. Seeing people would just remind me. I have kept in touch with some of my old friends and that is enough.

No. When I do see people in the real world that I haven't seen for is a while they will ask questions. Are you married? Do you have any kids? Where am I working? It just feels like picking my way through some kind of mine field and tends to reinforce the failure that I already dogs me.

I would never attend a school reunion

that is a closed chapter of my life

Depends on my state of mind.
Feeling bad towards life - no.
Feeling good towards life - perhaps I will.

I went to my 10 year reunion and had intentions on going to my 20th a few years ago, but things just didn't work out.

No. Just no....

We were babies in high school. Nothing happened. Just teen baby stuff. It would be so boring. I have stayed in touch with those I wanted to. Also, some people die and I wouldn't want to know. Would rather just remember us all as we were back then as dumb, fresh-faced, babies...

I thought I was too cool for Prom and didn't go when in HS. I didn't bother going to my 10 year, I was giving birth during my 20 year. I have all my HS friends on my fb and we have been having a virtual reunion anyway.

I had a promiscuous phase in HS and thought I would be embarrassed to face those guys again, but I'm not. Nobody cares about that. In fact I got complimented about what a hottie I was 'and still are'

Absolutely not!!!! I'm on the "missing" list. People have even contacted my family members on FB to try & find me. That's ludicrous!!

I went to 10, 20, and 25. It was a very healing and fun experience. I was carrying old hurts and resentments and this really helped me to move on. People have a way of growing out of their meanness and social superiority. I found that I was a lot more comfortable in my skin and I've made friends because of it.

I would encourage many, not all, but many people to take the chance and attend.

I had lunch with two of my closest friends from high school yesterday. They don't want to go to the reunion either. The planning committee picked the most expensive place in town, as did last year's 50 year reunion committee. The price wouldn't bother me, but all they had last year was hamburgers, polish sausage, and bratwurst! I'm more of a vegetarian, but you would expect better food than that at the elegant country club they chose.

Get yourself on the next reunion planning committee so you can voice your input. That's what I did

If the situation allows, I'd go. Those 1 1/2 years of my high school period is kinda good compared to my other school years - which I won't go if any reunion planned.

Nearly entire last month I accompanied my mom visiting her school friends which they haven't met for nearly 30+ years. Watching their conversation, I can see how much it means to my mom.

Maybe if the situation presented itself? The last one though, I couldn't make although I saw the photos. I've seen a couple of people that I've gone to school with during these past couple of years, half the time I am not recognized. The pictures from the last one showed plenty of alcohol. It is in theory part my responsiblity to see to an arrangement of one by virtue of the one person that is supposed to is mia. Some of us have kids in school together and are nearby but several key people live out of state and returning is one of those people, places, things, things.
As far as the exbf, I could handle it at this point. Finally the discomfort of it all wore off. He's still who he is though, all my female friends remain friends with him along with many more. One of these friends tagged him when I had a recent of me profile pic. Ha!! Sweet justice

But like I've written, too many miles for many, too many memories for others and too much alcohol for the rest of us.

Sometimes there's a spontaneous gathering, but like many around me...kids keep us all tied up.

No. I've never been to a reunion. I was also "too cool" for prom. Had a full time job and volunteered at the hospital.
My best friend killed herself.
My boyfriend got another girl pregnant ( cuz I wouldn't do " it". )
Plus I graduated in 3 years instead of 4.
I would attend a grammar school reunion. If there was such a thing. I went to a private school and was tight with all of the girls. But that was in Wisconsin. We moved to California

No. I've never been to a reunion. I was also "too cool" for prom. Had a full time job and volunteered at the hospital.
My best friend killed herself.
My boyfriend got another girl pregnant ( cuz I wouldn't do " it". )
Plus I graduated in 3 years instead of 4.
I would attend a grammar school reunion. If there was such a thing. I went to a private school and was tight with all of the girls. But that was in Wisconsin. We moved to California

Absolutely not. My 'friends' dumped me after I was hospitalized at the age of 16 for depression. High school wasn't a pleasant time in my life, so why would I put myself through it again?

I went to a very small special education school that was k-12 and only had about 60 students in the entire school, mostly males. My graduating "class" consisted of me and 4 boys. In many ways I'm glad I didn't have to experience all the social events and drama that comes with mainstream school. Just not my thing.

I am 54 and never married or had kids either. I have a dog and a cat and also cared for my mom when she was dying. I don't go to reunions. I was bullied a lot in school and am glad to be away from all that garbage. It is just a popularity contest anyway just so the people can brag how great they are, how wonderful their kids are, how much money they make, how big of a house they have. I don't need that.

I'm also 54. Popularity contest- absolutely not true! I live below the poverty line and all of my high school friends are financially very comfortable. I've been on reunion committees, attended reunions, and no one ever said a word about how well off they are, or how big their house is, the car they drive, or anything else like that. I strongly suspect that many people watch too many movies about reunions, but have not actually experienced reunions themselves. I've never felt in any way disrespected at a reunion because I am not as successful as my friends are. There was never anything but caring and love among my friends and I, and that remains.

What you have posted here, about taking care of your mom- that would most likely be the very thing your former high school peers would focus on.

Maybe in your school things are different but from the people I have talked to who have gone and stuff this is what I know to be fact.

Okay, but you have not experienced a reunion yourself. Maybe you're hearing the worst of the reunion, not the best of it.