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Old Apr 29, 2017, 07:54 PM
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I'm meeting someone to discuss moving out! Rent is $400 in a house downtown and he's paying all utilities, etc. He said he has an 8 year old son that visits every other weekend and he is gone most of the time for work. He is okay with me smoking cigarettes and okay with me bringing my cat with me. We're meeting on Monday!!! What questions should I ask? I've never moved out before and I haven't told my parents yet and this is all new to me. I'm super nervous. But if it works out I'll be 15 minutes away from home and in my own space FINALLY! Ah!
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Old Apr 30, 2017, 06:22 AM
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Make sure that if you do rent from him, there is going to be a lease to sign and map out all the details. I would ask him if there is any space that is off limits or is there going to be rationed living room time, kitchen time, who gets to use the shower at what time. Is there any maintenance of the house that you are responsible for, such as cleaning the yard.
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Old Apr 30, 2017, 11:02 AM
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Personally I would get that he's paying all utilities in writing.
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Old Apr 30, 2017, 11:13 AM
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How is the kitchen split? refrigerator? Does he want his privacy when you're both there? He might not want to talk when he is home. Will that be a problem for you?
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Old Apr 30, 2017, 12:13 PM
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Get his real name, google it immediately. Drop a few times at the meeting that you have an uncle that is a police officer. Mention that you boyfriend is in the army or something and ask (during the privacy part) if he has a girlfriend.

He seems super agreeable so I would want to know why things are so cheap.

The entire agreement should be reduced to writing.
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Old Apr 30, 2017, 01:58 PM
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Please be very careful if you are going to living under the same roof as a perfect
stranger. You can never be to careful. The truth is that if you were my daughter
I would be very much against it just from a safety standpoint.
If you decide to do it get everything in writing like others have said.
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Old Apr 30, 2017, 09:04 PM
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Who does what cleaning? How is fridge / freezer space shared? How are you going to negotiate cooking times in the kitchen? Any restrictions on pets.

Get your name added to the lease so you have some protection.

Terms for breaking up the sharing arraingement / days notice etc. First/ Last deposit.

Get as much as you can in writing.

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