Would You Go to Your High School Class Reunion?

I have a big class reunion coming up (40 years). I keep in touch with four old high school friends, and we see each other occasionally. I went to my 10 year class reunion, and that was enough. I have no interest in going to my class reunion, but some people are encouraging me to go. I don't go to my college reunions either. How do you feel about such events?

No. I would feel depressed because everyone else would earn more money than me

I have never gone to a high school reunion and I am sure I never will.
I am still in touch with a few close friends from those days and to be
honest I have no desire to see anyone else.
Plus my ex would probably be there and I have no desire to see her either.

fishin fool, that is exactly how I feel! If I keep in touch with my four closest friends from high school, why would I want to go sit among a bunch of strangers? I was very studious in high school, held a part-time job, helped out at home, took part in a couple extra-curricular activities, but was very quiet. I think I am going to pass on this event.

I'm 50 and I've been invited to a wedding of one of my former classmates where a lot of other people from school will be going. I was also quiet and studious. I never married or had kids, I just studied and worked, and am now a carer for my elderly mum while working part time. I was thinking whether or not to go and have decided not to. I don't want to remember being bullied and sad, and see other people's happy families. So I'll pass too.

Oh my goodness, LittleCat. We share so much in common! I never married or had kids either. I have a cat also. I am a caregiver for my mother too. I would pass on the wedding also.

I am never married either. I studied my *** off in school. I also take care of my mother. I have a dog

Not if my life depended on it. I was an outcast in HS for many reasons. It would take me all day to list them, so I'll be brief. If I were to go, the person I am today would just start trouble. I wouldn't be taking anyone's inevitable crap.

Sito ... Amazing. I thought I was the only one in this position. Wish I knew how to enable the "friends" icon.

I have attended several of my high school reunions. One of the most fun things I've done was to be on the reunion committee.

ALL of my friends are more well-off financially than I am. So what. No one cared - really. To my amazement, there were classmates at the reunion who had bullied me when we were young...they turned out to be really nice adults and old wounds were healed. It was wonderful to see old friends. I had fun at my reunions, and encourage others to give it a try. If you don't feel comfortable, you can always just leave.

Medusax ... I have a lot of anger too at people who bullied me when I was younger. By the way, my mother and I spend Christmas with my sister in Arkansas. It was pretty nice when we were there last month.

It's not really the done thing here. Nothing was done for my 10th Anniversary of High school and I don't know anyone older or younger than me who has had a school reunion. My school was knocked down in 2009 (6 years after I left). We were all invited to the school for a look around and a concert which I went to. Plus I wouldn't be comfortable saying I live on benefits now and have done so for 6 years :-(

@Laurie; I look at it this way..I didn't bully anyone in school. I kept to myself and just wanted to be left alone. I was approached years ago while home on vacation by a girl who "hated" me for no reason. I barely knew her even in school and she had to tell me who she was. HHiiIIIII!! Howw ArrRREE YoooUUUU???? Oh my GAHHHHD! How long has it BEEEEEEENNN???? When she told me her name my response was "Look, you hated me all through school and I am comfortable with that now so lets just can the crap, B****. Then, naturally, the hand went to the chest and she gasped in "shock" etc, etc, etc. I was happy about it...

I love it. I arrived here from Oregon, via California, via RI, where I was born and raised.

20 years has passed and no reunion...i guess they hate me so much that I wasn't invited to that either...lol...really I wouldn't go if there was one.

I won't go to my reunion. All the people that go are high rollers who drink a lot. They've kept themselves in good shape and I've gone to pot due to genetics and meds.

I totally understand. However, my life is just going by too quickly to hold onto old grudges. In my 54 years of experience, forgiveness is healthier for me than anger is. It really is. And, people change. They really do.

Another thing to keep in mind...when people go to reunions, everyone is feeling self-conscious at first. Believe me, everyone gets over it. With all the reunions I've been to, I have never, in any way, experienced anyone being judgmental. Not at all.

I went to the grist 2 reunions. We had a class of 1000 kids that I wasn't close with anyone but knew many so went just out of curiosity & I had just started my computer engineering career so there was probably a little gotta show them in there also. First 10 year was in 1980. I went to my 20 year one too just to see what those that went looked like.

Depression hit 4 years later & never was in a good state to go again. Then I moved clear across the states, over 2100 miles after leaving my H but couldn't afford the cost to get back there in 2010 (40 year reunion) though via the Internet it was fun staying in contact with some. I am a whole different person now than I was in high school. One guy said he had a crush on me but was afraid to let me know because I was so shy....lol...definitely NOT that now. Funny because I had a crush on him too.

Doubt I will go to the 50 year reunion either in 2020 but it might be interesting. I'm still in about the same shape I was in in. A few extra pounds but have weighed much less also. I'm much more active & involved in life than I was back in those days when I was struggling working to be successful unlike some who just talked big. Really have no need other than curiosity to go back at this point in life. Really have nothing in common with any of them at this point in life.

I haven`t been to any of mine. I went to a joint vocational school my jr. and sr. year. There were 14 schools in the area that had kids go there. So at my regular high school, I haven`t seen 98% of them since 1983. I doubt if I will be around for our 35th. Never know though. I still talk to about 6 of them over the internet and our JVS class. Me and one other guy talk. The other 23 disappeared. I would more rather see these guys again, then my high school class.

I have no interest in going! Painfull memories!

High school was neither good nor bad. I had few friends and drifted off from each other after school. Never been to any of the reunions, because yeah...MI, meds and being on disability aren't something I want to share. My 40th is this year too and I now live back home careing for my mum too.

No way in hell...

@Laurie: Don't get me wrong..I am content most of the time;I don't think about the past until it is in front of me. I know the old adage about grudges and anger and "to forgive is divine" and all that, but in my mind there are some things that don't deserve forgiveness, and there is nothing "divine" about me. I am a mere mortal. Sorry, but in my 51 years, that is what I have learned.

I didn't particularly like most of those people back then, so I wouldn't go now. From the few I've bumped into, I was told the first one was just a bunch of the popular kids getting together and hanging out. None of my friends went. The second one was just a casual night at a pub, and again, very few people went.

IME people have an inability to understand those who don't take the expected road in life, and I really have no desire to be judged by people who are strangers to me now. I went to school with them....but that was it. None of my activities were through school (and yes I had a ton of them). So school was pretty much just...school...not much socialization.

I did. I had a very positive experience.

I was not popular when I was in school. Yet, on my return 10 years later, I was treated very well. In fact, I was asked out by one of the most popular boys. I had to decline but this and the whole experience did wonders for my confidence and self esteem. I returned to my home with the knowledge I was after all a worth while and likeable person, and had the strength to finally leave an abusive situation.

Another comment: the richy biatchy popular 'girls' hadn't changed at all. What did change was that, much to their great resentment, no one gave them any care or attention.